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I don't want to leave a snow globe in reach of my two year old, DH thinks I'm being OTT

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christmasglobe · 08/12/2024 06:59

AIBU to think that we shouldn't have a snow globe on the coffee table where my two and a half year old can reach it?

This is not a plastic snow globe but a heavy glass and resin one received as shift. I saw it had been put on the coffee table within his reach when DS tried to pick it up to show me. It's huge so he couldn't pick it up properly and as soon as I saw him try I rushed to stop him. Then said to DH we need to move it.

DH told DS sternly that he isn't to pick it up himself and DS agreed. Then DH insisted to me that this is now an ok place to leave it. I told him no way, it's too heavy for DS to hold, it's glass and water so it's heavy and could smash and hurt him very easily and DS agrees to things that he then doesn't follow through with a lot. He's only two.

AIBU and DS is old enough to follow instructions, and shouldn't ever be in this room unsupervised anyway?

Or AIBR as DS is only two and can't be trusted to stick to his word when his safety is concerned, and there is a chance we'll look away for a moment and he could hurt himself?

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MiddleClassWomanOfACertainAge · 08/12/2024 09:53

If you rely on a two-year-old's common sense or ability to follow instructions, you can confidently predict tears before bedtime.

AffableApple · 08/12/2024 09:31

I think your husband is a genius! He's totally cracked toddler parenting. Who knew? All we have to do is have a "stern" word with our offspring!

How silly do I feel now? I'll leave hot cups of tea on the floor, not worry about knives on the side in the kitchen, and I'll tell them once and for all not to climb the stairs on their own. Result!

Genius.

WinterUnder · 08/12/2024 09:22

Yanbu, that's dangerous given its glass.

LimeYellow · 08/12/2024 09:15

So your DH thinks you can tell a 2yo once not to touch something and he will remember and obey? Er, that'll be a no!

RedRiverShore5 · 08/12/2024 09:14

They are quite heavy, he could drop it on his foot, so unpleasant even if it doesn't break

TwoShades1 · 08/12/2024 09:14

It seems easier to just move it somewhere higher up.

that said it depends on your child and how compliant they normally are and whether they are interested in it. It probably would have been safe with my daughter at 2 but she’s very good at following instructions and usually isn’t interested in things for long.

Ponoka7 · 08/12/2024 09:12

Isthiscorrect · 08/12/2024 08:29

DH broke a large heavy glass snow globe, whilst trying to fix it. He dropped it. The liquid inside isn't water and obviously the glitter. Absolutely everywhere. Still finding tiny specks 10 years and 2 house moves later. And honestly we are not dirty scuffers who don't clean.

That's how you get to find out about the horror of glitter, even before having children. The Pepoa Pig episodes about glitter crafts, suddenly make sense.

Ponoka7 · 08/12/2024 09:09

I'm worried that he thinks children as young as your toddler, do as they are told first time. Would he take the same stance around water, or something hot, walkingby a buzy road? What's going to be his reaction if he breaks the snow globe, because he hasn't done as he was told? Does he understand anything about child development?

RobertaFirmino · 08/12/2024 08:49

Even I know that the SG should be out of reach from tiny hands and I'm staunchly childfree. OP, you are being reasonable, sensible and should definitely move it to safety.

May I ask though, does DH actually do any hands on parenting? This speaks volumes and I'm wondering if there is a wider issue here.

Shouldbedoing · 08/12/2024 08:43

I broke ours whilst packing away Christmas one year. It rolled off a padded footstool and it was game over, instantly. Lots of mess, too

OAPapparently · 08/12/2024 08:39

My child at about 2/3 went on tippy toes to reach a supposedly out of reach Christmas snow globe. It smashed, but thankfully they weren’t hurt. They really smash too. They feel like they are quite heavy glass, but when broke they are very sharp glass and much thinner than you expect. so, yes, put it up as high as you can get.

Isthiscorrect · 08/12/2024 08:29

DH broke a large heavy glass snow globe, whilst trying to fix it. He dropped it. The liquid inside isn't water and obviously the glitter. Absolutely everywhere. Still finding tiny specks 10 years and 2 house moves later. And honestly we are not dirty scuffers who don't clean.

Mummyoflittledragon · 08/12/2024 08:27

Catza · 08/12/2024 08:04

There are essentially two schools of thought - risk aversion and positive risk taking. Risk aversion would involve removing any hazards, positive risk taking will involve warning the child of the hazard and providing instructions and supervised access (I.e. "this is heavy, hold with both hands, I will help"). Accidents can happen either way. Positive risk taking involves a lot more effort but some development literature suggests it is preferable (the whole Montessori method is based on positive risk taking).
Positive risk taking does not involve forbidding the child from touching something. Because if you do, they 100% will.
But it's easier to put things away.

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I’m all for positive risk taking for some things. However, not when it to comes dangerous things like glass or fire, which could have catastrophic and life changing consequences. And I agree that the husband is not talking about risk taking rather about forbidding his ds from touching something.

Ilovelurchers · 08/12/2024 08:25

Is your husband always this argumentative? (Mine was, which is why I am now single!).

Why is he so obsessed with having it on the coffee table? It's a weird place for it anyway.

And does he take the two year old to the toilet? Or tow answer the doorbell? I think it's fine to leave at that age for a couple of minutes if they are watching TV or playing....

ExceededUsefulEconomicLife · 08/12/2024 08:20

Bless the naivety of your husband. He must do very little of the parenting. To everyone here, it's obvious.

vtrdcat · 08/12/2024 08:18

Typerighter · 08/12/2024 07:07

I am fatigued by even hearing about you having the discussion of the snowglobe.

If you want to move it just move it.

This. How do some people go through life, it’s a bit of a miracle.

HelterSkelter224 · 08/12/2024 08:11

Some snowglobes contain antifreeze which is poisonous and as this is definitely an easily preventable accident waiting to happen then no you're not being unreasonable

VeryOddBall · 08/12/2024 08:11

Definitely put it away. If he smashes that it will be dangerous and a big mess, it's just not worth the risk.

BendingSpoons · 08/12/2024 08:06

Well it might be fine. My DCs probably would have looked and not picked it up once told. BUT it's hardly a big inconvenience to move it somewhere higher and not take the risk. So I would move it.

BabarEnFamille · 08/12/2024 08:06

I’ve got a special snow globe that I still keep out of reach of my six year old because he’s too fascinated by it!

Catza · 08/12/2024 08:04

There are essentially two schools of thought - risk aversion and positive risk taking. Risk aversion would involve removing any hazards, positive risk taking will involve warning the child of the hazard and providing instructions and supervised access (I.e. "this is heavy, hold with both hands, I will help"). Accidents can happen either way. Positive risk taking involves a lot more effort but some development literature suggests it is preferable (the whole Montessori method is based on positive risk taking).
Positive risk taking does not involve forbidding the child from touching something. Because if you do, they 100% will.
But it's easier to put things away.

ClementinePancakes · 08/12/2024 08:03

The thing with snow globes is they are really exciting and attractive to a two year old, and to make them work you have to pick them up and shake them, which is an accident waiting to happen.
It’s not fair to you two year old, however much self control he has, to put something like that within reach.
It’s different to other ornaments, or heavy glass water filled things like say, vases of flowers or fish tanks, which he might be more easily able to learn to just look without touching, because he doesn’t see adults touching them.
The snow globe he does see adults picking up. It makes it harder to remember.
Just move it up higher, no need for a complicated discussion.

christmasglobe · 08/12/2024 07:56

Annabella92 · 08/12/2024 07:04

No poll on your post, but has your DH ever been around a two year old?! Of course it'll cause an accident if you keep it on the coffee table

I'm using the mobile app, I'm not sure if you can set it up on here or if I just don't know how.

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jerenter · 08/12/2024 07:55

We have heavy snow globes we bought for DC's first Christmases. Always kept them on the mantlepiece out of reach (thinking mainly about not wanting them to break than safety). I do let my 2yo pick it up and carry it with help though (afult's hand underneath hers), because it's fascinating to a toddler and once she realises how heavy something is, she knows she needs help with it.
I don't feel the need to be in the same room as her though, she has roamed the house freely for about a year.

christmasglobe · 08/12/2024 07:55

To answer your questions, yes DH is lacking in common sense when it comes to what's ok for a two year old, clearly.

Ok I feel much better now about putting my foot down. I thought am I just being overprotective, how is this being unacceptable not obvious? I guess it is.

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