DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

I'd do it for her if she was the sole tenant beforehand and a good one.

Holy shit, he really has got himself set up with you! Speak to the landlord, and then present it matter of fact to the soon to be x, that you had been having doubts but that this behaviour has brought it to a head, and you are not prepared to carry on any more.
He has X number of days to leave, no cooking for him, no doing his laundry, or such, and then he has to leave.
You don't have to defend yourself or justify yourself to him, it isn't up to him

So it should be easy for landlord to take him off tenancy and put you as sole tenant.

Call LL first thing!

I would speak to shelter or cab about how best to deal with the tenancy if he doesn't bow out gracefully. If you have to effectively end your tenancy and leave would you be able to find a new place?

He was told to go away, threatened with arrest if he came back.
And was told it was a civil matter when he mentioned collecting his clothes.
Some of you live in la la land you really do, the law protects those with possession. And the money to pursue it. This fella has neither the brains nor the means by the sounds of it.

How does he usually talk to you and your daughter? What does she not like about him?

If it’s a private landlord and they like you then ask if you can give notice and get yourself off the tenancy, then once he cannot pay rent and moves out, ask if you can renew and move back in?
But, if he won’t go and is happy to let the landlord evict him through the courts to get a few months of free living, then you just need to find somewhere else to live.

Good on you for pulling him up straight away. Your daughter will always remember that.

Or she might remember that her mother made her live with this man for eighteen months, a man she had to tolerate because her fiercely independent mother moved him in.

My tenant a lovely woman whose partner left when she had a baby ten years ago has moved her boyfriend in. He's started flexing his muscles with me complaining about something. I totally ignore him only dealing with her by email. It'll be a cold day in hell before I'll agree for him to become a tenant.

She's a hard worker who's retrained, started her own business which is doing well. He sells bits on eBay and sits around all day.

I bet he did. Even though he hadn't bothered to organise his own security while he was an unwelcome guest with his family.
If you decide to separate, speak to your landlord, you do need to get him off the tenancy but it might be really hard. You said he can be a twat, what do you mean by that?

Was he then arrested, and bailed to a different address? No.
They cannot evict someone on your behalf, especially not an illegal eviction.

Stop giving bad advice. He will get back into that home so she needs to do it properly.

If the OP does that, she will also face the legal consequences of changing the locks and illegally evicting him.

My brother walked into his house that he was on the mortgage of. Caught his wife with her knickers down.
He shouted a bit, the police were called. Who do you think got removed from the property ?

It really doesn’t take very much to be removed. The police don’t like shouting people.

Does your landlord have other properties? They know you are a good tenant they might be willing to quietly move you to a different home without mentioning to him.

I'd still end the relationship though, stop cooking, cleaning and doing any laundry. He might find it frosty enough he loves our but that's not ideal for your DD

my usual question really. What does he bring to the party?

Are you on a fixed tenancy or rolling?

Can Op even change the locks?

Hopefully he will see the sense in moving out if he can't afford to stay there alone.

Doubt it though.

If he gets verbally or physically abusive when you tell him to leave then you have every right to have him removed.

Speak to landlord, change the locks, keep throwing his stuff out. He will fuck off eventually.

Please ignore this poster. It is very dangerous advice. Do not change the locks to illegally evict him and then fabricate a scene to have the police arrest and detain him.

You got yourself into this mess. You’ll need to take the time to get out of it legally.

I’d get rid, reminds me of the type of comment my old “stepdad” would make. I didn’t get on with him as a child/teen, ended up being quite resentful of my mum too for how she’d let him speak down to me, especially once i’d had my own child. Hated walking around on eggshells in my own (mums) house!

Is it a tenancy with a private landlord or council? How long has he been on the tenancy? (And not actually paying rent!)

I can’t imagine he’s going to knock the door quietly when he realises the key doesn’t work and then politely ask her to open it can you?
Any hint of a raised voice will be sufficient for a police officer to remove him from the scene.
If you happen to film all this as well OP, that would be handy