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Adult child has to make their bed before going to work

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jtyy5 · 09/12/2024 17:42

It is my parents house so I follow their rules and I have no intention of bringing this up.

I am 24 and live with my parents, it is a house rule that I have to make my bed before going to work.

Is this a silly rule or setting a good example?

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greengreyblue · 10/12/2024 07:34

Bjorkdidit · 10/12/2024 07:15

Their house, their rules. They're probably hoping you'll move out soon and wondering when they'll get their house back to enjoy as they please. Do you cause mess and disorder in shared areas?

But assuming you have a duvet it takes about 5 seconds. I'm hugely slovenly and disorganised by MN standards but even I manage to make the bed, ie pull the duvet back up every morning, while I'm getting dressed.

Unnecessarily unkind.

Bjorkdidit · 10/12/2024 07:15

Their house, their rules. They're probably hoping you'll move out soon and wondering when they'll get their house back to enjoy as they please. Do you cause mess and disorder in shared areas?

But assuming you have a duvet it takes about 5 seconds. I'm hugely slovenly and disorganised by MN standards but even I manage to make the bed, ie pull the duvet back up every morning, while I'm getting dressed.

Yikesthathurt · 10/12/2024 06:39

stargazerlil · 09/12/2024 22:14

well Maybe I was over doing it, but we sweat at night.

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Over doing it? You think? 😂

stargazerlil · 09/12/2024 22:14

kiraric · 09/12/2024 22:08

I did google and I couldn't find any credible sources saying that we sweat 3 pints overnight

This suggests 200ml - https://healthmatch.io/weight-management/how-much-weight-do-you-lose-overnight#water-weight-loss

Even that is much more than I think I do

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well Maybe I was over doing it, but we sweat at night.

kiraric · 09/12/2024 22:08

stargazerlil · 09/12/2024 22:03

We sweat at night, do we all sweat exactly 3 pints, maybe.. google it if you don’t believe it,

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I did google and I couldn't find any credible sources saying that we sweat 3 pints overnight

This suggests 200ml - https://healthmatch.io/weight-management/how-much-weight-do-you-lose-overnight#water-weight-loss

Even that is much more than I think I do

How Much Weight Do You Lose Overnight?

Is losing weight while you're asleep normal? Read on to learn more about how much weight you lose while sleeping and the reasons why.

https://healthmatch.io/weight-management/how-much-weight-do-you-lose-overnight#water-weight-loss

stargazerlil · 09/12/2024 22:03

Yikesthathurt · 09/12/2024 21:59

3 pints? Have you ever spilt 1 pint. 3?! Are you sure?

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We sweat at night, do we all sweat exactly 3 pints, maybe.. google it if you don’t believe it,

Yikesthathurt · 09/12/2024 21:59

stargazerlil · 09/12/2024 21:49

So do I! humans sweat about 3 pints of water each night. I also give it a light spray with essential oil mix so it smells lovely when I get back in,

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3 pints? Have you ever spilt 1 pint. 3?! Are you sure?

stargazerlil · 09/12/2024 21:49

Cherrysoup · 09/12/2024 20:50

Move out! I air the bed literally all day. Making it is trapping all the sweaty humid air in it.

So do I! humans sweat about 3 pints of water each night. I also give it a light spray with essential oil mix so it smells lovely when I get back in,

Auburngal · 09/12/2024 21:34

HolyPeaches · 09/12/2024 21:25

I always had a bin in my bedroom as a teen/young adult at home.

Snack wrappers went in there. Makeup wipes, empty bottles/cans of drink (before multiple recycling bins), tags and labels pulled off from new clothes. Lots of things.

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Empty medication tablet strips, pens that ran out, screwed up notes/drafts of home/coursework.

godmum56 · 09/12/2024 21:33

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 21:17

Because I don’t have any of that rubbish in my bedroom. Clothes labels removed in kitchen, empty deodorant again taken down, tissues down the toilet.

I grew up in a house that had bins in every room. All you could smell was bins. Put me off for life. All rubbish is taken straight out or a small one day only bag in the kitchen.

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flushing tissues is not a good idea. Seriously. Tissues are designed to stay intact when wet so you don't get a handful of snot. Toilet roll is designed to separate when wet so it doesn't bung up the sewer. I don't remove clothes labels until i have tried them on and I do that in my bedroom. In my house the bedroom and bathroom bins do not smell.
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Auburngal · 09/12/2024 21:32

When I was with my parents, teen, adult and when moved back to them for 2.5 years from ages of 26-29, I was not allowed to have any food in my bedroom. UNLESS I was too ill to get downstairs and sit up to a table.

HolyPeaches · 09/12/2024 21:25

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 20:43

Bins in bedrooms? What kind of rubbish does a bedroom have.

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I always had a bin in my bedroom as a teen/young adult at home.

Snack wrappers went in there. Makeup wipes, empty bottles/cans of drink (before multiple recycling bins), tags and labels pulled off from new clothes. Lots of things.

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 21:18

Oh and before the you don’t have teenage daughters. I do. She uses reusable before we get started there.

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 21:17

godmum56 · 09/12/2024 21:14

cotton wool, clothes labels, empty deoderant cans and similar, tissues. Its only a small bin but why would you not have one?

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Because I don’t have any of that rubbish in my bedroom. Clothes labels removed in kitchen, empty deodorant again taken down, tissues down the toilet.

I grew up in a house that had bins in every room. All you could smell was bins. Put me off for life. All rubbish is taken straight out or a small one day only bag in the kitchen.

godmum56 · 09/12/2024 21:14

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 20:43

Bins in bedrooms? What kind of rubbish does a bedroom have.

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cotton wool, clothes labels, empty deoderant cans and similar, tissues. Its only a small bin but why would you not have one?

godmum56 · 09/12/2024 21:12

Growlybear83 · 09/12/2024 20:46

Surely all adults make their beds once they've got up and dressed? The vast majority of people have duvets nowadays rather than sheets, blankets, and bedspreads, so it's hardly time consuming.

😂

Icanttakethisanymore · 09/12/2024 20:58

GreenEggs483 · 09/12/2024 19:29

It's in how we read things I think. I also think the whole thing hinges on the relationship OP has with her parents and the reason why it's important to them that the bed is made. Who knows, maybe they're putting the house on the market and want it fit for viewing, maybe there are younger siblings who are learning the ropes. I think OP hasn't been back so perhaps we'll never know.

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Yes true, as others have asked; is the relationship otherwise good? Makes all the difference to whether or not this is an issue.

kiraric · 09/12/2024 20:56

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 20:48

Ah I make mine bring it down. If I gave them a bin it would end up overflowing 😅

I was thinking of my adult bedroom like why would I need a bin.

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We have bins in every room - our bedroom bin doesn't fill up fast but does have a use. Things like - you use up your deodorant or something or you take the labels off a new piece of clothing. We don't eat or drink upstairs so it's nothing messy.

Birchlarch · 09/12/2024 20:53

SweetBobby · 09/12/2024 20:47

More fool you for putting up with it. You're not doing them any favours.

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Putting up with what? They eat stuff, they put rubbish in their bins. They bring their own bins out to the big bin on bin day and make sure they recycle their plastic etc. They clean and hoover their own rooms. I just do the shouting.

Cherrysoup · 09/12/2024 20:50

Move out! I air the bed literally all day. Making it is trapping all the sweaty humid air in it.

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 20:48

Birchlarch · 09/12/2024 20:45

I have teenagers. Sweet wrappers, cans, earbuds, cotton wool.

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Ah I make mine bring it down. If I gave them a bin it would end up overflowing 😅

I was thinking of my adult bedroom like why would I need a bin.

SweetBobby · 09/12/2024 20:47

Birchlarch · 09/12/2024 20:45

I have teenagers. Sweet wrappers, cans, earbuds, cotton wool.

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More fool you for putting up with it. You're not doing them any favours.

Growlybear83 · 09/12/2024 20:46

Surely all adults make their beds once they've got up and dressed? The vast majority of people have duvets nowadays rather than sheets, blankets, and bedspreads, so it's hardly time consuming.

Birchlarch · 09/12/2024 20:45

Wellingtonspie · 09/12/2024 20:43

Bins in bedrooms? What kind of rubbish does a bedroom have.

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I have teenagers. Sweet wrappers, cans, earbuds, cotton wool.

Birchlarch · 09/12/2024 20:44

I've come to report back that I have discovered that i did not make my bed today.

I was able to fully function as an adult in a responsible job. Drove to work and everything. No one popped in or glanced in to the room. Dh hasn't even noticed.

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