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To be surprised you mumsnetters criticised my ex’s school !!

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Jumell · 08/12/2024 15:48

My ex went to an all boys’ comprehensive school in London. It’s been slagged off to the ground on here as being rough, not being the school of choice for MC parents, results are dire etc etc .

However he did leave the school in one piece and with 2 CSEs no less!! (OK showing his age a bit!) But the pearl clutchiness about his school on MN is immense !! 🤣 - I didn’t do CSEs btw so don’t truly know how good 2 CSEs is.
He left school in 1986 FYI - I was still a young school kid then, Dunno - was 2 CSEs good for 1986?!

FWIW the comp I went to wasn’t short for ‘comprehensive’ - more compost heap - but that’s possibly the subject of another thread. !

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MolkosTeenageAngst · 08/12/2024 18:15

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:57

I sat 10 - got 9 C or above and one D

2 years later I did another GCSE in night school and got a B

And if you’d failed 7 of your exams and only gotten 3 GCSEs would you really think that was pretty good going and the sign of a good school? If not I don’t know how you can think only passing 2 out of 7 exams was good for your ex. Even if it’s a different exam system you must understand the point of exams and qualifications is to be passed!

JaneJeffer · 08/12/2024 18:11

Ah ok @Jumell there isn't too much lightheartedness on here these days unfortunately

AlwaysRight1985 · 08/12/2024 18:10

derivativesruletheworld · 08/12/2024 17:47

HOW did you do that??!!

That sounds amazing! Were you the only one, or were there a couple of you who were just head down, ignore the riots, fires, stabbings, verbal?

Thank you :) I was just a little girly swot who kept myself to myself. There were a handful of us who did well enough to go to the local 6th Form and THAT was an entirely different world as we were in with some of the incredibly privileged kids from across town! I think growing up in an incredibly strict household also helped - I'm still a disappointment to my mother than my first grade that wasn't an A was a 2:1 at uni 😂

WaylandNewt · 08/12/2024 18:09

Jumell · 08/12/2024 15:57

Well as I’ve had relationships surge men with 0 quals I thought that 2 CSEs were .. well ok ..

op, this is why it helps to understand what you creat3 a thread about first, then your better educated to know your information, its like attending a cobra briefing or a security services intelligence update and every question is mmmmmm etc

Jumell · 08/12/2024 18:09

JaneJeffer · 08/12/2024 17:59

“You Mumsnetters”? If you’re posting here you’re one too.

I know nothing about this school BTW

Sorry I didn’t mean to generalise like that .. was just trying to be sort of lighthearted

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 18:08

Also want to point out that dyslexia was not recognised until the 1980s (I think) and even in the early 90s there were still lots of people questioning if it was a real condtion or something the middle classes had dreamed up to explain why their children weren't doing as well at school as they thought they should. In earlier generations there would have been large numbers of children struggling with basic literacy and numeracy, with minimal support in school. The most severe cases would have been sent to special school and the rest would have had a miserable time being labelled as lazy and thick in mainstream classes of 40+. No wonder many left school with nothing much in the way of qualifications. Some were lucky and from being round pegs in square holes at school would have found a career where their talents and strengths could be used. A lot wouldn't.

TimeAndTideAndButteredEggsWaitForNoMan · 08/12/2024 18:05

MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:41

I'm sorry all, I'm going to cross threads.

So @Jumell if you were second year of GCSE's, it means you are, what, 52? So what on earth were you on about asking what 56 year old men are like, as though they are a different fecking species?

I was in the last year to take O levels and I’m 53, so by my reckoning the OP is 50 or 51 - on this thread, anyway. Certainly old enough to know what 56 year old men are like.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 18:04

Lifeomars · 08/12/2024 17:50

I am old and went to Grammar school as it was still the 11 plus for all back in the days when dinosaurs roamed the earth. I was considered "of sub standard intelligence and not really grammar school material" ( I saw this on the reference they wrote for me when I applied to college) and I left with 6 O levels and 2 A levels and this was thought to be poor. For the whole of my adult life I have carried an inner belief that I am thick and this is one of the reasons that I think we should look at the whole person rather than the exams they may or may not have passed.

I hope you know now that you are very definitely not thick. I saw this at my own school. It's natural to judge yourself by the standard of those you know and not realise that if you looked at the whole school population you'd get a very different picture. For a start, only about 25% of the population passed the 11+ so how your Headteacher could think you were of sub-standard intelligence is beyond me. 6 O levels and 2 A levels was really excellent in the 1970s (my era) and was still pretty good in the early 80s. Would easily have got you onto a degree course or equivalent. I totally agree that exam results are not the be all and end all (have said as much above about a branch of my family - not my own children!).

MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:59

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:57

I sat 10 - got 9 C or above and one D

2 years later I did another GCSE in night school and got a B

Colin Robinson. What We Do In The Shadows.

If you know, you know....

JaneJeffer · 08/12/2024 17:59

“You Mumsnetters”? If you’re posting here you’re one too.

I know nothing about this school BTW

Skyrainlight · 08/12/2024 17:57

Jumell · 08/12/2024 16:20

He said the school was violent

but we’ve all experienced a bit of rough I’m sure !

You are surprised a violent school is criticised?

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:57

MolkosTeenageAngst · 08/12/2024 17:55

How can you possibly think coming out of school having failed 5 out of 7 exams is good!? Even if you don’t understand the CSE system you must understand that the education system is never going to be set up in a manner where coming out having failed more than twice as many exams as you passed is good. How many GCSEs did you sit and how many did you fail?

I sat 10 - got 9 C or above and one D

2 years later I did another GCSE in night school and got a B

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MolkosTeenageAngst · 08/12/2024 17:55

How can you possibly think coming out of school having failed 5 out of 7 exams is good!? Even if you don’t understand the CSE system you must understand that the education system is never going to be set up in a manner where coming out having failed more than twice as many exams as you passed is good. How many GCSEs did you sit and how many did you fail?

Topseyt123 · 08/12/2024 17:54

What a weird post!

Of course, academia is not everything and many people struggle with exams for a variety of reasons. Also, a lot can change in 40 years at a school. It won't even be run by the same people anymore.

However, 2 CSEs is pretty poor. I don't think you have said what grades he actually got.

I was at school (a bog standard comprehensive) during the GCE O Level and CSE era. GCE O Level stood for General Certificate of Education Ordinary Level and was the highest tier of qualification you could usually take at age 16. The pass grades were A - C if I remember rightly. I got 7 O Levels in 1982. The very first GCSEs were just starting to creep in by then and they were the combining of the GCE O Level and the CSE system. The birth of the system we have today.

Then there was a lower tier which was the CSE, which stood for Certificate of Secondary Education. It was aimed generally at those who were less academic or would struggle with O Levels. I think it was graded 1 - 7 (?). Grade 1 corresponded to O Level grade C, so a pass a Of Level. The rest were just CSE grades. I did take a couple of CSEs in subjects that I had to take but was not great at. They were alongside my O Levels.

Two CSEs was not great even back in 1986 unfortunately, so you are being very disingenuous trying to suggest that it was.

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:54

It’s funny when I first met my ex - several decades ago he’d gone on some sort of weekend course and assumed I was interested in this subject - not academic but think more outward bound type thing !!

Anyway my first thought about him was “oh no - he’s going to wang on about this subject now - I’ve seen this kind of thing before.” Anyway, to be fair he didn’t - the convo ended up being much more balanced than I thought and we made a great connection and had several lovely years together 😊 he’s also extremely fit ! 😍

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Owly11 · 08/12/2024 17:52

2 CSEs is really really dire. CSEs are below GCSEs (or O levels as they were then) - if you got the absolute highest grade in a CSE it was equivalent to a scrape of a pass on GCSE. However there were about 9 grades at CSE and if you were likely to get the top grade you would have been sitting the GCSE instead (or as well). Most people took between 5 and 10 CSEs or GCSEs so to only get 2 is shit. It's virtually impossible to fail a CSE.

Lifeomars · 08/12/2024 17:50

I am old and went to Grammar school as it was still the 11 plus for all back in the days when dinosaurs roamed the earth. I was considered "of sub standard intelligence and not really grammar school material" ( I saw this on the reference they wrote for me when I applied to college) and I left with 6 O levels and 2 A levels and this was thought to be poor. For the whole of my adult life I have carried an inner belief that I am thick and this is one of the reasons that I think we should look at the whole person rather than the exams they may or may not have passed.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 17:47

I know, but I think it's always been patchy. There's been a culture in England of not getting above yourself, not showing off, knowing your place. Far less of an issue in other countries. I possibly see this more clearly because I come from a Scottish family.

derivativesruletheworld · 08/12/2024 17:47

AlwaysRight1985 · 08/12/2024 17:15

I went to a total sink school in a total sink town in the 1990s, might as well have been in a zoo rather than a school. Still managed 7 A*s and 3 As

HOW did you do that??!!

That sounds amazing! Were you the only one, or were there a couple of you who were just head down, ignore the riots, fires, stabbings, verbal?

suki1964 · 08/12/2024 17:47

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:08

Cos I thought getting 2 exams of which there is a huge course work element v impressive - lots of kids CBA with coursework

in fact a lot of kids cba

Its GCSE that has coursework and exams throughout the study period

GCSE's were bought in because it was thought that some of the brightest pupils weren't getting the results predicted because they didnt do well in exams, so final exam on the day was a very small percentage of total mark. Hence I could have answered about 5 questions on my paper for geography and still got a top pass because I had the marks required from the coursework and the mid term exams

Grammarnut · 08/12/2024 17:46

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 17:39

It's not a shame, it's my entire point. White working-class English people historically had a far worse attitude to education than the Scots and the Irish. British children from families who are first, second or third generation immigrants from various parts of Asia and West Africa typically get some of the best exam results nowadays.

Edited

White working class people since the 40s I think. During the 19th and early 20th centuries white working-class people were very keen on education. Who do you think set up the Workingmen's Education Association, the Mechanics Institute etc?

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 17:46

adriftinadenofvipers · 08/12/2024 17:14

An A wasn't that rare. A load of my classmates got them back in the day. I got 2 A and 2 B.

There was no A though. A irrationally pisses me off lol!

It depends on when you're talking about. I went to a very academic school in the 1970s and it was extremely rare to get all As at either A or O level. By the 1990s it was a lot easier, possibly for the reason I've tried to explain upthread about the change in how the grade boundaries was established. There was a lot more teaching to the test by then, the National Curriculum had come in and schools were being judged by their exam results in league tables and by Ofsted.

MerryTraveller · 08/12/2024 17:45

Princess Diana left school with about the same qualifications as your husband and was famously dim, so - unless your husband is dense - it is not a great reflection on the school! Pretty hard to be as dense as a royal though...

MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:41

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:36

No - no one even close to me in sec school did CSEs I was 2nd yr of GCSEs so no understanding of the CSE system

I'm sorry all, I'm going to cross threads.

So @Jumell if you were second year of GCSE's, it means you are, what, 52? So what on earth were you on about asking what 56 year old men are like, as though they are a different fecking species?

Ellerby83 · 08/12/2024 17:40

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