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AIBU or does anyone else thinks that most (not all) men are inherently lazy?

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SunnyPinkMouse · 07/12/2024 23:27

as I get older I am becoming more intolerable to men. I think they’re lazy. I think they are mummy’s boys. They get out of helping. They get out of doing a lot of things. They just do what they want to do. Why? Is it because their mums let them get away with this growing up and so they continue this way and then expect their wives to replace their mum?

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Nellodee · 07/12/2024 23:33

When I first meet my mother in law, she said to me, “Men need more free time than women”. I said, “No they don’t, they just have an expectation they’re going to get it.” I don’t think they’re all lazy, but I do think that if you paired up men and women and made them do the exact same amount of work, every single man would think he had done more.

Ladamesansmerci · 07/12/2024 23:33

Yeah I agree.

My brother doesn't do a single chore, and my mum is just like 'well men don't when they get home from work, they need to relax'.

But women are expected to crack on and typically be the default parent. No relaxing for us.

Chowtime · 07/12/2024 23:32

I have an idea that a significant amount of men were raised by single mothers and having seen their single mothers do everything, expect that is what all women do.

But yes, a good proportion of them are really lazy too.

everychildmatters · 07/12/2024 23:31

A big part of the problem is that women put up with it.

Comedycook · 07/12/2024 23:30

My dh isn't lazy. Loads of men aren't.
I don't think it's necessarily laziness that you mean op...I think it's selfishness at the crux of it.

sometimesmovingforwards · 07/12/2024 23:30

I disagree.
Maybe you’re just swimming in a low quality pool of example?

nonbinaryfinery · 07/12/2024 23:28

They're far too coddled.