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Does everyone feel like this a lot as they get older?

211 replies

Hunkkp · 07/12/2024 07:58

Or is it not that common and I need help?!

I don’t know how to explain it well, but I am basically quite often a mildly angry, frustrated and irritated woman. I can be perfectly pleasant and believe that’s how I come across most of the time as describe me as positive and upbeat and kind…. But inside I’m rarely these things!!!

Honestly, so many things make me angry inside. Bad service, traffic, the weather! I’m a miserable git. I didn’t used to be so pessimistic. Is this just life?

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Derogations · 07/12/2024 08:27

I have this and it’s scaring me. I remember what I thought of middle aged dragons and swearing I wouldn’t become one. And yet, I think I have become one. It’s upsetting.

MeanderingGently · 07/12/2024 08:24

No I do not, so not everyone, no. I'm now in my 60s and have become less angry, calmer and more contented as the years have gone by.

However, I am surrounded by angry, miserable sods of all ages who can't stop complaining about everything under the sun. If this thread helps me to understand why, I'd be extremely interested!

Eyesopenwideawake · 07/12/2024 08:24

Nope. At 61 I've realised that getting upset about stuff achieves fuck all (apart from making me miserable) so I chose not to. You do have that option.

Spagettifunctional · 07/12/2024 08:19

Yeah I am like that (I’m 46) just mildly unhappy all the time

WarmFrogPond · 07/12/2024 08:14

No.

MikeRafone · 07/12/2024 08:14

I had a bit of this in my 30s but sat myself down & sorted out what was important to be upset by & the rest just let it go. Otherwise it would really only affect my happiness

that old saying, you can’t control others behaviour but you can control how you react to other behaviour

if I get bad service, I just say I found that an unpleasant interaction, they can take it or leave it.

just let it go

Prettydisgustingactually · 07/12/2024 08:13

Absolutely describes me 😥😥. Drop something on the floor, rage! Someone too slow in the queue, red mist, dark mornings and evenings make me want to kill people…the list goes on 😡😡

Miloarmadillo2 · 07/12/2024 08:12

Yep - grumpy old woman with a very thin veneer of being pleasant. Sick of everybody’s crap.

Meganssweatycrotch · 07/12/2024 08:07

Yup. I e just embraced it 🤣

TwinklingPink · 07/12/2024 08:06

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SENMUMwhatnext · 07/12/2024 07:58

Perimenopause for me. It greatly reduced with HRT.