Colleague said I look like I’m pregnant

@MyLemonKoala hope your ok? How did you get on with the GM? Hoping you’ve taken some of the good advice on here and made a formal complaint re bullying?

So inappropriate.
Your physical appearance is none of their business.
These women were never told "if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
That is so shit OP. Especially after such a rough time. Don't listen to what they say but do report it. They deserve a dressing down by management.
Being in survival mode is tough, but you did for the little person that you love more than anything. And that is an achievement in itself. You've tacklsd one bully by leaving them, don't let another set of bullies bring you down.

I would take that straight to HR. That is not acceptable in life but especially in work.

WTAF?!!! What’s wrong with these people?!

Such awful things to say to someone.

I am so sorry you are going through this OP, it’s unnecessary and cruel 😔

That's really shocking. How dare they talk to you like that. I hope they get disciplined for it.

This. How awful for you to have to be dealing with such horrid people.

Do not reply to any of these comments with anything other than 'that's really inappropriate and upsetting'.

Write them down as quickly as possible - date, time, who said it, where you were, who was present - you need a complete log.

Go to your manager and HR and say you would like to report bullying in the workplace. Do not be fobbed off - their treatment of you is NOT ok!

Do you think she has organised a herd of acolytes to repeat the same message? Seems weirdly coincidental. What a nasty piece of work. (And tbf so are they). You will have had witnesses, right?

This is awful, so sorry you are experiencing this OP. What kind of business do you work in?!

Is there a part of her you could 'RUB' and comment on? If she reacts, tell her not to be "so sensitive"🙂

I’m not so sure about this. If things turn terminally toxic then you need a proper paper trail. I still kind of regret keeping everything below the radar in a previous job.

A colleague who was not officially my boss but who often assumed supervisory responsibility (because of the way the department was structured) commented once that my ankles looked swollen, and was everything OK? I was frankly creeped out by this and mumbled something about hormones. Some time later she apologised for her comment, but a few weeks later my manager came back with ‘concerns’ over my performance, drummed up over a couple of minor typos in emails, phone calls I’d transferred to people who weren’t in the mood for receiving them that day (even though it was their job…) that kind of thing. I changed jobs with no regrets - £10,000 a year wasn’t worth the fight - but I’d have liked to leave them with some egg on their face.

I agree with everyone - speak to HR or a manager. BUT I would not put in an official complaint... This way HR / Boss does not have to set any wheels in motion but it's on the radar.
Bit sneaky but you get to tell them without them having to tell her... if that makes sense.

Similar happened to me when I was much younger and pre kids, I do have a natural pot belly but I was so upset, it really wiped out any confidence I had.
She's a bitch, if she had apologised you could put it down to being a bit dense but she sounds nasty!

That's classed as inappropriate behaviour and you should report it to your manger or to HR.

Wow, you do work with some prize arseholes. I wonder if the first one prompted the others to comment. HR will remind them of the dignity at work policy, hopefully in a disciplinary.

Wow @MyLemonKoala that’s horrible of them!

Someone did this to me once. An older lady touched my belly and said "ooh when it due?" I don't think she really thought I was pregnant, but I can't say for sure. I just froze and wanted to die inside. I was mortified.

Bloody hell @MyLemonKoala I’ve just seen your update. That’s appalling behaviour from all your colleagues and I’m glad your General Manager is taking it seriously.

Hand her a grain of rice and tell her she dropped her brain cell.

I so hope other people reported it, as well as the OP herself. It really helps to know other people are in your corner at work when it feels like several are ganging up.

All of this - that behaviour is shocking & totally out of order!

Well done for getting out of your abusive relationship BTW.

I've just seen this thread OP and utterly appalled. Sending you a huge hug. The horrid comments are vile and not appropriate but particularly in the workplace where you have a right to dignity at work. The touching you is another level up. Report all the bastards to HR. You are there to work and your personal stuff is feck all to do with any of them. Utter twats. I hope you've had a have a lovely Christmas OP 🌲🥰

Three people all offering their unsolicited opinion on your weight/appearance? It sounds like they are deliberately targeting you to me.

You might get one person with no filter in the work environment, but three of them being so brazen with their comments smacks of bullying. Are they all mates tag-teaming?

Wow, what bitches.

I would put money on it that you are both very pretty and competent at your job and well regarded by senior colleagues.

It's pure jealousy & HR will sorted them out.

where do you work, Vogue magazine? Bizarre that people would be interested in your weight, let alone comment on it.