I just started dating a guy I really like. I haven’t dated for years.
He’s so awesome and we get on so great. We joke around a lot.
However, within all of our joking around, he’s said a few things that I suspect are stemming from insecurities.
Like he jokes a LOT about how I should find someone more suitable. Every time I go out he jokes about whether I’ve met a better option yet.
He also sometimes ask questions that seem like he’d fishing for compliments, or maybe insecure about his looks “why do you keep saying I’m good looking?” “It’s so weird that you think I’m good looking”.
The strangest one, and the thing that prompted me to write this post, is that he makes a LOT of comments about how he’s not clingy and hates clingy women, but seems to want to spend time an inordinate amount of time together (which I have no complaints about, incidentally. I love spending time with him).
The thing is, he should be brimming with confidence. He’s an absolute catch. First time in years that I’ve met a man I’ve felt lucky to be dating.
None of this too that dramatic or impacting our day to day “almost-relationship” but I’m still getting to know him and I am worried these things are a sign of something deeper.
He is a perfectly lovely, normal man and possibly I’m just looking for problems, but it worries me a bit.