Both of my kids currently just look like their dad- what's that about ?

Genetics are funny. I’ve never met my dad, was the product of a very brief fling and mum didn’t bother to tell him about me. Growing up everyone said I look just my mum.

I did a Facebook search a couple of years ago and found a man with the right name who matched the physical description mum gave me. Couldn’t see any physical resemblance between us except that we both have curly brown hair, but he had photos of his adult kids on his page. His daughter and I have the same smile, hair and face shape, and looking at his son is like looking at a male version of me. And all three of us work in the creative arts.

I haven’t made contact with any of them as it didn’t seem very fair to burst into someone’s life after 40-odd years, but I did find it fascinating.

In my experience many young children look more like their dad, then once they get to five or so start to look more like mum.

ds2 looks like DH produced him without any help from me & ds3 looks like I cooked him up all by myself.

And yet ppl think they are twins 🤷🏼‍♀️, even now at 17 & 15 ppl stop & ask if they are twins

I have a friend who's a real looker- looks like a young Elizabeth Taylor. All three of her kids looks like their father- a short version of Plug from the Beano.

I've got 4 children all of them look like their dad all of them are dark blonde whereas I'm brunette, they've even got his cheek dimples haha he has green eyes I have brown and my oldest has Hazel and second has blue, third has green and also have a 5 month old baby who's eyes look a bit of a mix of dark blue and brown at the moment, you can't tell they are my children at all though to look at them, he obviously has very strong genes

My girl was the spit of me until she was around 4, then slowly morphed into her dad - especially mannerisms - the same laugh etc. Now she's a preteen she looks like me again. It definitely changes.

Apparently it’s primal. So that the father will instinctively protect his children.

As a child, my friend's son was an extraordinary mini-me of her. Now as an adult, he's the spit of his dad.

When I look in the mirror I see my mum but when I look at pictures, I resemble many of my paternal cousins - we all take after our grandmother in bone structure.

So anything can happen!

I was essentially the female version of my dad for most of my life - even my mother has joked that if she hadn't been there, she would have had he doubts... !

Now in my mid-40s there is a slight touch of my maternal family about me, but you still have to look quite hard.

Bizarrely, my sister has always been my mother's double, and my mother is the image of my grandfather (her father, obviously). Genes are funny things.

Everyone - even the odd person in a shop - used to say that dd1 was just like dh. I could never see it though. I hardly ever can, except that both dds have dh’s nose, which thank goodness is a nice one.

When dd2 was just born, she looked just like my granny when she was very old and hadn’t got her teeth in. 😂. But that granny was quite a looker when she was young.

I do remember a neighbour’s son when I was very young, who was the absolute spit of his dad. Very puzzling, how could he look like his dad when a baby grew inside its mother? I asked DM, but she fobbed me off!

It was a relief when I found out a couple of years later, courtesy of a girl at school.

I have 6. Some look just like me, some like my husband, some are a mixture.

Two is a pretty small sample.

My son is the spitting image of me.

My daughter occasionally slightly resembles me. She doesn't look like her dad either really. More like a distant relative of his bizarrely.

If I hadn't seen her the second she was born and recognised the baby they later gave to me...

I do t think I'm related to either of my children. Some sperm must've fused together as they are purely dh. My son has my eye colour but the rest is all his dad. My daughter looks nothing like me. But the poor we sod is a clone of me in every other way. We are two peas in a pod.

I could never see myself in my 2 when they were small - they were definitely like their dad, even though people often said they looked like me. Now they are in their 20s, and when I look at old photos they were so obviously like me too I don't know why I couldn't see it!

DD doesn't look like either of us, absolute hybrid.
Visiting friends once, there was a snapshot of a toddler on the mantelpiece, wearing some sort of romper suit. Facial features made the child an obvious family member. I asked if it was their DD1 or DD2. It was neither, it was grandad on the father's side. Grandad, son and granddaughters are all absolute clones. DD2 had a baby-another absolute clone of GGD. genes are weird.

Our kids look nothing like either of us, nor each other. I have 3 siblings and we could not look more different. People are usually really surprised to hear we’re related. I actually love this trait.

One of mine is the image of dad but at 20 she's starting to look more and more like me. The other one is my clone.
Yesterday we saw some family and I couldn't believe how my husband's nephew is the image of his daughter! I thought she was like her mum but it was like looking at sd all afternoon ( which is unnerving as we don't speak) and I know dh saw it too as he kept looking at him!

I have 3 kids, 2 look like me, 1 is the image of his dad. Dad of DS2 and DD is of Indian heritage, DS looks just like his dad, it’s freaky how similar they look. DD has much paler skin and blue eyes, she is stunning. The blue eyes were a surprise. Genetics are amazing.

Mine were both the spit of their dad growing up. They are now in their 20s and you still couldn't pick me out of a line up as their mum. I guess their dad has strong genes.

I was a mini dad when I was young, even walked like him.

Took a photo of myself the other day (I'm now in my 60s) and even my sister thought it was our late mum!

Unless your husband looks like the back of a bus quit worrying!

My oldest looks nothing like his dad and only like me... in fact you wouldn't think they are father and son especially as my son is 5inches taller than his dad too! He finds it funny (yes he is his son just inherited all my genes)

When DS was born, I jokingly asked for a maternity test, as he was so like DH it was as if my genes were not there at all.
24 years later I think he still looks like DH, we recently met some people DS has know for a while, they both said how much like me he is. I still can't see it.

Do you have photos of your wider family when they were young?

You would think my nephew (my sister’s son) takes after his dad completely, but if you look at a photo of my dad as a child the similarity is very striking.

Likewise we always thought my sister was the spitting image of my grandma’s sister (as there was a photo of her as a young woman up in the house). But I recently saw a photo of our great grandma on the other side of the family, she’s about 50 in the photo as is my sister now, and it IS my sister. I was really surprised as I thought my sister didn’t take after that side of the family at all.

2 of ours look like DH laid an egg, but the middle one looks like me. Our oldest has his paternal grandad’s mannerisms, but the middle is like my dad is the way he sits and stands, which is particularly weird as my dad died before he was born. It’s weird to me how the genetics have formed both their looks and some of their mannerisms.

My DD was born with black hair. It then went blonde... before darkening again to brown. Her eyes went from grey to brown.