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DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

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Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 17:03

DP and I not on great terms at the moment.

DD is 14 (not his). We live together.

I was in the kitchen folding washing with DD and she mentioned her pj bottoms had faded abit, not in a rude way, just generally.

’D’P then loudly said from the other room ‘so ungrateful’!

I went in and asked who he was talking to, apparently it was DD, he could see my reaction so tried to laugh it off.

DD and I went upstairs for a while, came back down and he wanted me to apologise for ‘over reacting’ to the comment. Adding that he is sick of ‘emotional women’ in the house. He then made some shity comments about ‘don’t even ask me to apologise or I’ll actually laugh’

Suddenly have massive ick and he is sulking

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Topseyt123 · 08/12/2024 18:16

He sounds like a complete arse. Getting rid of him will probably be a relief for both you and your DD.

Stick to your guns and ensure that he goes. It's his own problem if he has burned his bridges with all of his other family and friends, not yours.

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 08/12/2024 18:15

He sounds a twat.
Good riddance.

Jumell · 08/12/2024 18:14

Your DD made an objectively very reasonable observation about pyjamas fading and he called her ungrateful?

I wouldn’t be happy either OP

Over40Overdating · 08/12/2024 18:12

When he owns the ground under him, he can dig his heels in as deep as he wants. In your house, what he wants is of no consequence.

Livingtothefull · 08/12/2024 18:09

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 18:03

DD is at her dad’s tomorrow night. I’m going to speak to him about ending the relationship. I am confident that he will dig his heels in and not want to move out. He has burned bridges with most of his family.

He is absolutely going to say that I’m ending the relationship because of xyz, crappy reasons but deep down I don’t care.

It doesn't matter if he doesn't want to move out OP, it is your home so if you want him out then out he goes. And you can end a relationship at any time for any reason you want even 'crappy' reasons, whether he agrees with you is beside the point.

Would it be helpful to have a friend/family member with you when you give him his marching orders?

Mrsbloggz · 08/12/2024 18:09

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 18:03

DD is at her dad’s tomorrow night. I’m going to speak to him about ending the relationship. I am confident that he will dig his heels in and not want to move out. He has burned bridges with most of his family.

He is absolutely going to say that I’m ending the relationship because of xyz, crappy reasons but deep down I don’t care.

You are ending the relationship because you don't want to be in it any more! A relationship needs to be by mutual consent and should be something that benefits both of you. This set up benefits him at YOUR expense.

Jagoda · 08/12/2024 18:08

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 18:03

DD is at her dad’s tomorrow night. I’m going to speak to him about ending the relationship. I am confident that he will dig his heels in and not want to move out. He has burned bridges with most of his family.

He is absolutely going to say that I’m ending the relationship because of xyz, crappy reasons but deep down I don’t care.

Just say so what? You are entitled to end any relationship for any reason you want. Off he fucks.

Alchemillas · 08/12/2024 18:08

Love how you and dd were calmly folding washing, he shouted a rude comment and turned it into "women being emotional" 🙄

mumda · 08/12/2024 18:08

Remember he has no rights to stay once you ask him to leave.
Got a friend who can stay until he's gone and taken all his stuff?

LostittoBostik · 08/12/2024 18:08

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 17:23

DD heard me go in and correct him straight away and text me later to say thank you for standing up for her but she didn’t really care what he says.

Which is good.... but it also means "I really don't care what he says because I don't care about him or respect him". How long have you all been living together?

WinterUnder · 08/12/2024 18:06

Lifeomars · 08/12/2024 18:00

my golden rule as a single parent was "never move them in". My child was my priority and although i did have relationships I never wanted any of them in our space. Made it so much easier to end things too when they stopped working out

Rare for a woman to do that and I have a lot of respect for you. Sadly not everyone prioritises their kids over a man.

CleansUpButWouldPreferNotTo · 08/12/2024 18:05

He has a DD EOW. Nope he lived with family. And yes he was on a low income

His poor DD, does she come to your house EOW? Now she'll have more adjustments to make. What a rotten dad to her AND partner to you!

Sorry for his poor DD, but yours must come first so it's time for him to go!

Edit - just seen his DD even has her own room at your house - poor girl. Her dad is a right loser.

frockandcrocs · 08/12/2024 18:05

The audacity of him to call the women emotional when HIS emotions started the entire issue.

Tess150 · 08/12/2024 18:05

Your poor daughter having had to put up with this asshole for 18 months. What on earth were you thinking OP? You had everything, why were you so desperate for a man? Why would you move him into you and your dd's safe space? I just don't understand.

I bet your dd will be absolutely over the moon when she finds out you've kicked him to the curb. It was long over due.

DaftyLass · 08/12/2024 18:04

OP, you can do this, have the faith

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 08/12/2024 18:04

Tell him you have realised he is not grateful for a free roof over his head.

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Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 18:04

TallNeckedGiraffe · 08/12/2024 18:03

So his daughter comes to your house EOW as well??
The only saving grace in this shitshow is that you don’t have a child with him.

Yes, she has her own room here!

oh fuck no! I am so grateful for that too!

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Maurepas · 08/12/2024 18:04

Be careful he doesn't start to think your house is his house - ditto your money.

toucheee · 08/12/2024 18:03

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 17:45

He has a DD EOW. Nope he lived with family. And yes he was on a low income

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Let me guess. His dd stays with you and you are expected to feed her and pay for her treats or days out.

Starlight7080 · 08/12/2024 18:03

If your dd isn't to fond of him why make her live with him.
He sounds awful . And you can obviously cope without him.
Why not just be together but not live together

Original poster
Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 18:03

DD is at her dad’s tomorrow night. I’m going to speak to him about ending the relationship. I am confident that he will dig his heels in and not want to move out. He has burned bridges with most of his family.

He is absolutely going to say that I’m ending the relationship because of xyz, crappy reasons but deep down I don’t care.

OP posts:
TallNeckedGiraffe · 08/12/2024 18:03

So his daughter comes to your house EOW as well??
The only saving grace in this shitshow is that you don’t have a child with him.

Menace24 · 08/12/2024 18:03

You're teaching your DD how to have such a low bar OP....but I think you know that now don't you.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 08/12/2024 18:02

Freeloading cocklodger. Tell him to leave. Prick

toucheee · 08/12/2024 18:02

Rosettespur · 08/12/2024 17:59

You are all really right!

im actually shaking seeing all of this written down. Its so true!

As you’re not on great terms anyway, seize the momentum and send him to his parents! Tell he needs to leave tomorrow.

Give your dc the best Xmas present - his absence.