To feel hurt by MIL's condescending comments

This^
also I think your family is being dependent on her financially is really dangerous. I know it sounds like as big word but it’s true. Your DH can afford to contradict her now it will be only worse down the line. I think you need a back up plan long term. I don’t give up your job let your DH pay for little luxuries like cleaner. nursery, clubs.
At the moment I would address all her comments which are instigating wrong values into DC, politely but relentlessly.
In a way I agree with your DH - it’s not personal to you - it’s just how she is, her true colours. I bet she behaves the same way with anyone who has less money than she. Her vet comments was so stupid and old fashioned that it’s unbelievable.

Agree with this. Be thankful that you don't have to support yourselves.

Twice the woman she is? This woman has built a successful business and has bought her son and daughter in law a house outright and provided her son with highly paid job.

OP is primary caregiver to 2 (soon to be 3) children, so not exactly like a teen at home, no.

So are you excluded from the expensive holidays his mum has paid for as well as the exclusive/expensive events that she provides tickets for?

She sounds like a total bitch tbh.

It sounds incredibly annoying but I would just ignore it/ let it wash over you. Partially not to upset your DH's family balance, and partly because there is nothing to be gained by directly standing up to her. Imagine how difficult situation would be if you fall out with her? Is it really worth it?

Ideally, I would try to show her, politely, that she can fuck off with her opinion. I met women before (usually very posh middle class ones, haha) who can make you feel awful while still being super nice and polite. Sadly, this is a talent I dont possess so I would probably keep my mouth shut.

I was thinking the same.

Yes, I was wondering that too.

Do women even enjoy working?

Wow.

I'd stop worrying directly about the silly woman (snobby and sexist) and focus on ensuring her influence on your children is minimised so they grow up with good values.

Big smiles and be extra, extra nice to her knowing that you’re twice the woman she is. Nothing to be gained by crossing her it’s just not worth it. As long as your daughters/son know your values and respect them they’ll be fine.

A good example of 'money does not equal manners'. You haven't married above your station, please don't think that. After all, they are not landed gentry. They are as 'middle class' as your family, they just happen to have made (seemingly) more than yours.
Sadly, some who have made loadsa money cannot help but think it's ok to belittle those they see as below them. That's rude, but a sign of their imposter syndrome.
Appreciate this doesn't really help; she is unlikely to change. Rise above it and show her that despite your 'impoverished' life, you have manners and know how to behave with others, no matter their 'station'

Have some fun with it. When she asks if you’ve ever eaten at La Petit Auberge, reply, “Well, not exactly eaten there - but if you go round the back at closing with a Tupperware, sometimes they’ll take pity on you and give you the scraps”. If she makes comments about the importance of expensive clothes, say, “You’re right there. I found a lovely Marks and Spencer’s coat in a skip and it’s cleaned up a treat! It’s a crying shame what some folk’ll chuck away because of a couple of stains!”

See her as little as possible. Don't be rude, but say as little as you can to her and show as little interest in her affairs as you can get away with. Being absorbed in your children will work to move the conversation on 99% of the time. (When she's really getting on your nerves, a well placed giggle that you immediately smother and apologise for can feel like a great tonic!)

Spend all the money she gives you. And just be patient!

• said every woman who married into money I reckon

He’s super careful about what he says to his mum—she’s “always right,” and he avoids any conflict with her. Apparently, that’s just how it’s always been. Part of me thinks it’s also because they’re all a bit financially dependent on her. If she ever cut them out of the will or the business, their lifestyle would take a big hit.

Ignore her, she sounds bat shit crazy and bored.

Just grey rock her and tell your daughters and your son that their worth is not determined by clothing.

PS I aspire to Zara!

She sounds insufferably rude and snobbish. If you're not allowed to answer back, could you just see much less of her?

Does she still have control over the business? Would she punish your DH if you said you didn't want to see her any more?

All those PP saying, 'you're getting the nice lifestyle, so you're not entitled to say anything' - yes, you ARE entitled to say something, OP! You have every right to be offended when you are patronised by this awful woman. And I expect you married your DH because you loved him, not so you could live off him, so the wealth is really by the by.

I think you should make a real effort to inculcate non-materialistic, non-class-based values into your DC and you should also calmly challenge your mother-in-law on these remarks. I would be tempted to point out to her that she appears to know the price of everything but the value of nothing.

She sound like a snob in every way. Grey rock or tinkerly laugh.

Your husbands learned that he can't change her or her opinions. Your whole income is around a business she is or was directly involved in. You know his views arnt the same as his mother's so just ignore or eye roll

Heck, she sounds like Bette Davies the matriach in 'The Anniversary' she was a complete pita, maniputive and wonderfully snippy with her sons and dils. The rod of iron and played her sons like puppets because she had the money and they relied on her.
Great film though,