Does everyone feel like this a lot as they get older?

Yep, I said exactly that to the endocrinologist about the tired/wired thing. It's a complete head fuck of a feeling isn't it😅

I second this. The same thing happened to me four years ago, I was so irritable and it was Graves Disease (triggered by Covid). Thankfully 18 months of medication got it under control.

I reorganised my life, moved house etc. Now I don't have to deal with a long commute, bad traffic or a lazy partner. I wasn't prepared to spend the next 40 years tolerating mindless things.

I don't mind the weather though. Life is good. I'm 60. 🤗

May I ask if you’re in your late 50s/60s?

It seems like those in their 40s are agreeing with the OP’s statement and those in their 60shave moved on from it? Speaking broadly. So it does seem hormonal. I feel like I’ve been in a bad mood since my first child was born in my mid 30s. Went from baby-related knackered was on to 40s hormonal rage it seems. I definitely need to find my zen somehow….

This.

People at work always remark how calm I am and how I don't let things get to me but it's taken me a long time to get to this stage. Previously I was an angry wee wummin 😂

Also, a bit of this

I agree with this, I reached the point where I realised how pointless, destructive and self-defeating it was to feel like this and started making a conscious effort to be more positive. I’m not claiming that I never get angry any more, but I’ve got a lot better at focusing on the positive and moving on, and I’m much happier for it.

Completely the opposite. Maybe due to menopause, maybe due to life in my 50s being so much better. Maybe because I now have the time and resources to take care of myself and know what I need to do to keep my physical and mental health on track. Probably all three. My anger is now only triggered by the big external serious stuff. If you queue jump or are 10 minutes late, drink the last of the coffee or say the wrong thing about my new curtains..oh well.

We all lose optimism as we get older because we've experienced too much.

Re: weather - that stuff just affects people in mid life more. We have things that must be done. At 22 on a crap weather day you just stay indoors and think no more about it. Same with public service delivery; it's because you're using those services. There are far more opportunities to get annoyed.

Oh op, you are absolutely not alone.
Perimenopause has turned me into a right miserable bitch 🤣
Everything pisses me off, and woe betide any door handle that catches onto my clothing as I walk through, it’ll feel the full force of my wrath 🤣

I can’t take HRT, so my poor DH has got no choice but to ride the rollercoaster with me.

Not at all. In fact a lot more even-tempered now I'm in the second half of my life.

Word! That horrid tired-wired combo, and my mood... it was like steroids on steroids...

🤬😴

That sounds really hard.

I get like that when I’m really burnt out. It’s a sign that I have too much else on my plate and don’t have the resilience to deal with minor annoyances. It might be that you’re juggling too much and it’s chipping away at your reserves. That can very easily make you feel miserable and pessimistic about the world.

This. Manners are terrible. No emotional resilience to behave stoically. It benefits yourselves and others to behave. By all means have a cry to a close few.

I think this is hormones/peri/menopause/thyroid/give yourself a good talking to.

The Karen videos on YouTube are just society taking the mick out of women getting to a certain age. Yes they behave awfully but I find it a worrying misogynistic trend for the general rage we get at our age.

Quite often! As a PP said, sometimes I give myself a talking to and focus on what is actually important long term, rather than short term frustrations, but it can be hard! I do think that there has been a general lowering of standards across society in many ways, less politeness, selfishness on the rise, the end of good old fashioned good manners. I can’t imagine my GP behaving like some of the people you see described here - cartwheels at a funeral, anyone?

Stop drinking affiliated coffee. I found it makes me angsty.

But I also think it's the point when we wake up and see the sh1t for what it is having spent years just accepting it. Don't put up with it or moan, use it positively to influence change.

Same here, rage like you wouldn't believe along with the complete shatteredness which only made it worse. Hyperthyroidism is a bitch!

Perimenopause impacts me this way. I'm finding that daily meditation & exercise helps a bit

No - definitely not something that's inevitable with age/perimenopause

Not yet, no. I’m pretty easy going.

only thing I’m finding is that life is a series of chores and a lot of work. And not a lot of joy / fun. But it doesn’t make me angry, just tired.

Get your thyroid checked. I’ve suffered from unexplained rages this year and found out I had hyperthyroidism which was causing me all kinds of health issues which I’d assumed were peri menopausal related.

Yes, I went through a phase of this but am out the other side now at 60.

I basically don’t give a fuck. Stoicism is very useful for this.

It seems to be common in perimenopause, due to hormone changes, and is one of the many reasons women take HRT.

Common doesn't mean inevitable though (eg, it's not something I've experienced).