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DP's mum pointed out lack of acknowledgement - feeling embarrassed and uncared for

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stormyscotts · 07/12/2024 16:09

I’ve been with my partner for 18 months, and moved in with him 3 months ago. He has a little girl from a previous relationship who is 6. I met her and her mum together at the beginning of this year and have been in her life quite a bit since then. Partner asks me sometimes to look after her if he is working which I don’t mind doing as she is lovely. Her mum has dropped her off this morning to us and partner left to do his hobby at 12pm, got back at 3pm.

DPs mum is currently staying with us as she is experiencing some problems with her house, so as DP came in, I was sitting in the room with her and my dps little girl.

He came in, said hi to his little girl and his mum but not to me. He sat next to me but didn’t acknowledge me at all. I thought I was just being sensitive but it did surprise me. Then DPs mum said “aren’t you going to say hello to stormyscotts?” He said in a joking way “hiiiii stormyscotts”. DPs mum looked awkward and I felt embarrassed, but had to keep playing with DPs little girl.

He then came up to me about 10 mins after and asked for a hug.

Aibu that this is rude? I have been looking after his daughter, speaking with his mum and I just feel taken for granted, don’t expect much but some acknowledgement might be nice.

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stormyscotts · 07/12/2024 16:21

RubyRedBow · 07/12/2024 16:17

Is he always like that? I find it strange and ignorant.

No, usually he’ll say hello and give me a kiss/hug even in front of friends and family. He’s now apologising but it’s mortifying his mum has seen him act like that with me. It makes me feel like he doesn’t even want to see me.

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RubyRedBow · 07/12/2024 16:17

Is he always like that? I find it strange and ignorant.

Catbabymammy · 07/12/2024 16:16

Who provided childcare for the hobby before you moved in?

MounjaroUser · 07/12/2024 16:15

Eleven percent think he's acted in a reasonable way - have a look at the absolute losers that so many women put up with on these threads. They know no better.

MounjaroUser · 07/12/2024 16:15

Ugh he's awful. He's just using you for babysitting and doesn't even think he needs to acknowledge your existence.

Where were you living before? Can you move back?

Hatty65 · 07/12/2024 16:13

Dump and run.

You've lived with him 3 months and he's already treating you like unpaid childcare.

What type of arsehole goes off to do a hobby for 3 hours leaving his gf and his mum looking after his 6 yo DD? She was there for contact with her dad - not to be treated like an unwanted parcel by him. Clearly he sees women as less important than him and his fun time.

He's not a keeper.