Tattoo of XH name

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Over40andNotalotofpatienceleft · 08/12/2024 21:08

I have my XH name on the back of my neck, it’s just under my hairline. I was married for twenty yrs, and we have 3 beautiful children. It doesn’t bother me, I don’t think about it and I can’t see it but new DP of 3.5 yrs wants it gone. He doesn’t want to see it, and it makes him unhappy.
So. Am I unreasonable because I think he’s being ridiculous or am I unreasonable for not getting rid of it to please him?

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Chipsandcheeseandgravy · 08/12/2024 21:13

Have it removed or get a cover up tattoo. It's incredibly disrespectful to your new partner. It doesn't matter if the tattoo is hidden or not, he knows it's still there.
I'd refuse to date a man with another woman's name on his body.

p1l1l · 08/12/2024 21:12

It's a difficult one because on the one hand, if it doesn't bother you, he really doesn't have much say about what's on your body. On the other hand, he is the one who can frequently see it - it's on the back of your neck so very much not in your face.

On balance, I'd have it removed.

Blueberrymuffin8 · 08/12/2024 21:10

I wouldn't particularly like if my husband's ex's name was written on his body. Then again I'd hate any tattoo. I think they look awful.

nonbinaryfinery · 08/12/2024 21:10

He needs to get over himself. If he's that bothered he can pay for it to be removed or covered up. I do admittedly have little patience for whiny men so I might be ever so slightly dismissive.

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