DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

How are you going to get him out? If you tell him to leave will he refuse? You may have to give notice and move out yourself 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well done for seeeing the light. Why did he need security of being on the tenancy? He didnt have a secure home he was leaving. Also what decent person expects to live in a home without splitting bills and paying rent. Good luck, hopefully all behind you soon.

I am so sorry.
This is the reality when women put any man ahead of their child.
I cannot imagine how hard it is for you.

That is your mothers loss.
Do not allow this to de rail your precious life.
Get a good job and move out as soon as you can.
Open your own thread on MN if you would like support.

Just on this. You tell them to move out, and if he says no, then you move him out.

1. He won’t be spending 24-26 with you
2. His stuff needs to be gone within a month,
3. If it isn’t then you will deliver his stuff to his parents.
4. The relationship is over.

If you’re renting, why doesn’t he pay??

Hopefully you can convince him that removing his name will do him a favour as he will be liable for the rent if you remove yours?

Can you have the conversation with a male friend of yours nearby/about to come over?

Why did you move him into her home then? I really can’t understand why woman do this. My daughter would always ge out before a man

Please talk to the charity Shelter. They’ll advise on your legal position. Good luck.

That's really not helpful. We know how love blind people can get and the idea is to encourage OP to take off the rose tinted glasses. Not compare her dd to you @Ezlo .

Christ on a bike, now is not the time to pile on the OP. She is doing the right thing. She needs to be supported through this, not be assassinated.

My mum moved her partner in after I has only met him a few times. When I had met him he completely ignored me or talked over me when I was talking to my mum. I have never really forgiven her for moving him in despite my protests and he continues to ignore me to this day. He never speaks positively of me, and on the rare occasion he does say anything to me it's always to put me down, eg I was talking about learning to drive and he actually made a pfffft noise and he said I'd never do that. My mum defends him and says he often ignores her too. I argue that she should want better for herself and her daughter but she always sticks up for him. I rarely spend time with her anymore and it's caused me massive mental health issues trying to process why my mum can put a partner and his needs before her kids.

Put your daughter first and protect your relationship with her. Kick him out ASAP.

Same here! As in ‘any man will do, as long as I have one!’

Finally a landlord who understands the law and the risks of doing what so many landlords on this thread have theoretically offered to do!

Landlords can't just 'take people off tenancies'

I am a landlord and would help you any way I could if at all possible. But as others have said, he has to agree to come off the tenancy or you all have to physically move out and do it properly. You could leave your belongings there and be given 14 days to collect them and then restart the tenancy after the 14 days. But that could be so tricky and I would wonder if the landlord could get into really hot water over that one. Even if you physically moved out, stored your stuff and restarted the tenancy after a short period of time this could also be tricky and much as I’d want to do it for you, I wouldn’t. As a landlord, I’d want legal advice. Advice costs money.

he's a ponce
not a word I see much these days!
(he is of course)

Also tell the landlord to take him off the tenancy.

Please get rid of him, your daughter doesn't like him and he's a ponce.

If my DH treated my dd like that he'd be out the door sharpish. When he asked me to marry him I told him me and my DC come as a package deal and he's always been very kind and nice to them. I wouldn't have married someone who didn't accept my DC.

Say if you are fed up with emotional women you can leave.

talk to your landlord, get him to serve notice to both of you, he moves out, you start new contract. Hopefully your landlord is reasonable

As a landlord with one flat, I can tell you that a reliable tenant who pays rent on time and looks after my property as if it is their own home, is like gold dust. I know several people like me who rent out their flat they had before marriage but have got revolving door tenants with all the expense of lost rent, huge repair bills, redecoration costs, agents 'introduction' fees etc etc that having multiple short-term tenants causes, would be only too delighted to work to keep a long-term and reliable tenant like the OP.

There are legal ways to get or keep the tenants you want and get rid of those you don't, which OP should discuss with her landlord, CAB, or solicitor, ASAP, and meantime shake up her partner's comfy cocklodger lifestyle. Change the wifi password, only put staples in the cupboards and keep the nice food and wine in a lockbox, no more sex, no doing his laundry etc. Hide the tv remote if necessary!

Then the OP and her DD would have to move and the JAJ could try to pay all the bills on his lowly salary. He'll soon be evicted.

Perhaps the LL has another place to let?

Let the agency know that he contributes fuck all and if you remove your name then that’s what they can expect from him.