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Colleague said I look like I’m pregnant

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MyLemonKoala · 08/12/2024 18:52

AIBU to be upset by this?

At work today one of my colleagues who I’m not close with came and RUBBED my belly and said ‘wow, you look like you have a second one in there’

My DS is 2, I’m single and everyone is aware of the fact that I have accepted I won’t be having anymore children as I’m happy single after an awful abusive relationship.

I told her this was rude and she said ‘I’m sorry you’re so sensitive’.

I’m aware I have put on some weight in the last year as my appearance is the last thing on my mind right now due to simply being in survival mode after a lucky escape from ex. But that’s no one’s place to tell me!

Im still upset by this comment!

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MyLemonKoala · 08/12/2024 19:01

GreyBlackBay · 08/12/2024 18:58

Agree put in a complaint. She was well aware of what she was doing.

Sorry you have a shit colleague. Did anyone see/hear this? I'd expect her to be ostracised.

Try to be angry not upset, it's not a reflection on you at all.

Yes everyone rallied round me luckily. Have worked there for 3 years and have some lovely
colleagues. She then kicked up a fuss that people were ‘talking behind her back’ and was walking round with a face like a smacked ass!

Please bare in mind, she is middle aged, not a teenager

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Scutterbug · 08/12/2024 18:59

What a bitch. Report!

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MyLemonKoala · 08/12/2024 18:59

Duckingella · 08/12/2024 18:58

"I'm sorry you're so sensitive"

If your partner said that to you we'd be telling you it's emotional abuse.

Yes! Makes it 10x worse the lack of apology

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GreyBlackBay · 08/12/2024 18:58

Agree put in a complaint. She was well aware of what she was doing.

Sorry you have a shit colleague. Did anyone see/hear this? I'd expect her to be ostracised.

Try to be angry not upset, it's not a reflection on you at all.

Original poster
MyLemonKoala · 08/12/2024 18:58

BleachedJumper · 08/12/2024 18:56

Honestly I’d be reporting that to a manager/HR.

Totally unacceptable to touch you.

I did think about this but wasn’t sure if I was indeed being ‘too sensitive’. I think I will.

thank you x

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Duckingella · 08/12/2024 18:58

"I'm sorry you're so sensitive"

If your partner said that to you we'd be telling you it's emotional abuse.

BleachedJumper · 08/12/2024 18:56

Honestly I’d be reporting that to a manager/HR.

Totally unacceptable to touch you.

Sourisblanche · 08/12/2024 18:56

I’m a pretty calm person but I would take that straight to HR. Totally unacceptable.

Womblewife · 08/12/2024 18:56

You should have said “ah ! Thanks , see I thought you looked intelligent, guess we are both wrong”

MJMJMJMJ · 08/12/2024 18:55

Report her and she should not be touching you either.

Commonsense22 · 08/12/2024 18:54

That's beyond rude. So sorry.

MoleAndBadger · 08/12/2024 18:54

That's pretty shit to be honest. I am sorry, it's so hurtful.

Monvelo · 08/12/2024 18:54

Wow that's unbelievable!!!