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To think children should be made to behave in a theatre?

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Sziasztok · 08/12/2024 10:57

Went to an amateur pantomime on a Friday, that a friend was performing in. It was in the theatre of a local school. During the entire performance, kids were running all over the theatre, including climbing up on the stage to scream at and prod the performers. They paused the performance twice to ask parents to keep their children off the stage (at one point, one little shit, who looked to be about 8, was at the front of the stage, kicking and trying to smash the lights). Two kids stood in the aisle and had a screaming competition. Again, they paused the performance as no-one could hear anything.

I asked my friend if it was always that bad. She said that the matinées that they did for schools were fine, as the teachers didn’t allow bad behaviour and any disruptive child was either told off or removed. But the evening performances always had to be paused at least once to get kids off the stage, and parents seemed to think it was cute/funny.

To be clear, it wasn’t just one or two kids who were disruptive, it was the vast majority of them. And it wasn’t the normal interaction with the cast (“He’s behind you!”) or inviting the kids on stage, it ruined the whole performance. Is this normal behaviour these days? Mine would have been removed or read the riot act if they had behaved like this.

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Butchyrestingface · 08/12/2024 11:03

I’m involved in a lot of pantomimes through work. So I see multiple live performances of the same show, school performances and general public performances.

i would not say the behaviour you describe is remotely typical. Must be hell for the poor performers.

DustyLee123 · 08/12/2024 11:00

Of course they should sit and watch the show. If they can’t the parents should remove them.

Anoisagusaris · 08/12/2024 11:00

I’m not in the UK.

brusselsprout5 · 08/12/2024 11:00

Soft parenting! Sadly I'm a teacher so I'm fucking flabbergasted usually at this sort of behaviour!

Anoisagusaris · 08/12/2024 10:59

I’ve never ever seen anything like that at our panto or musicals or at my child’s performing arts concerts ….I genuinely can’t recall one child running around.

BananaNirvana · 08/12/2024 10:59

Sadly doesn’t surprise me - behaviour gets worse year by year. Ex primary teacher - and ex for a reason 😢

Cynic17 · 08/12/2024 10:59

Totally agree. Some parents are shocking, and have no consideration.