AIBU to still be mortified about an embarrassing moment at a friend's house?

I have one crystal glass left from my wedding and it's lasted 15 years longer than that marriage did!
Every other glass was smashed/broken in the company of friends and having a great time. Much better than having a cupboard full of unused glasses.
Please don't worry. It's not important.

I guarantee you're thinking more about it then them. It's a big deal to you but not to them so I doubt they even thought about it past that moment

I think when something like this happens, we blow it up out of all proportion in our own heads.
You were with people who you perhaps feel don’t really “know you” yet, but you like them and have enjoyed their company and you’re worried about what they think of you and that they’ll judge you for this.
It was a mistake OP and I daresay the only person still thinking about this will be you.
I can empathise, last night I went to a Christmas party, I hadn’t met most of the people there before I went.
I’ve had a really shitty time lately, I didn’t want to go, but I did.
I had THE most amazing time, but at the very end of the evening I got all emotional in the car and cried the whole way home.
I was being comforted by my friend but the driver and other passengers I’d just met last night.
I woke up this morning feeling slightly mortified that I’d become an emotional liability at the end of the night but I had some really lovely messages from some of them, saying how lovely it was to meet me, the driver even said she hopes to be on more nights out with me and mentioned going for a cuppa sometime, and when I said how I felt they all reassured me and told me I had nothing to be sorry about.
You won’t have sabotaged your friendships if everyone is still being the same with you.
Embarrassment is an emotion that’s teamed with shame and guilt - it’s a “self conscious” emotion.
Your embarrassment, and my own, is intensified by the fear that others are judging us - but both of our incidents do not define who we are as people.
We can’t control others thoughts and opinions and everyone will have had an awkward and embarrassing moment at some point in their life.
I’ve worked my way through things today and I forgive myself.
I think you need to forgive yourself too.
Also, you must have loads of positive qualities about you to have been invited to someone’s house in such a relatively short space of time, so focus on those, live your life, and be kind to yourself (also, learning to laugh at yourself and laugh these things off helps too)

In a funny way, it may have made them all feel warmer towards you. You were obviously mortified, but they were kind and supportive about it - and we all love the chance to feel kind and supportive in the right setting, it makes us feel great about ourselves. They probably like you all the more for it!

Honestly no one will remember this. It’s huge to you. And not worth a second thought to anyone else!

I had a fantastic moment in a multi agency meeting early on in my career. Back in the day when laptops weren’t a thing and everyone brought paper based notes. About ten people I’d never met round a big table. I went to pour a jug of water and the lid came off and the entire 2L of water emptied all over the table and everyone’s notes. All I could do was laugh. It was mortifying!

I did that once.

I bought them a nice set of four unbreakable stemless wine glasses and apologized again and they were so thrilled with the gift, I don’t think they thought about my breaking their glass again.

I didn’t ask them if I could replace it, I just did it.

These things happen! That's really not that bad. I understand why you felt embarrassed, but think what your response would be if it happened at your house? You'd reassure them it really didn't matter and clean up, and even if it was a bit annoying about the food you'd want them to stop feeding bad about a silly mistake that anyone could make.

Lots and lots of people have these sorts of intrusive thoughts, so YANBU yo have them. Your friends won't care though. And if for some reason they are part of the tiny minority of people who did care, they're dickheads anyway.

Listen to Wheel of Misfortune on BBC Sounds - it will make you feel loads better.

I broke 3 of my boss' crystal flute glasses, at his 60th birthday party. He and his wife got them for their wedding. I was not drunk. They were fine about it* but I was absolutely crimson.

• He was. I think she was secretly pretty pissed off but was a good hostess.

You don't have to beat yourself up about it, but sending flowers or something would have been the thing to do.

Yes, I was thinking that too. About me, I mean.

I wish this was the most embarrassing thing I’d ever done.

You need to get over this, and over yourself. We all break things. We all have mishaps. Be embarrassed if you did it because you were drunk, or because you did it on purpose. Be embarrassed if you'd already been asked not to drink wine in that room, but carried on anyway.

Try watching some episodes of "Keeping Up Appearances" and see what poor Elizabeth went through. That woman suffered big time.

I suspect they will barely remember the incident if you ask them.

When you host stuff occasionally gets knocked over and broken and you just accept it.

Only time it become remarkable is if it keeps happening! One of my friends is super clumsy and it's a running joke in our friendship group about their accidents. Best one in my house was a bottle of port on my brand new beige carpet. Best one in their own house was a litre bottle of olive oil on their brand new unpolished granite work top which bore a slightly glossy mark for the rest of the time they owned that property.

They also engage in the joke - next time they came round to the beige carpet flat they bought me a red wine removal spray and when I moved I got a household stain removal kit. They've also moved to those riedel wine tumblers at home to reduce the knocking over risk and I tend not to give them a champagne flute even if we are drinking fizz.

It's a non event, these things happen.

Make it into your in joke. Get the host a bottle of wine and matching glass as a Christmas present. And move on.

I think you should be embarrassed by how disappointing this event is! Title of embarrassing moment at a friends house, I was expecting something much more.

In all seriousness, it’s not really embarrassing. We have all done similar and I doubt they have given it a second thought x

You’re definitely over thinking this!

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Unless there's something more to this story you're coming across like you could do with talking to someone. It's not normal to be so embarrassed about knocking over a glass of wine. Is it usual for you to take such minor incidents and make them so major in your mind? You sound very anxious.

The wine/glass incident is an accident that could happen to anyone. I'm sure nobody else is thinking about it anymore.

However I thought it was interesting that you said 'I wasn't even that drunk' - so were you a bit drunk? I'd be wary of getting drunk at a 'quiet gathering' with new friends. Obviously you know the context and people and number of drinks better but I"ve been in situations where there's one or two people drinking to excess in a situation where nobody else is and that really is annoying.

Sorry I went off at such a tangent

He doesn’t think of it at all, I should have said. Probably can’t remember it either.

Just forget your accident, it was an accident , and these things happen x

My drunken husband, spilt red wine over a neighbours white upholstered dining chair, got completely drunk at their housewarming party in front of all of our new neighbours and their friends, and hugged the two gay hosts quite a lot.

It was disquieting and very embarrassing at the time, many years ago. I just didn’t recognise him at all, and it was very surprising. I was not drinking.

I guarantee you're the only one thinking of this OP. Let it go.