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To feel let down by friends

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Octonautstotherescue · 08/12/2024 09:15

DH left. He was violent so it was a relief. Now on own and very lonely. When friends aware it started off with texts of how awful and hope you’re ok but this it has turned to silence. Am I being unreasonable to have wanted more support? They all knew him - wondering if they are actually taking his side.

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pasturesgreen · 08/12/2024 09:26

How long ago are we talking?

Tbh I'd expect the initial flurry of texts to die down fairly soon. Only so many times you can ask someone whether they're okay before it turns into an empty exercise, and it can be that people feel awkward around these kind of situations.

If they're otherwise good friends and you're close, I'd take the initiative and message suggesting a catch up

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Octonautstotherescue · 08/12/2024 09:24

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 08/12/2024 09:19

Are you waiting for a flood of “are you ok?” texts? Are you contacting them? It might be worth messaging and saying what you want - to talk/company/distraction/whatever.

Perhaps seek out specialist DV support so that you can have input from someone who understands what you’ve been through.

I just naively thought they might do more…come round or phone or just check up on me. I think I’d have done that.

specialist DV support?? Honestly there is none.

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Pancakeflipper · 08/12/2024 09:21

I think it's s a case of life moving on for them. The initial 'drama' is over and they just aren't thinking to check on you.

Are you messaging them? Are they actually ignoring you?

Motnight · 08/12/2024 09:20

How long ago did H leave?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 08/12/2024 09:19

Are you waiting for a flood of “are you ok?” texts? Are you contacting them? It might be worth messaging and saying what you want - to talk/company/distraction/whatever.

Perhaps seek out specialist DV support so that you can have input from someone who understands what you’ve been through.

OneTaupePoster · 08/12/2024 09:16

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