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How would you handle what happened at the work Christmas do?

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SneakyLilNameChange · 09/12/2024 12:38

Have name changed as could be outing. Long term mnetter.
This Friday was our annual Christmas Party. Cut a long story short I made an error 6 months ago (sent an email to wrong person with info on another client) nothing horrendous but still an error. I apologised profusely at the time, to work and both clients and did the necessary training to ensure didn't happen again. From my POV it was over.
At the party a manager, not my line manager but another, came over and was going on and on about my error- the time its taken her to fix etc. I apologised again and felt terrible (she was v v v drunk). Kept coming over and repeating herself.
I left at 11ish and then my work mate told me she'd been telling her and another colleague all about it when I'd left.
AIBU to be really pissed off and take this further? I was in tears all weekend feeling terrible and like the whole company think I'm a joke. Would you have a quiet word with her or go the formal route or just ignore? I have been waiting at my desk to see if she came over to apologise (haha..) nothing so far.

YANBU- make a formal complaint
YABU- let it go or solve between you

OP posts:
MayaPinion · 09/12/2024 12:45

I’d tell my line manager what happened and let them deal with it unless you are in an environment where you can comfortably say, ‘Blimey Sandra, the state of you on Friday. You kept banging on about a mistake I made 6 months ago to everyone who would listen. You embarrassed your team, you embarrassed me, but most of all you embarrassed yourself’.

You have nothing to be embarrassed about. She, on the other hand will, I hope, be mortified. I hope she has the grace to apologise.

IdaGlossop · 09/12/2024 12:44

I would be upset about this too. Any conscientious person would. But it will fade and normal working will resume. The key piece of information here is that your colleague was v v v drunk. Lots of others will have been drunk too, and will have forgotten all about the conversations they had at the party. Making a formal complaint would only stir things up again, which I don't think is what you want, OP.

Ph3 · 09/12/2024 12:44

I think you should go the formal route. It’s really unprofessional to go to a work Christmas party get drunk and start discussing things like these to everyone that can hear.

HardlyLikely · 09/12/2024 12:43

I’d have dealt with it at the time if it was a one-on-one conversation, but if she was badmouthing you to other senior staff about an error you’ve taken full responsibility for and resolved six months ago, I think I’d need to approach it with work in case it tarnished my reputation, rather than just hers.

Catza · 09/12/2024 12:40

If it was only a conversation between you two, I would attempt to sort it similarly. But the issue was that she revealed it to others which is not OK and needs to be pushed up the chain.