DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

You’re totally right. I wrote a post with a view to helping the OP. I made a small mistake in it. There I was just responding to a weird poster who won’t let it go 🤷‍♀️

We ought to have. TTBO on Mumsnet.

"Toss the bastard out"

Leave the bastard?

Guys, this isn’t about you.

Be quiet both of you and stick to the thread.

I managed the first couple of sentences, then couldn’t be bothered reading the rest of your rant. I edited it within seconds of posting the post (the edit option is only available for a few minutes). Why are you so hot under the collar about another person's minor mistake? You really need to think about that.

You corrected it after I had quoted and was typing. After. Then complained that I replied to what you wrote instead of the edit you wrote AFTER. I’m not psychic, am I? You hadn’t made an edit. I quoted your original post and commented on it. You’re the one going on and on that I should have read the edit… the one you made AFTER I commented. So I didn’t rant at anyone who had made a correction. I’m sorry that your comprehension isn’t allowing you to understand that.

Really?

I think you know the answer here, however unpalatable it is at thr moment. How does your daughter react to him?

You might want to read OP's updates and then consider an apology for your nasty comment.

Just wanted to say good luck. It's a horrible situation to be in. I had a cocklodger, the scales only fell from my eyes when he left. When you care about someone, you overlook stuff and hope for the best. I hope he goes quietly and you can get back to your life

You pack his bags change the locks and leave his stuff on the doorstep whilst he’s out!

People don’t change unless they are 100% onboard that they are in the wrong and commit to something big like therapy. Doesn’t sound like has capacity for that. Your daughter is most important. Don’t muck up a lifetime of mental health for her because of a man that doesn’t deserve either of you x

How are things today, OP?

You can go and get an occupation order and if you feel as if you’ve been threatened or you are being threatened, you could probably have that within 24 hours.

To apply for an occupation order, you'll need to provide evidence that you're experiencing abuse and that you have a right to the property:
Evidence of abuse: You can provide:
A sworn statement, or affidavit, detailing the abuse you've experienced and its effects
Independent reports from police and health professionals
Statements from witnesses, such as a domestic violence support worker
Social services reports
Photographs of your injuries and damage to property
Text messages
GP or health visitor records
Your diary
Evidence of your right to the property: You can provide:
A tenancy agreement if you rent
Banking papers if you have a mortgage
Evidence that the order will protect children: If you have children, you'll need to share how the order will protect them

You'll also need to complete form FL401 to apply for an occupation order.

To increase your chances of winning an occupation order, it's important to gather as much evidence as possible.

Occupation orders can:
Enforce the right to remain in occupation of the property
Require permission to enter and remain in the property
Regulate the occupation of the property
Prohibit, suspend, or restrict the exercise of occupation in the property
Require the departure from the property
Exclude from a defined area in which the property is located

Oh absolutely. But he also isn’t paying towards it. She could call his bluff - you leave or I will. He can’t afford it. Hopefully whoever she speaks to on Thursday will be able to help. (Ex-) Partner sounds like a nightmare.

You’re quite right, before I posted, I had only read 3/4 of the OPs posts. I then corrected my post. What is wrong with you that you choose to spend your time on here ranting at people who made an error, then corrected it? You need to get a fucking hobby and maybe take-up mindfulness 🙄

The edit you made after quoted you? Because you didn’t read the thread, nor the hundreds or posts saying the same as you and then then also being corrected.

My mother got with a man when I was 10 years old and she was with him until I was 20 and he was very much like your DP by the sounds of it. And my mother regrets it sooo much that she stayed with him as long as she did because he became quite resentful and almost jealous towards me and it seemed to get worse the older I got. Just rose tinted glasses and all that at the time, but he made me feel unwelcome in my own home a lot growing up and it's quite damaging. Sounds like you know what you want to do now though and I hope you manage to sort the tenancy out!

So bloody stupid 🙄.

Don't know why you're laughing (🤣).
He pays nothing, your daughter doesn't like him and 'rubs along' and is forced to live with a prick who slags her off.
What the fuck is wrong with women like you? Why are they so desperate for a man they'll force their kids to put up with this crap?

Of FFS, read my edit 🙄

Jesus, roll up your sleeves, he’s in the trenches! Keep fighting!

Sarcasm really does get lost on a lot of posters.