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To not want anymore pre-christmas catch ups?

33 replies

SunQueen24 · 07/12/2024 19:40

Just that really, I have an urge to hibernate until spring. I have been on atleast 4 Christmas meets now - evening dinners and everytime would really rather stay home. I do like to be sociable, but this time of year just feels so busy, rushed and pressured. I have young DC and am working, juggling children’s Christmas commitments and shuffling my hours around to make school mince pie sales, two nativities or whatever else.

From 4pm I just want to put on my PJ’s/lounge wear and hunker down. I don’t want to juggle childcare and arrange a sitter and I’m happy with eating with the kids.

I don’t want to sound ungrateful, I’m fortunate to have several friendship groups. I’m just worn out! I’ve had another message today to agree a date before Christmas - bah humbug!

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evtheria · 07/12/2024 19:51

Just explain everything feels really full on at the moment, and you'd really like a relaxing December just chilling at home with the family! I would totally get it if my friend said this if I suggested going for a night out.
You can even (only if you mean it) suggest 'let's plan something fun for January', which is when everyone is usually moaning how down they feel after all the celebrations.

SunQueen24 · 07/12/2024 19:46

hazelnutvanillalatte · 07/12/2024 19:43

It's busy but I love it, especially with kids

I love Christmas too. I feel like I have enough capacity for the kids and their stuff, but the meals out and friendship groups is what is tipping me over the edge.

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WhatNoRaisins · 07/12/2024 19:45

I understand feeling a bit peopled out and needing to say no sometimes.

SunQueen24 · 07/12/2024 19:44

Ggmores · 07/12/2024 19:43

Of course not, just decline. I love it and would hate to spend an evening with someone who didn’t want to be there.

I do have a good time when I’m out. It’s just the effort of it all! I wouldn’t regret not going but equally value my friends and don’t want to be a killjoy!

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hazelnutvanillalatte · 07/12/2024 19:43

It's busy but I love it, especially with kids

Ggmores · 07/12/2024 19:43

Of course not, just decline. I love it and would hate to spend an evening with someone who didn’t want to be there.

Roxie99 · 07/12/2024 19:42

Literally same

fuckthemail · 07/12/2024 19:41

Same