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DH, Wedding, Sick Children AIBU?

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NewMomma21 · 07/12/2024 13:39

My “D”H and I were due to attend a wedding today. On Wednesday night DS3 became very unwell, unmanageable temp& bad cough. Went to GP Thursday and he has a bad chest infection prescribed steroids and antibiotics. I told DH I wouldn’t be able to attend wedding as I don’t ask grandparents to mind sick children. That was fine he seemed unbothered.
Come Friday I became very unwell. The same symptoms but with total exhaustion on top of it as DS had not slept for the last few nights. I was barely able to get myself to the doctor as I was so weak and faint from temp and coughing. I collected my prescription for steroids, antibiotics, inhalers. While in the pharmacy DH called to get me to collect his suit for the wedding while I was out. I explained how sick I was, how there was no parking, it was raining heavily and most importantly I didn’t think he could attend as I could barely stand up and couldn’t be at home alone to take care of two DC in the state I was in. He insisted I collect the suit. In the car on the way home I vomited profusely and was barely able to keep my eyes open. When I got home and said this his only response was did you get my suit. Roll on last night and second DC 14m has come down with the same dose, poor thing is miserable cried all night. I told DH he categorically could not go to the wedding we are all on knees here and I cannot capably mind sick DC. Only when I said if you go to the wedding don’t come back here did he relent.
I am devastated he has not shown any concern for me or DC. I am rarely sick. He thinks I BU for not asking grandparents to come help so he can go to a former colleagues wedding. I think he is BU for being so uncaring and selfish.

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heldinadream · 07/12/2024 13:48

I think it's a bloody shame the vomit didn't end up all over his lovely suit.

Hoppinggreen · 07/12/2024 13:46

If it was his brother I can see why he would be so determined to go but its a former colleague, he is being a selfish Dick

Octonaut4Life · 07/12/2024 13:45

That is outrageously poor behavior. He owes you an extremely groveling apology.

Alalalala · 07/12/2024 13:44

What a detestable selfish fool he’s being.

AnotherEmma · 07/12/2024 13:42

A former colleague? Is that it?! If it was his childhood best friend or sibling/cousin or something, I'd understand him not wanting to miss it, but a former colleague. FFS.

Also I really hope you didn't collect his suit. Selfish arsehole.

Anewuser · 07/12/2024 13:41

He’s a selfish prick and I hope he catches your bug.

Bet he’ll wear his dressing gown of doom then.

Get well soon.