DP's mum pointed out lack of acknowledgement - feeling embarrassed and uncared for

He asked for a hug? I know what my reaction would have been. Get out of there OP. You deserve more.

You say you "don’t expect much". I mean, this man presumably was so head over heels for you three months ago that he couldn't bear to live apart from you any longer, right? And now he can't even be arsed to say hello when he comes home? I think you should be expecting a lot more, tbh.

The best time to get off the wrong train is the first possible stop, OP. The sooner you leave, the sooner you can find the right person (or at least treat yourself the way you deserve).

I wonder if OP will be back. I think this might be the first in a series of cognitive dissonance events that takes a while to come to fruition.

Why live together? you can date and live separately. Was it his idea for you to move in with him? what would have happened if you had said,,,
"I'm not ready to meet your DD for another year or so and I don't want to move in with you until your DD is 18, I want to enjoy this relationship and we each keep our own space"
Would he have respected this as he is so in love with you or would he be out there interviewing the next live in nanny the same day.

A year after meeting my partner we went over to his parents to do some DIY jobs for them. I remember seeing him sanding some cabinets before painting them and blowing the dust everywhere when he had a Hoover next to him. So, seating there with his parents I politely asked him to use the Hoover instead and he was very rude and defensive to me (in front of his parents) to the point his mum pushed him to the kitchen and said he should never speak to me like that again. 10 years down the line and I regret the day I didn't notice this red flag. Love can be blind but you should listen to your instincts, there's a reason why you posted this OP. Good luck

Do not back down here and let him make it your problem that you’re upset. ‘I am only upset because you behaved like that, the cause is your rudeness.’ ‘You don’t get to be mad at me for being upset you were an arse. Don’t be an arse and the problem is fixed.’

He should be parenting. Not you babysitting.

You don’t mind, but that’s not the point. His daughter is there for contact with him.

Moody isn’t a great feature in a man. It’s not going to get any better, is it?

Good relationships just aren’t this difficult.

You’re very lucky his mum has your back. She seems great. However that was shitty of him. I would take this one on the chin but explain how hurtful it was. If it became a pattern I’d be considering if it’s the relationship for me.

Well at least his mum noticed his bad manners and called him out, I bet she will have a few words to say to him while you are away. If you do decide to stay, I think you need to set some basic ground rules about being appreciative of your input with his family.
Just wondering did he stay out longer because he knows you are going away till Xmas eve, is he annoyed about this so is punishing you psychologically?

18 months is not a long time together for someone with a child to be moving in with a partner (at 15 months). Your DP could still be putting on his best behaviour and now after 3 months of moving in together his mask started slipping. His mother is calling him out because probably that's how he treated his ex.

I think you got a jewel of a future MIL there. She understands the situation. Some men think it's the normal female role to care for children without acknowledgment. She is on your side. I can't help but believe she sees the care you provide to her grandchild. Give it some time.

I think in his mind, you’re in a different place of honor and didn’t require a shoutout as noted by his sitting beside you. Don’t overthink it, in this particular case bf is fine.

No unreasonable. It’s disrespectful and weird behaviour. I’d would invite him to have a conversation about it. And don’t feel gas lit if he throws it back to you. Otherwise… it a massive red flag.
good luck

I’m horrified by your aggression 🤶

His own mother can see he's a waste of space.

3 months in and he's already using you for free childcare while he swans off to do his hobby.
His DD is there for contact time with HIM. Not an afternoon with daddy's girlfriend. I'm sure you're lovely and she had a nice time, but poor kid must be getting some very mixed messages.

OP why don't you do what a previous poster has suggested and tell him you are not available for babysitting going forward. See what his response is...it will tell you whether he simply sees you as an available resource or not.

First response nailed it!

Make arrangements to move out.
This is not a good one.

You will bitterly regret it if you move on from this and stay.
He's a loser.

I’m horrified he’s leaving his six year old with some random girl he met a few weeks ago.

The fact his DD is fine with being dumped on a stranger tells me that she is regularly left with whoever this prince happens to be fucking, with no concern whatsoever from her dad about the safety or happiness of his child. I have a seven year old and he would be deeply unsettled at being left with a complete stranger, because it never fucking happens to him.

Your partner is a shit parent, and if I was his ex I’d be going back to court to get contact varied to stop him leaving our child with a parade of fucking randoms.

First post nailed it and all that…