DP's mum pointed out lack of acknowledgement - feeling embarrassed and uncared for

Don’t be one of the many, many disappointed women who cling on to a substandard man because they feel attached/obligated/feel they love them - and then two or five or ten years later it all goes to shit anyway.

Don't even waste another week on him @stormyscotts .

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Suspect I know why he's single....

What did he do for childcare before you met?

Others have already said it, but it's not about whether or not you don't mind looking after his DD - it's the fact that this is his limited time to see his DD and he's choosing his hobby over it, and then on top of that expecting you to do the childcare without so much as a thank you.

It's a massive sign of his character.

Are you wanting to have your own DC in future? How much effort do you think he would bring to that, from his current example?

This is not a man you want to have DC with.

If she does this he'll no doubt get nasty.
Probably finish with her and find another mug to do it.
These guys always find a poor woman with a low bar.

Some men, the shit ones, audition nanny/housekeeper girlfriends very quickly. They want someone to do the housework, childcare, shag them, but they don't actually want a real relationship.

Women are trained to audition to be a house elf and then they find themselves here.

Does he do lots of housework, is great in bed, treats you like a queen, contributes fairly to the expenses? Or not. If the first, tell him and hope he stays told. If the second, RUN.

Throw it back!!!

This, please listen.

So he gaslights you when HE behaves badly that you are making a fuss.

That's abusive behaviour.
You are already in an abusive relationship with a shit father who moved you in to be skivvy aupair to his child.

He's scum and your lack of self respect means you have an utterly miserable life ahead of you if you don't wake up.

No decent father fxxks off to a hobby when they should be spending time with their child, and leaves their child with the skivvy aupair that is foolish enough to accept it.

I bet his ex thinks he is a selfish loser.

You accept this as your lot and you have nothing but misery ahead of you.

You deserve better.
Get away while you have a chance.

I'm going to hazard a guess & ask, is there an age gap between you? I feel he's taking you for an absolute mug.

You are not that little girls mother. Even if she is "lovely" you should mind looking after her... it should be up to the parents to sort child care.

As others have pointed out, he's using you for a live in nanny. Dump & run.

Why are you lojoking after his child so he can pursue an optional hobby?

It would be different if he needs you to look after the kid because he had to bring his mum to the doctor or something.

He sounds like a poor parent and a poor partner. Not attractive.

initially i thought-bbit of big deal-if a one off/generally all good.
nearly scrolled on-but- went back-rereaad. few things. First up- 3 hours hobby instead of seeing his daughter ? Not good, priorities!-providing (you)adequate child care is not ok. Apart from imposing on 3hrs of YOUR free time ,its not pqarenting/being dad. Is her mam aware that wee one doesnt see him tol 3pm?why not have drop off then instead.
cake \eat it.
next-his mum. Whilst jolly decent able have her stay, it still a bit of an imposition. Seems like you ,her,wee one managing fine.surface good tho.
Biggest red flag ever -When a partners mum calls them out-on the spot for (mal)treatment of you. Significant as maybe woulda let slide otherwise, it is kinda rude to not say hi-but i guess in rship-eye contct could sorta cover acknowledged at least? IGNORED isnt ok, unlikely his ma tryna stir pot?
"he will now make big deal im offended""??like over compensate-super attentive or mocking/snide? or? nything other rthan corrected behaviour is shite tho.
on no mum there,no daughter there time-how are things?3months isnt long. Unhappiness cn drag out. You are never compelled or obliged to "settle"

If you're not quite ready to believe all the good advice here, why don't you test the waters a little.

Stop doing any childcare - just be busy every time.
Tell him you aren't there to entertain his mum, so if she's there, he needs to be there too.
Only do 50% of the shopping, cooking and cleaning. Don't do his laundry.
And see how it plays out.

Raise your bar and leave.

You are his unpaid nanny with benefits. He will bin you when he no longer needs free childcare.

Clearly he had something on his mind. He screwed up, MIL called him out on it, and it seems like he felt bad afterwards.
He’s not a lost cause. If he asks, I’d say, if not, I’d move forward.
Sounds like you have a nice dynamic with SD.

I think it’s really rude he left you to do childcare and went to his hobby! I’d look after the child in your circumstances if he’d got a medical appt or something but not just going for golf or whatever. His child is there to see him not you!

Right ☹️. And OP's only been in for 3 months.

Why would you even want to be with a man that, presumably, only sees his daughter on weekends and then uses that time to go to a fucking hobby??!

Bin him

You are now very much the unappreciated nanny, sex doll, housekeeper, and unpaid. Get yourself some therapy as to why you are putting up with this appalling treatment and get out.

If you choose to stay, you'll be sacked without grace the day this child can manage without you. Roughly age 14/15/16. Dont waste your life like this.

He's awful.
He's supposed to have contact time with his little girl so he can maintain a relationship with her and spend time with her, do nice things with her etc. But no, he goes out for 3 hours to his "hobby" leaving her with his relatively new partner who he's only been living with for 3 months.
He's already using you as default childcare and that's not on.

I feel like for his Mum to point it out it’s got to be pretty bad.

I expect the relationship with the little girl’s mum broke up due to this kind of thing.