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DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

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Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 17:03

DP and I not on great terms at the moment.

DD is 14 (not his). We live together.

I was in the kitchen folding washing with DD and she mentioned her pj bottoms had faded abit, not in a rude way, just generally.

’D’P then loudly said from the other room ‘so ungrateful’!

I went in and asked who he was talking to, apparently it was DD, he could see my reaction so tried to laugh it off.

DD and I went upstairs for a while, came back down and he wanted me to apologise for ‘over reacting’ to the comment. Adding that he is sick of ‘emotional women’ in the house. He then made some shity comments about ‘don’t even ask me to apologise or I’ll actually laugh’

Suddenly have massive ick and he is sulking

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PotatoLove · 09/12/2024 21:22

Hopefully you can get rid without too much stress 🤞

Pessismistic · 09/12/2024 21:16

Look on the positive side u know u want him gone now. If he refuses call his bluff tell you will move out and make him the only tenant and he's welcome to the rent and bills and buying new furniture because everything belongs to you. Hopefully he will realise he can't afford it and go quickly. If he doesn't tell him he is liable for half of everything and your not together and he can sleep on the couch or spare bed and not do anything for him make his life as miserable as you can. I really hope he's goes quietly and if you can prove he's not paying you any rent you you might get him out legally hope your landlord helps you. What a horrible cocklodger!

Clarabell77 · 09/12/2024 21:15

He needs to go. Your daughter does not deserve some horrible unrelated man in her home making her feel uncomfortable.

SpryCat · 09/12/2024 21:03

Does he want to pay half the rent? Can he afford it? If he can’t or won’t then he has to fuck off as you are ending the relationship. You can be a tenant but if you don’t pay then you you get evicted

Ohhmydays · 09/12/2024 20:57

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 18:23

He is on the tenancy 😢 it was my house, I lived here for 5 years, just me and DD, but when he moved in, he wanted the ‘security’ of being on the tenancy and at the time it made sense

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I don’t know about the council where you live but with mine if someone moves in to your home they can only go down as an occupant for the first year or 2 and after that you need to call to say you want them listed as a tenant instead. If your renting private though i don’t know how that would work.

Onthesideofthespiders · 09/12/2024 20:54

StrikeForever · 09/12/2024 20:51

Call the Police. It’s your house, you are not married. You have ended the relationship and he won’t leave your home.

edited to say, I just saw you put him on the tendency. That seems a bit mad to me, but no point dwelling on it now!

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FFS. Another one with this ridiculous “advice.”

She cannot call the police to have him removed from his legal home. It is just as much his as it is hers. Hey, why doesn’t he call the police and have her removed? Idiots.

StrikeForever · 09/12/2024 20:51

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 18:19

But realistically, if tomorrow night he does this annoying thing where he sniff laughs and said ‘I’m not going’ what do I actually do?!

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Call the Police. It’s your house, you are not married. You have ended the relationship and he won’t leave your home.

edited to say, I just saw you put him on the tendency. That seems a bit mad to me, but no point dwelling on it now!

SpryCat · 09/12/2024 20:51

@Rosettespur stop explaining to him why you want him to move out, he doesn’t care and will try to gaslight you into feeling unreasonable and emotional whatever your reasons. I would just say you give me the ick and I don’t love you, you owe him nothing Op so you might as well say something final.

Polyp0 · 09/12/2024 20:39

God he sounds awful! Stay strong!

Fraggeek · 09/12/2024 20:31

Please if you do allow him to stay in his DC room, get a lock with a key on your bedroom door. Both sides. Make it absolutely clear you are done.
Personally I'd be packing it up and presenting it to him on the doorstep. Should he kick off that's enough to say you don't feel safe with him there around you and your daughter and it will give you more leverage over getting him off the tenancy.

If he doesn't kick off and take everything, then make the call asap to say he has left the property and taken his belongings.

Neither option is lying, it's just enough to give you the ability to say he can't be on that tenancy.

EveryonesMother · 09/12/2024 20:27

MiddleParking · 08/12/2024 17:04

Could be worse, could be no man at all.

My idea of heaven!

Iateallthechocolate · 09/12/2024 20:08

MiddleParking · 08/12/2024 17:04

Could be worse, could be no man at all.

That's not worse that's better

SalsaLights · 09/12/2024 20:04

smooththecat · 09/12/2024 19:59

Is that you mum?

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That made me laugh much more than it should have 😆

Buzyizzy21 · 09/12/2024 20:00

Show him the door! He sounds utterly vile.

smooththecat · 09/12/2024 19:59

MiddleParking · 08/12/2024 17:04

Could be worse, could be no man at all.

Is that you mum?

OctobersDaughter · 09/12/2024 19:53

Eeewww. There must've been red flags before this. I can't imagine the other misogynistic behaviors emanating from this manchild.

OhcantthInkofaname · 09/12/2024 19:38

I think you need to move his belongings into the room his daughter stays in. You don't need to share a room with him. You pay the bills.

toucheee · 09/12/2024 19:30

Dagnabit · 09/12/2024 19:28

You added him on as a tenant? Worse idea ever because now he has as much right to be there as you do! Doesn’t matter if he contributes fuck all, legally he doesn’t have to leave.

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This has all been covered, OP is contacting her landlord on Thursday. It’s not all doom and gooom, there will be a way.

smellydog1 · 09/12/2024 19:29

I have been were you are, please please get rid of him asap. He definitely resents your daughter and totally disrespects you. I know it’s hard…. But do not make excuses for him….. let him go

Dagnabit · 09/12/2024 19:28

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 18:23

He is on the tenancy 😢 it was my house, I lived here for 5 years, just me and DD, but when he moved in, he wanted the ‘security’ of being on the tenancy and at the time it made sense

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You added him on as a tenant? Worse idea ever because now he has as much right to be there as you do! Doesn’t matter if he contributes fuck all, legally he doesn’t have to leave.

WreggGallace · 09/12/2024 19:15

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 17:45

He has a DD EOW. Nope he lived with family. And yes he was on a low income

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Classic cocklodger, get shot

laraitopbanana · 09/12/2024 19:13

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 17:20

Yup

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Please show the door then say « just a joke! » when he gets annoyed…

either he stops or throw his stuff out?

Minihero · 09/12/2024 19:10

Stay strong, of course he's digging his heels in, it's got a great thing going there: free accommodation including a room for his DD! You'll get there in the end though. Make it as hard for him to stay as you can.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 09/12/2024 19:03

Tell him if he doesnt go within 7 days he needs to pay half of the rent and bills for the last 18 months - I'd be bold and get a solicitor's letter to this effect, giving a figure he owes you.

Lemonadeand · 09/12/2024 18:59

MiddleParking · 08/12/2024 17:04

Could be worse, could be no man at all.

Is this a joke?