DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

In that case, I'd tell him if he's sick of living with emotional women, he knows where the door is and he can use it and fuck off!

He's a cocklodger.

If you are in a rolling monthly contract then I would tell him you want him out by the date before you next pay rent or you will give notice and move out yourself.

In the meantime I'd change the passwords for everything you pau for that he doesn't contribute to. I'd stop doing, shopping cooking, laundry etc and only do shit for you and your kid.

Of course this loser that pays for little wanted the security of it.

Absolutely unbelievable.
Your poor poor daughter.

He's a total loser who now thinks he is so comfortable he can have a pop atvyour daughter.
Shameful behaviour.

Get him out.

Contact your Landlord and ask for it to be cancelled and a new tenancy started.

Why would you put a man paying nothing on the tenacy of your childs home.
Unbelievable.

No wonder his family think he is a loser.

Involve the police if he becomes aggressive.

I can understand being so casual with your childs home and security.

No wonder she is not keen on him, but that doesn't matter to you.
Your poor daughter.
So sad.

I don't see the partner's issue really - items like clothes fade in time, just a fact? If she had been saying it to a brand new pair of pjs in a whiny voice, then I'd understand it, but if she's had them for a while...

When he was added to the tenancy did you discuss that he would need to pay half the rent?

Don’t say anything to him until you’ve spoken to your landlord. As you are on a rolling contract he may agree to let you give notice and then restart a contract in your name only. If not ask if he has any other properties you could rent and give notice and move. Let him stay and deal with rent and bills
Also worth contacting women’s aid for assistance. Keep things to yourself until you have a plan, don’t give him any ammunition.
And never add anyone to your tenancy again!

I'm getting a lot of "He wanted", "He missed you", "he wasn't getting along with his family"....

Question - what did YOU want? Were you pressured into letting him stay???

I was there, he was told he could get in his car and leave otherwise he was getting in their car and leaving but either way he was not staying in that house.
There was no question of her leaving and the subsequent legal advice was he was to stay away.
So if it’s good for the ex sister-in-law, Ive no doubt it’ll work out in a similar manner for the OP who were all supporting and whose side we’re on remember.

Do it whilst you have the momentum. H

Speaking from experience, could be a whole lot BETTER.

Ye I’d much rather be alone for every second of the rest of my life than be stuck with an arsehole! That includes friends too.

I really wouldn't be having a conversation about ending the relationship.
I'd be presenting it as a done deal and that the comments he made to your DD last night, whether he realised them at the time or not, were the final nail in the coffin.

You can turf him out at any stage. I'm going to assume that his name isn't on any documentation regarding accommodation (deeds/rental agreements/mortgage/whatever) and you really could just bag up all of his stuff and leave it out on the front step? I wouldn't be interested in anything further he might have to say and I would stay firm on the fact that you are looking out for your DD as well as yourself.

Oh good, off he fucks then.

Obviously mumsnet will take your side but if you are not on great terms generally the must be a backstory to this.

Is your daughter generally ungrateful?

This I'm afraid. It is not that anyone wants to be hard on you; but I just can't understand why you would let him sweet talk you in adding him to your tenancy, for no benefit and to the detriment not just of you but also - especially - your daughter.

Being 'fiercely independent' is not enough, you have to also be astute.

There will be a way out of this but your agreeing to add him to the tenancy has made things much harder than they need have been. I agree you need to get expert legal advice and talk to your landlord to explain the situation.

He missed you. Wanted to be with you more.

What about what you wanted? What about what was best for your Dd?

Why does he live in her house then? Why would you force your daughter to live with someone she doesn't actively like?

Surely you mean, could be better,
Not men in general just this big baby

So either...you don't know the full story, or this didn't happen.
The Police can suggest he go elsewhere to avoid a breach of the peace. They can even arrest to avoid a breach of the peace. They can't evict him from his home or stop him from returning unless there are bail cons or a legal order like a DVPO.

Yes me too

Why jump to doom and gloom before getting all the facts?

That didn’t happen.