DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

I believe the Op @Rosettespur is hoping to speak to the Landlord tomorrow ( Thursday ) as he was unavailable / away ? until then.

Hopefully she will be able to work something out with him.

He's a joint tenant on the agreement with her, so it's not as simple as that unfortunately.

Thank you for clearing that up for me.
If Op is having trouble making her ex leave the house, she may have to call the police to help her.

OP's split up with him and is now trying to get him to remove himself from the house.

If anyone needs to apologise, it's your DP. He shouldn't have made that comment about your DD. She was only making an observation.
Your DP sounds very immature.
You need to re - evaluate your relationship with him. He is not your DD's father, so shouldn't be treating her in that manner.
The fact that he told you he'd laugh if you tried to make him apologise speaks volumes to his immaturity.

It’s a joke.

How could that be worse than someone being an outright dick! 100% rather be on my own than with someone that makes my child uncomfortable for sharing observations/opinions

Bit harsh!

OP said this is the first time he has said a comment like that to DD and she’s questioned him straight away.

Yes she’s been a bit foolish putting him on the tenancy but there’s no need to be so unpleasant.

I hope the OP is alright.

What an awful piece of trash, glad you got rid of him! Hope you are doing better now. xx

Gosh I sympathise. I have just been through the same sort of thing. I own my own home luckily so was easier to get him out.

Partner of 2 years moved in and immediately got his feet under the table and became a different person. Critical, mean, controlling, uncaring and sponging. Decided he was going to give up his job and “just do a bit of agency”, said he might just “use your car to do Uber”, refused to go anywhere with me or do anything unless I paid and even then was ungrateful and miserable, just sat on my sofa watching YouTube videos on my telly while on his phone.

The final straw - I was having tests for uterine cancer after 2 months of constant post menopausal bleeding which involved lots of hospital appointments and he said it would be “silly if he came too” and never got out of bed to bother to come with me. He asked “why are you always so
miserable?” “Why don’t you have a sense of humour?” “Are you like this with your friends?” and when my DD came home from uni and asked him how I was he rolled his eyes and said “Still ill!!!”.

The thought of coming home from my upcoming surgery with him in the house made feel sick. I told him to leave and luckily he was gone within a week after a half hearted attempt at telling me “but I love you!” Left a load of junk and never enquired about the cancer but he didn’t care before, why would he after I’d finished with him?

Stick to your guns. He’s another entitled cock lodger who charmed his way in and then Willy waved around your house and started criticising your kids/home/interests and it would become more and more and more.

I imagine OP came back and took one look at the squabbling and thought- nah, I've got one annoying person to deal with, I don't need this right now 😂

OP hope you manage to have a good chat with the landlord, agree on the meantime get XP sleeping in his DD's room and tell him from today he needs to start paying half the bills and rent, you will send him the numbers and by staying he is agreeing to that debt. Send it in writing. Hopefully that will encourage him to piss off.

Why no update from OP. I hope she hasnt given him another chance 😔

@Onthesideofthespiders maybe put your phone down for the night, love! 🤦‍♀️

Oh, it’s all been covered and the landlord is being contacted 🤔🤣😂 That isn’t how the law works though and if her now presumably ex partner decides to exercise his rights then he can make things very difficult for her. Let’s hope he goes quietly

If you have the tenancy agreement filed somewhere, move it so he can't access it. You could possibly go down the route that he's not a tenant? Dubious I know.

“Legal trouble” 🤣🤣🤣
ffs one the one hand I admire the faith in the system on the other my previous comments about people living on another planet if they think this man has the intellect to create “legal trouble” or the financial means

Wow 🤯

@Rosettespur how are things - I hope you are OK? Have you managed to get any sense out of him? Fingers crossed you and your DD have a calm and peaceful home ASAP.

Then maybe people should stop giving advice to take illegal actions and then getting offended when they’re corrected on it BEFORE they edit their post.

Fuck's sake, stop squabbling.

Excuse me, she posted advice which would put the OP into legal trouble. I corrected that advice before she edited it. She then goes on and on because she cannot accept that someone quoted and replied to what she originally wrote before there was an edit and I should somehow have known the edit was coming?

I replied to her to point out that my quote was before she edited it. That should have been the end of it. She keeps coming back. Idiot.

Oh, for God’s sake. Shut up. I replied to your post BEFORE your edited it. I replied when you gave idiotic advice which would put the OP into legal trouble, as many other people kept doing because they don’t read the thread.

I did not quote your post before you edited. I read your original post and replied. You’re the one going on and on about it instead of realising that I do not have the psychic ability to reply to a post the way you want it done before it had been edited.

You told me the “read the edit FFS” and I pointed out that your edit didn’t affect me because I replied before you wrote it. That should have been the end of it. You’re the one who keeps going on and on.

Next time, try reading all of OP’s posts before replying and don’t give advice which would put a person into legal trouble.

Fair!