DP's mum pointed out lack of acknowledgement - feeling embarrassed and uncared for

I agree. I was warned about doing too much in a similar (but not live in) situation. I thought it was a bit mean but they were good people and although I wasn't 100% in agreement I did take their advice. Mumsnet often warns against this as well. It's not easy to stay out of the trap but I am glad I listened.

I understand you like the little girl and that's great but that's not the issue. There'll be a day when you have to sort childcare so that you can go out. You will become/or are becoming the default childcare already. He's going out to do other things during his contact time. This is what he'd rather do than spend time with her and you are facilitating it.

If he normally greets you when he comes in, I wouldn't get that worked up about one occasion which he apologised for. I wouldn't greet everyone individually on coming home, I'd be more likely to just say 'hiya' to the room in general! It's nice that his mum pulled him up on it though 😊

Surely it doesn’t matter if you don’t mind looking after her, she’s there to see her dad not you. He shouldn’t want to go and do his hobby when he’s supposed to be spending time with his daughter?!
The way he doesn’t prioritise spending the time with his own daughter shows he is selfish and is a huge red flag in itself.
His mother sounds reasonable and nice, just a shame he sounds like a knob.

The fact that you don’t mind looking after his child isn’t really relevant. The point is that’s the time he should be using to build a relationship with her.

Also “He now will make it a big deal that I’m offended” shows that you know he’s an arse.

Honestly, get out of this while it’s still fairly easy to.

I wouldn’t expect to be treated like that after 23 years, let alone 3 months!!!

Thank goodness his Mum noticed it and also had the grace and thoughtfulness to call out her son.

Consider yourself very gently warned OP.

What are your plans for moving back out?

Because even if you're not ready to do that yet, you will be soon.

Not interested in your or his daughter. Wonder why it didn't work out with the girl's mum.

You are his "help" - time to throw him back.

I don’t mind looking after his little girl, she is lovely and easy to look after.

If he would rather do his hobby she might as well be at home with her mum. Are you also cooking, cleaning and washing his clothes? While he’s moody?

How old are you both?

It doesn't matter if you don't mind. He should be spending time with his daughter not swanning off to a hobby for three hours.

His daughter is there to see him

He’s got you as a live in nanny, get shut!

OP it sounds like you're a glorified babysitter...at first you said you only look after her when he's at work, but then he's gone for 3 hours to do his hobby. Alarm bells should be ringing here - he's massively taking the piss.

It doesn't matter that you don't mind, he shouldn't be dumping that on you. You are only in the very early stages of a relationship, it should still be fun and light, not all taking on his responsibilities.

He is taking the piss out of you.

Do you know what else he doesn't acknowledge when he gets back after a 3hr hobby session... all of these other domestic appliances in the house.

Stop facilitating his life like proving free childcare and see how much worse he treats you.

I don’t think big assumptions about his character or intentions can be made because he failed to personally greet you on one occasion. He has apologised so I wouldn’t give it another thought!

You were doing him a favour by looking after his child. He didn’t have to work, he was doing his hobby.

Does he often put his hobby before spending time with his child?

Three months in? Blimey. Get rid.

Exactly. He's a lazy, selfish parent. Get rid.

The fact you even know he’s going to make a big deal of it, tells you you’re in an abusive relationship. It’s only going to get worse. I’d end this.

So you've lived with him for three months and you're already doing his childcare and he couldn't be bothered to say Hello. Be a bit cautious here Op or you'll find yourself doing far too much- it's one thing if he really has to work but quite another if it's so he can do his hobby- don't be a pushover to impress him

How great his mum doesnt seem to think the sun shines out of her sons arsehole, something different. His mum sounds like a keeper, to bad her son comes with the package.

Why is he going off to do his hobby when he should be spending time with his dd?

The only person who should be mortified is him! You are not in any way responsible for his shitty behaviour and that is the only thing at fault here
i hope you told him to shove it when he asked for a hug? Selfish bastard should have been looking after his daughter, it’s HIM she is supposed to be there to see. What a bloody loser!

Even his own mother thinks he's an arsehole.

When someone tells you they are, listen. And when it's backed up by their mum, listen and then run!

You're his live in nanny