AIBU to still be mortified about an embarrassing moment at a friend's house?

I thought you were going to say something much worse. Could happen to anyone, doesn't reveal anything embarrassing about you, I get it was awful at the time but everyone else will not be dwelling on it or giving it a second thought now.

It was an accident, these things happen.

When I first met my now DH, we were having dinner in his parents garden. I think it was the first time I had met them. It was a boiling hot day and I was in flip flops. I went upstairs to use the loo and decided my feet were a bit hot and sweaty and I was worried about them smelling .... so for some weird reason I thought it would be a good idea to fill the sink with water and wash my feet in it.

The moment I put my foot in the sink split and all the water fell into the cupboard below 😁.... I was horrified, on my hands and knees trying to mop up all this soapy water which had covered everything ... soggy loo roll etc.

This was the 80s and it was a plastic shell sink that had been previously repaired apparently. I was so embarrassed but his parents were fab about it.

Why on watch were you sitting on the floor?

No wonder the glass got knocked over.

That's on your host not you unless you chose to sit on the floor.

I wouldn’t even remember it if that happened in my house, these things happen. You’re over thinking it so you need to train your brain to be quiet. I talk to mine - like in the Chimp Paradox.

If only my embarrassing moments (which I can still cringe about decades later) were as inane as a broken wine glass. Yes it can be a bit embarrassing in the moment but that’s all it is (unless it ended up causing thousands of pounds worth of damage).

If no damage was caused I’d have forgotten about it once it was cleared up.

Friend of my parents opened a champagne bottle around the dinner table. Cork flew out and smashed the glass light fitting above the table, showering all the food in glass.

You're overthinking. No one else will give it a second thought, except maybe to be glad it wasn't them. I do this too, and to try not to, I think of the things I could have done which would have been much worse....😂

Watch this - https://www.facebook.com/share/r/EBh6pXdhjgr6qZPJ/?mibextid=UalRPS

it's amazingly real for me - I’d feel the same with mini flash backs for years. This comedy song is quite therapeutic 😂

Can't say I'd give it a second thought if someone did that in my house op! Give it a 5 minute funeral and then move on!

I took a whole table of glasses with me to the floor omg 😲 but I was so drunk I didn't even remember it so yours was nothing at the side of mine don't worry about it get on with your life lol

When will it stop plaguing my mind?!

When you decide to let it go.

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I’ll make you feel better, OP.

I was once at a friend’s house, two couples, four kids. Drink had been taken, and music went on. We were dancing in the kitchen, and I was throwing a few shapes, saw my reflection in the bifolds, thought I looked ok. Having a little party for one, I was.

Then I heard my friend’s husband say, “She’s watching herself in the French windows.” Instant bucket of cold water, cringe city.

At least yours was an accident 😂

Years ago my husband's MD invited us (including our 4 year old son) over for a Christmas drinks evening. They had a beautiful home & an almost completely white/cream colour scheme- sofa, carpet & curtains. DS dropped his blackcurrant juice over & managed to get it everywhere. I felt dreadful. Hostess was lovely & said she thought the splash of colour was an improvement.

That's basically nothing at all, a small accident. If you'd lived my life, you'd need therapy.

Just get her a nice new set of glasses and gift them to her. Everyone happy

The thread title suggests you did something awful. You broke a glass. It happens.

Do you generally suffer with anxiety?
It's the sort of thing that would plague me, but I do have social anxiety. I can understand why you feel that way, they were new friends and colleagues and you wanted to make a good impression, however I can also see it as an outsider because, it's not MY embarassing situation! I wouldn't think twice about it if someone else did it at my house, or a friends house, and if anything, would feel for the person that did it and was embarrassed and apologetic. They aren't treating you differently, they don't care! Keep telling yourself this and give yourself a break. You will probably laugh about it together in the future

Stop worrying about if. I am the clumsiest person. It has been one a joke in my circus of friends. I think they would be disappointed if I didn’t do something!!!

please free yourself from embarrassment over this! Everyone in the world has done something clumsy and broken something at one point or another. It’s a very normal, human thing and I doubt anyone thought badly of you for it. If they did that’s on them for being weird and unforgiving of normal human foibles.

Count yourself lucky if that's the height of embarrassing moments that haunt you 😂

Who amongst us doesn't shatter wine glasses monthly? No one cares.

However if anyone hears you saying 'cliqued with' IRL you will be friendless and whispered about for ever.

you would be right to feel this way if you had-pissed on the front lawn-snogged the host-left your knickers in a plant pot. `you did none of these so it does not merit a seconds further thought.

I've done it plenty of times in the pub when surrounded by friends. I tend to talk with my hands in a very animated fashion and unless I'm really paying attention, I'm liable to knock a few pints over. I replace them, we all dry off with blue paper from the bar and we carry on as normal. In the scheme of things, swiping a glass of white wine over doesn't really register on any scale of importance. It happens.

I'm think this a great idea.

I'm sure the host is not giving it another thought.

My toddler threw a random glass that was left poolside into the swimming pool in our resort, but it smashed against the side on the way in dispersing shards all over and the whole place has to be evacuated for the afternoon until staff cleared it all out. Now that was embarrassing.