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Both of my kids currently just look like their dad- what's that about ?

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mummtoboyngirl · 09/12/2024 04:49

They're 2 and 4 at present.

They just don't look like me really. My boy (2) maybe looks a bit like me, but the girl doesn't really.

When my son was born, he really looked like me. But now he mainly looks like a clone of his dad. Especially in pics when my husband was his age.

My daughter has pretty much always looked more like her dad. She also has his eye colour and hair/ skin colour.

My son has a more similar hair and skin colour to me. We are all Mediterranean but my husband has more olive skin than me. I'm paler with paler brown eyes and lighter hair ( light brown ) whereas my husband and daughter have dark brown hair and eyes.

Anyway. I know it's stupid but I would like them to look more like me too. They just look like a blend of my husbands family ( especially my daughter ).

I know people say it changes when they grow up. Any experiences ? My sister in law looked like her dad and grandma when she was a baby / young and now is the spitting image of her mum. So here's to hoping.

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DappledThings · 09/12/2024 07:38

I don't even know who mine look most like. They look like themselves. DD was the spit of DH as a toddler. Sometimes I get flashes of all their grandparents in them. Never occurred to me to be bothered by it

Eenameenadeeka · 09/12/2024 07:27

I definitely think it changes as they grow up, 3 of my 4 were just like their Dad but have changed over the years

SabrinaThwaite · 09/12/2024 06:27

I remember a random mum in the school playground leaning into the pram to look at DS and declaring ‘there’s no doubt about who his dad is’ Confused

At 20 he doesn’t look much like either of us now.

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 09/12/2024 06:26

mummtoboyngirl · 09/12/2024 04:49

They're 2 and 4 at present.

They just don't look like me really. My boy (2) maybe looks a bit like me, but the girl doesn't really.

When my son was born, he really looked like me. But now he mainly looks like a clone of his dad. Especially in pics when my husband was his age.

My daughter has pretty much always looked more like her dad. She also has his eye colour and hair/ skin colour.

My son has a more similar hair and skin colour to me. We are all Mediterranean but my husband has more olive skin than me. I'm paler with paler brown eyes and lighter hair ( light brown ) whereas my husband and daughter have dark brown hair and eyes.

Anyway. I know it's stupid but I would like them to look more like me too. They just look like a blend of my husbands family ( especially my daughter ).

I know people say it changes when they grow up. Any experiences ? My sister in law looked like her dad and grandma when she was a baby / young and now is the spitting image of her mum. So here's to hoping.

Plastic surgery?
If that's not on the cards, you're going to have to be less vain. Why do you need them to look like you? So people know they are yours?

WhatMe123 · 09/12/2024 06:22

I meant her dad and his brother **

WhatMe123 · 09/12/2024 06:22

Well I have dd1 that looks identical to her dad na show brother and then my dd2 who just looks like my own mum, brother and niece (clearly it's my genes but she still looks more like my brother than me) 😂😂 dna is a strange thing I guess. Personality wise dd1 is a carbon copy of me however though

MaggieFS · 09/12/2024 06:14

It's funny how it works out, isn't it, when we're all 50:50.

Could be worse for you, my good friend has two girls. One looks almost identical to her, and it was joked when she was a baby as to whether there were any of friend's husband's genes in her.

Second baby is the spit of... friend's loathed MIL. It must be the "female version" of friend's husband but it's hard to see any of the husband in her, just pure MIL. Friend of course absolutely loves her DD to bits, but still sometimes gets a wobble when she talks to her six year old and MIL looks back.

BlackChunkyBoots · 09/12/2024 05:54

DNeice & DNephew have mixed heritage but still look the spit of my DB, even now, and they are grown up.

romdowa · 09/12/2024 05:39

He just has stronger dna. My son is a mini me , just with eye colour from dhs side. He did at one point look like fil and then my father but now it's just all me .

EmmerdaleFan78 · 09/12/2024 05:32

My son is his dad’s double and also looks a lot like my half brother. He looks absolutely nothing like me 😢

CottonCandyLand · 09/12/2024 05:32

My son looks nothing like me and not much like his Dad either, although a lot of people think he looks like his Dad. He has MiL’s (and DH’s) nose. I can’t see anything of me in him. He is mine though.

RudolfIsMySpiritAnimal · 09/12/2024 05:29

Yeah, my DH’s DNA pretty much trampled over mine. We have two and I always wondered if we’d had a third would they have looked like me, or would I just have got a third clone!

As they get older I can see more of me in them though. DD is 13 now and has my figure (when I was younger - not now!), and DS has my smile and face shape. But still, no one is going to mistake them for anyone other than DH’s kids.

yipyipyop · 09/12/2024 05:16

Both my sons look like me and I'm pretty sure my dh won't abandon them

Fraaahnces · 09/12/2024 05:14

There is a theory that men are more likely to bond with their littlies and less likely to abandon them if they look like them. Then as they grow, they begin to look more like their mums.
** Not entirely sure how factual this is, btw…. I have not fact checked it. (Also, 2/3 of mine clearly look more like me, but they’re also girls.)