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Adult child has to make their bed before going to work

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jtyy5 · 09/12/2024 17:42

It is my parents house so I follow their rules and I have no intention of bringing this up.

I am 24 and live with my parents, it is a house rule that I have to make my bed before going to work.

Is this a silly rule or setting a good example?

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MrsMoastyToasty · 09/12/2024 17:59

After leaving the bed to air while you get washed and dressed you should make the bed. OTHERWISE MONSTERS WILL HIDE IN THE CREASES.

FannyFernackerpants · 09/12/2024 17:56

I think as an adult you should be making your bed and keeping your room generally clean and tidy.
As a parent I wouldn't impose it as a rule on my adult children.

Yikesthathurt · 09/12/2024 17:55

WhoPutTheBomp · 09/12/2024 17:44

What would happen if you didn't, and how would your parents know?

exactly. This is fucking twisted

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 09/12/2024 17:53

I refuse to make my bed in the morning. I strip the covers off and leave it to air for the day then pull it all back over when I go to bed at night. But then I'm post menopausal and still get a bit sweaty sometimes at night so I want it all to dry out properly.

You could always try telling your parents that science says that beds need to air and dry out after a night having a sweaty body in. See what they say. If they STILL insist on you making the bed, then it's controlling and possible OCD. If they see that letting a bed air could be a good thing - well then, you've won.

Comedycook · 09/12/2024 17:53

It's a good habit to get into .

I think it's fine if they're otherwise reasonable and not too controlling

irregularegular · 09/12/2024 17:53

I think it's up to you really. My DD aged 22 is living with us at the moment and I have no idea whether she makes her bed or not. I wouldn't impose rules like that. I almost never go in her room. Just shut your door?

MuddyPawsIndoors · 09/12/2024 17:52

It's not like we're living in the 1960s where everyone had a bottom sheet, a top sheet and a load of blankets to tuck in.

It takes less than a minute to straighten the sheet and duvet.

Dash0Cal · 09/12/2024 17:51

Making your bed is good. Insisting another adult makes their bed is not.

Sounds like while you live at home they still see you as a child, and maybe you still see yourself like that too. Might be time to move out.

Iloveeverycat · 09/12/2024 17:50

What happens if your door is closed do they go and inspect it. That's a bit odd.

Porcuporpoise · 09/12/2024 17:50

It's a fairly small compromise as compromises go. Living with other people always requires some compromise.

SqueamishHamish · 09/12/2024 17:49

Just be tidy. Make your bed, put away your clothes, open the window a little to air the room. It's their house, I would follow their rules (and ps my twelve year old knows to make his bed).

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 09/12/2024 17:49

IMO the bed should air for at least an hour before making it.

In any case I would certainly dislike such rules for a 24 year old. Would it really affect anyone else if you left the bed to air until you got home?

Purplecatshopaholic · 09/12/2024 17:49

I think it’s a silly rule and wouldn’t be following it myself. I’m an adult I decide about my bed! And how would they know anyway, why would they be in your room? If it doesn’t bother you then great, crack on.

HoppityBun · 09/12/2024 17:48

It’s your room and how the bedclothes are arranged is up to you. Personally, I can’t bear a bed being made unless it’s had time to air; to me that’s gross

Teenagerantruns · 09/12/2024 17:48

It's a stupid rule, l lived with adult children on and off for many years, l didn't go into thier rooms. I did have the whole, stop leaving coffee cups in your room until they turn mouldy rule.
I presume you paying rent so it's your room.
ETA I'm 58 and haven't made our bed yet today

Donkeyfromshrek · 09/12/2024 17:48

It does seem ridiculous. It is not a rule I would insist on but I guess it is the price you pay for living there.

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 17:47

Havalona · 09/12/2024 17:46

Like me, before I hop into it at night 😊

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Yes let it air all day then make it before the pre bed shower

MondayTueWed · 09/12/2024 17:47

I never went into my kids' bedrooms. I only had one rule which was if the smell of their bedroom started to seep into the hall then I'd go in and bin everything!! ;)

However your parents are different so it's their house, their rules!

2Sensitive · 09/12/2024 17:47

A bed should be made, literally takes 2 seconds.

Iloveeverycat · 09/12/2024 17:47

Do they have OCD what do you mean by make the bed if you have a duvet you just Cover the bed with it.

Soonenough · 09/12/2024 17:46

Not much to ask you to do . It is a basic of good mental health. Get up , get dressed , get out , make your bed too. Doesn't look so messy and nice for you to come home to.

AnyoneSomeone · 09/12/2024 17:46

How do they know? Do they inspect your room every day?

Havalona · 09/12/2024 17:46

GCAcademic · 09/12/2024 17:45

When else would you make your bed if not in the morning?

Like me, before I hop into it at night 😊

GCAcademic · 09/12/2024 17:45

When else would you make your bed if not in the morning?

lakesiders · 09/12/2024 17:45

How would they know? I don't tend to go in my adult children's bedrooms. I certainly wouldn't check to see if a bed has been made. They change their own sheets so it's upto them.

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