Does everyone feel like this a lot as they get older?

Yes I guess it depends where you live too!

My sister, yes. She is now 60 and has been expressing those feelings for several years. In her case she has raised 4 kids, works despite physical pains that can't be fixed and they are in debt. Recently she and her DH have decided to sell the house and clear their debt, and this seems to have given them both a focus. Personally at that age I'd not be wanting to live in a caravan again but apparently the debt has been weighing on them both (he's 65).
What are your life circumstances?

People make decisions and often the result of a series of smaller decisions puts them some place they don't want to be. Consider if you have some underlying worries that keep you in a state of perpetual anxiety.

@SENMUMwhatnext Do you mind me asking how old you are? I approached gp about peri menopause as I am so erratic with moods, gross night sweats, brain fog, painful back (usual things) she recommended I tried talking therapy and said it was quite early and being on hrt for a long time isn't recommended. I was surprised, and I'll probably go back, just wondered about your experiences/age. I'm desperate to be a normal human again. Thanks

I think you will come out of this and feel more content. I am much older and am calm and quite happy.

Yeah!

And yes I know I sound ANGRY, before someone comes on with the predicable tedious 'CALM DOWN' and 'you sound soooo angry' type comments.

Boils my piss that does. 'You sound angry' and 'calm down' is usually said to try to shut down women.

Don't tell me calm down. Who do you think you are?! 😆

If I wanna rant and rave I will!

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Well yeah, I am mid-late 50s, and I still feel 'the rage' with things (and people) some days, and like I just CBA with most people. As I said earlier in the thread, I used to be sociable, and enjoy socialising from teens to mid-late 40s. Just CBA now. Whilst some people are fine, and I'm not anti-human, as I said, too many people piss me off/get on my nerves/bug me, and/or they're spiteful and bitchy, and I've had enough of peoples shit. Seriously, fuck them all to fucking hell now. I don't need ANYone except my DH, and my 2 adult DD. I can't see myself 'mellowing' as I enter my 60s.

This just popped up on Pinterest....I'm guessing the algorithm gods have been listening lol

This. ^

I'm 61...I wish I were like you! I try so hard to be, but I'm noticing I'm getting much grumpier than I used to be though I try not to let it show! I was a bit of a people pleaser when I was younger so I may be rebelling now I'm older

Jesus same here, I'm literally raging all the time.

Then I get annoyed at myself for being annoyed at stuff I know really isn't worth being annoyed about.

I'm 46 if that's relevant.

I’ve noticed as I’ve gotten older a really bad intolerance to almost everything. I don’t even drive anymore because I’m in the car 2 minutes before I’m enraged and swearing like a sailor, it pisses me off for the rest of the day and I can’t get past it. I am perimenopausal and on progesterone only. I find my moods peak to raging point and I totally lose it then when I’m more pleasant I’m quiet, masking happiness and wrangling anxiety. I just crack on. Sometimes I get that enraged I just want to cry. I’m a miserable sack of shite lately. I even missed my works Christmas do because I’m on one and knew I’d blow at the slightest thing and that would be before a drink!

I think that as we get older our shit detector turns on and our ability to suffer fools departs.
I am more angry, rude and sweary than I ever used to be. And (don’t tell anyone) I quite enjoy it.

I definitely had it in the throws of difficult phases of my life. It kind of crept up on me. I now realise depression isn't always sobbing and sadness. It can be anger, cynicism, rage, shortness of temper, impatience and a feeling of being socially out of step too. ADs definitely helped. I'm also better at putting in boundaries and looking after myself too. But it's about constant maintenance.

Sounds like peri/menopause moodiness caused by low hormones. HRT could be your answer.

Same, late 50s, bullshit and idiot tolerance at low level. I go from calm to rage in under 30!

I’m 73 and have been through most of the difficult times - teenagers, elderly parents etc. and am generally calm and not (or ever have been) prone to take out any fury on other people. From what I can see on many of these posts, and although many of you are dealing with a lot, there seems to be a lack of self control. No matter what problems we may have we do have a choice in how we react to things which annoy or upset us.

Menopause did it for me, I became an
Angry Old Woman overnight. After a month of HRT I was soon back to my calm and placid self 😁

I can totally relate, feeling miserable 99.9 % of the time (age 55)
I was never this miserable until I hit my 50’s I think it’s definitely the menopause, finished my periods at 50.
I had our DD age 41, so she’s now got a miserable, short tempered mum, unlike her DB’s , who had a relaxed, happy, spontaneous mum.
I tell her about my hormones, how i’m aware of how miserable I am but i cant seem to snap out of it, shes a fabulous kid, she says its ok Mum, she tells me she loves me and that i’m a great mum.
So I dig deep and carry on for her,
i read somewhere that I might feel better from age 58?…..certainly hoping for a magical transformation the morning i wake up on my 58th birthday

Not RTFT but yeah sounds like perimenopause to me, absolute rage over minor things and then later I give my head a wobble and can't understand my reaction, that's if I remember what with the brain fog....oh the joys of having ovaries!!

Irritation is a symptom of anxiety. You might not realise youre anxious but thats what it is

I've got amazingly more tolerant and even tempered as I've left the teen years. Then I had dc and became even more chilled. I thought I'd be other way tbh.

I do have a grumpy stare though, and much less liable to endure ' banter'

You don’t give your age but I saw a thing once which said “don’t mess with women over 40, they are full of rage and sick of everyone’s shit”. That’s me. Genuinely if I get through a day without wanting to lash out at complete strangers, I’m doing good. And don’t get me started on how annoying DH is…

Have a chat with your GP and discuss (peri)menopause and HRT. This kind of thing is classic hormonal shift, it's so much more than hot flushes and no periods. Be kind to yourself

That’s me and i love it! My code word is “your welcome” which actually means fuck off! My line manager knows this now and howled laughing. I’m perfectly pleasant, friendly, helpful etc but get in my car at the end of a working day and tell all my colleagues you’re welcome! I’m 57 and seriously dislike stupid people!