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Vaginal Prolapse - feel like my life is over..

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BNKhash · 07/12/2024 21:54

I had two children and after my second I got my self a lovely little prolapse.

It’s between stage 1 and stage 2 and apparently not that bad.

I used to do lot of night intensity workouts and weight training and sometime feel really depressed about how the prolapse restricts what I can do.

How do people deal with that?

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SleepyCrow15 · 17/04/2025 12:49

CoolNoMore · 17/04/2025 09:04

Buff muff 🤣🤣🤣🤣

😁 yes, it’s a name that sticks in your head, at least, so that’s good!

CoolNoMore · 17/04/2025 09:04

Buff muff 🤣🤣🤣🤣

SleepyCrow15 · 16/04/2025 00:08

Look at Kim Vopni's vaginacoach.com and her app, the Buff Muff Method. She is very knowledgeable. I understand your worry. I have a triple prolapse (bladder, rectum, uterus) as I have hypermobility. Once you find a good specialist physio you’ll be able to feel more hopeful and in control, but in the meantime, or if physio isn’t an option, try Kim's website and app. Best wishes to you.

Infracat · 15/04/2025 23:11

Have you checked out Lauren Ohayon's Restore Your Core programme. Shes on insta and facebook and has a lot of info on prolapses.

Veryverycalmnow · 15/04/2025 22:51

Thanks for all the advice on here. Makes me want to make an effort to sort myself out. I had 3 prolapses after DS and I've just been putting off dealing with it.

ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 15/04/2025 22:02

Feel for you. what helps:

Time
Ceasing breastfeeding (yep)
Losing weight (I know, but it did)
Trying not to ever get constipated - water water water
Pilates
Learning proper, full torso breathing (sounds weird but it is true)
More time
Accepting it will feel a little worse before period as womb is heavier with the lining
Relaxing

Good luck

pS NHS trad kegels made it worse for me. NHS physios are rubbish imho.

Thirtyseveninlondon · 15/04/2025 21:55

Could you let me know which pelvic floor physio you saw? thanks

Katemax82 · 06/04/2025 08:55

My mil is finally having surgery to fix her prolapse next week, 45 years after her last child. It probably could have been done sooner imo

duchessofsilk · 06/04/2025 07:22

I hear you, it's horrible (I had two large babies over 9lbs). For a minor prolapse you can get it lasered - I did, and went from having to jog first thing in the morning without even a cup of coffee to being able to drink 3 cups of coffee and then running with no issues/leakage at all. Its not painful and you have to have one per year to top it up but it has really made a huge difference.

Also, traditional kegels dont work as effectively as these ones do (hypopressive kegels), they also offer a community which is very supportive: https://completecorecontrolandfitmummy.com

CoolNoMore · 06/04/2025 07:17

It was noticeably better by 12 weeks, when my hormones had calmed down. About a month later, doing my set exercises four times a day and lying down for 30 mins when the prolapse seemed bad (this was in Covid times, so I was often able to manage this) everything was much better.

I had been told that the last good bit of progress would be when I stopped breastfeeding and everything went back to normal, hormones-wise but for me that was 18 months after the birth and I was already fine so I didn't notice any further improvements.

Thirtyseveninlondon · 06/04/2025 03:12

@ByTealOtter how long did it take for it to go back to normal? thanks

Thirtyseveninlondon · 06/04/2025 03:10

How long did it take to heal it?

CoolNoMore · 04/04/2025 10:50

Hello! Just popping back to say that I'm watching baby #3 bum shuffling across the room and haven't thought about prolapse in months. Also haven't done my exercises in months, but I will now!

After #2 I was so distressed by the horrors of prolapse and couldn't see how I would ever recover. I definitely didn't think I'd want a third baby.

Find a fabulous physio and do what they say. Good luck!

Calliopespa · 04/04/2025 06:52

Sonolanona · 07/12/2024 22:04

How old are your kids? Bodies can and do heal even years and years later.
I had a prolapse after no 4 (4 children in 5 years... I'm lucky my womb didn't just drop out!) and I felt horribly depressed about it even though it wasn't a severe grade. But I did my exercises and it did improve slowly. BUT no high impact sports or lifting, no jogging.. it's just not worth it.
A couple of years later I took up Taekwondo (now a black belt).. I just had to find something that didn't make it worse!
Ultimately I did need a hysterectomy (not just for the prolapse.. heavy bleeding) but the prolapse improved by itself over time with pelvic floor exercises.

I was going to say this. No personal knowledge, but I have known friends who were very depressed and physically constrained by it at first, then slowly have improved till I now wouldn’t know if I didn’t know!

Lotsofpots · 04/04/2025 06:42

I have done @Thirtyseveninlondon

Thirtyseveninlondon · 04/04/2025 03:03

Lotsofpots · 08/12/2024 07:14

That sounds absolutely rubbish. Mine (London based) gave me loads of exercises to build up glute, back, ab strength as all of these support the pelvic floor, as well as life style adjustments. I'll PM you the details.

And definitely check out hab-it. It's cheap and excellent.

Wishing you so much luck.

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@Lotsofpots could you pm me with the pysio you used? Thanks

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BNKhash · 09/12/2024 22:54

@ByTealOtter i assume you are not in London?

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BNKhash · 09/12/2024 22:50

@JollyOldStNicholas thanks for all the tips. My physio was actually through private insurance - quite proud of her work in women’s health as well, but would’ve been better in a job as a motivational speaker or something… oh, I feel actually annoyed thinking about her

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Whattochoose1 · 08/12/2024 18:23

As others have said finding a good physio is key. Kegals actually make me worse. I got my cystocele immediately after my first, I thought life was over.

I'm pregnant with my third and just had to man handle a three year old out of the supermarket under one arm while pushing a trolley and attempting to watch a 5 year old with the other. Not my finest moment but I can confirm my vag held up well...piles on the other hand 🫠🫣

JollyOldStNicholas · 08/12/2024 13:28

TheProvincialLady · 08/12/2024 09:04

I had repair surgery without mesh and it worked extremely well for me. I have never heard of anyone having to repeat the surgery every 5-10 years and I certainly wasn’t told that was a risk. I had surgery in my early 40s and it’s possible I will have to have it again in perhaps my 60s or 70s, but thats ok with me.

Obviously non invasive methods are best, if they work.

You are one of the lucky ones. You aren't running in the circles where you would hear about those whose surgery failed I take it. Unfortunately I am and it happens far too often. This is one of the biggest issues we come up against - the lack of informed consent. Surgeons are still telling patients "oh that's not this mesh" or similar. When you dig into how many backhanders the health industry are given by the manufacturers, you start to scratch away at the truth. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

JollyOldStNicholas · 08/12/2024 13:25

edwinbear · 08/12/2024 08:55

@JollyOldStNicholas the mesh scandal is absolutely atrocious, so many women’s lives completely ruined, but I don’t think they use it anymore? I had my surgery 10y ago when mesh was very popular, however my (private) surgeon refused to use it as he felt there wasn’t enough evidence of the long term implications. He used the old fashioned ‘cut and stitch’ method which is still working perfectly well.

They absolutely do use it. I run a Facebook support group for those harmed and patients are still being offered mesh!

SallyWD · 08/12/2024 10:23

curious79 · 08/12/2024 09:41

If pelvic floor exercises help then I would get a Tena pelvic floor exerciser on Amazon . They have a probe that goes in your vagina and basically zaps you causing you to contract. Very very effective. C£65

Yes, this is exactly what a Kegal 8 machine does. Really helps, I find.

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BNKhash · 08/12/2024 10:02

And excuse the spelling… typing fast and not rereading

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Eebs · 08/12/2024 09:51

I've been doing hypopressives for my prolapse. Hypopressives with Alice on YouTube will teach you the technique. 10 mins a day has made a massive difference and I have found them better than more traditional exercises. Also the breathing techniques are relaxing. I don't notice my prolapse now but cannot say where it is at. Still nervous about weights but find yoga is no problem and really enjoy it.