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Would you make a 3 hour journey by car today?

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JulianCasa · 07/12/2024 06:41

Trying to decide what to do. 3.5 hour journey across yellow warning areas with a child in tow. Don’t want to let anyone down but also don’t want to get stuck in potential tailbacks or worse.

AIBU - don’t go
ANBU - go!
stay safe everyone x

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soupfiend · 07/12/2024 22:21

Tryingtokeepgoing · 07/12/2024 09:26

Thinking positively, the weather will probably mean fewer people on the road and you might actually make the journey in less time. A while ago know, by back in March 2018 when we had a snow fall over the country there were dire warnings about not travelling, staying at home, essential trips only etc etc. I was in Liverpool, and it was essential I got home. So I drove through it, and while there was a lot of snow the motorways were clear and traffic light. I did that trip in the shortest time I’ve ever done it, and I didn’t even have an SUV. Just a regular rear wheel drive Mercedes 🤣🤣

Well about 9.5 hours door to door but then about 3.5 hours of that was lunch, shopping and various toilet stops (menopause bladder)

No quicker and no slower than expected, no delays apart from the permadelay that is the Dartford crossing, only two lanes for some reason, plus the usual speed restrictions for non existent never ending roadworks. Rain, and a bit blowy in parts but nothing that I would consider particularly hazardous. Didnt seem any quieter on the roads.

Penguinmouse · 07/12/2024 13:06

Seeline · 07/12/2024 09:41

London definitely has a yellow warning for wind for all of today and tomorrow.

I didn’t realise, thought it was just up the west coast! Luckily it’s died down a little bit but was very noisy this morning.

RubiesAndRaindrops · 07/12/2024 10:11

Yellow warning where I am but its both raining and pretty windy, it's quite noisy inside due to the wind and bins etc have gotten blown about. I was due to go out but won't now as its not an essential trip - I saw a lorry get blown across a lane on the motorway once (there are stretches here where its really exposed) - luckily no-one was in the neighbouring lane at the time but its not just rain and getting buffeted yourself that's a risk - taller vehicles could get blown into you so I wouldn't personally plus a lot could change during that 3 hour trip.

ByMerryKoala · 07/12/2024 10:10

I'm in the n.e and it's just a normal level of winter perma-rain and a stiff breeze.

JulianCasa · 07/12/2024 10:10

Mix of opinions, grateful for the non judgemental posts either way, thank you ☺️

We are seeing the family in 3 weeks at Christmas time and then again in January so I think it’s a sensible choice just to avoid potential risky travel.

It’s not the wind and the storm that’s my main concern for this journey to be honest, it’s the knock on effect of thousands of cancelled trains and how busy the roads would be; a 3.5 hour journey could potentially turn into 5/6+ hours and we have a very young child. The visit was only going to be for 1 overnight so overall it isn’t worth it.

Thanks for the good advice though, esp those who didn’t swear at me 😉 x

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MrsAvocet · 07/12/2024 10:06

We'll be on the road for 7-8 hours in total today, there and back. We live in an Amber zone and yes, it was wet and windy when we left, but the most dramatic thing that had happened was that our bin had blown down the drive. We get weather at least as bad as this multiple times per year in our area and nobody bothers. I've driven in far worse conditions on loads of occasions.
We're on the M6 in Lancashire now which I think is yellow. It's dry, clear and a bit breezy but nothing that I wouldn't walk or cycle in. It's quiet though so I presume lots of people have cancelled trips - far fewer people in the services than I'd expect on a Saturday this close to Christmas.

JingleB · 07/12/2024 09:45

snoopysnoooper · 07/12/2024 09:37

@JingleB thank you, that has put my mind at ease. I think because of how bad it's been everywhere else it's worried me a bit! DH said the same about how windy it usually is here anyway 😄

I think this is our 4th yellow warning in the last 2 months 😂

Heavy rain, ice, fog… all yellow warnings we are happy to stay home for. Wind, if not driving on exposed sections of road, would mean we’re basically housebound until spring.

Seeline · 07/12/2024 09:41

Penguinmouse · 07/12/2024 08:01

I’m in London (so not a yellow area) and am now re-assessing whether it is worth the 15 min drive to the supermarket because the wind sounds so strong :/ I think if you are going to do it, set off as soon as possible so you can build in tailbacks/the need to drive slowly and safely/the need to stop.

What is the event?

London definitely has a yellow warning for wind for all of today and tomorrow.

LaurieFairyCake · 07/12/2024 09:38

I wouldn't make any journey today and I'm in the yellow zone. I prefer the roads to be kept clear for people who REALLY have to drive (yellow zone, 52 miles per hour winds)

snoopysnoooper · 07/12/2024 09:37

@JingleB thank you, that has put my mind at ease. I think because of how bad it's been everywhere else it's worried me a bit! DH said the same about how windy it usually is here anyway 😄

Figgygal · 07/12/2024 09:36

Depends how important the journey was but yellow warnings aren't exactly severe so that in itself wouldn't put me off.

BogRollBOGOF · 07/12/2024 09:35

Yellow, I'd treat with caution. Be prepared to slow down, consider the exposure/ flood risk of routes if there's options. Make sure there are emergency supplies topped up in the car in case there's issues.

I'm in a yellow zone and it's just a normal range, grim day here. Could be standing water on the roads, car could feel gusts. I'd be looking at the forecast along the route and at destination.

Amber/ red are a different league.

TheGriffle · 07/12/2024 09:33

We’re under a yellow warning for wind (South Yorks) and it is currently bright, calm and still outside. Obviously I know things can change but I wouldn’t hesitate to go out at the minute.

pumpkinpillow · 07/12/2024 09:30

Yellow warning here and I'll be carrying on as normal, just being more aware of changes and unpredictable conditions (branches down etc)

MyNameIsBatty · 07/12/2024 09:28

Yellow warning is fairly common weather, you need to be more careful and aware of the conditions. That being said I'm a fairly confident driver, if you are less so and you don't need to make the journey, I wouldn't bother. Red warning i wouldn't.

Tryingtokeepgoing · 07/12/2024 09:26

soupfiend · 07/12/2024 08:59

We'll be on the road for about 7 hours today, probably more given lunch stops and a detour I want to make.

Thinking positively, the weather will probably mean fewer people on the road and you might actually make the journey in less time. A while ago know, by back in March 2018 when we had a snow fall over the country there were dire warnings about not travelling, staying at home, essential trips only etc etc. I was in Liverpool, and it was essential I got home. So I drove through it, and while there was a lot of snow the motorways were clear and traffic light. I did that trip in the shortest time I’ve ever done it, and I didn’t even have an SUV. Just a regular rear wheel drive Mercedes 🤣🤣

LlynTegid · 07/12/2024 09:24

Sensible decision. Given that you are going west and also because of those who will travel without making any adjustments to the conditions.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/12/2024 09:22

We are in London and due to travel to another part of London today. Planning to do it but leave extra time because there will doubtless be disruption

Toddlerteaplease · 07/12/2024 09:22

I'm considering doing an agency shift 90 miles away in Yorkshire. But not sure it's a good idea.

Winter2020 · 07/12/2024 09:20

JulianCasa · 07/12/2024 08:13

NE to NW. We’ve decided to stay home.

I think you are doing the right thing. We are a yellow warning in the West Midlands and the wind on the roof kept me awake for hours last night. Lots of wheelie bins blown over in the street.

My son (15 years) had to go to Birmingham this morning. My husband sometimes drives him and sometimes he gets the train alone. Today my husband has caught the train with him and will walk him to his destination at the other end as we hope that will be the safest combination of travel.

I'm assuming you were visiting family. You would be anxious about the safety of your journey and that's reason enough not to go.

Ask yourself if your relatives would travel 3.5 hours to visit you today. My guess is they would not. (They might be elderly/don't drive etc but the sentiment). If they say the journey would be fine tell them they are very welcome to come to you. (They won't).

BitOutOfPractice · 07/12/2024 09:18

@Ponoka7 eh? What are you on about? I genuinely thought that your response to hearing about a tragedy was pretty horrible. Sorry if that doesn’t accord with your view of yourself as a caring person 🙄

Im not sure what’s exaggerated or virtue signalling about what I said but hey ho if that makes you feel better, go for it.

FergussSingsTheBlues · 07/12/2024 09:17

Im on the north wales border and not travelling because we’re rural and trees …. If I was near a motorway
it wouldn’t worry me

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WillowTit · 07/12/2024 09:14

yellow warning is ok surely

Ponoka7 · 07/12/2024 09:14

BitOutOfPractice · 07/12/2024 08:29

In the yellow area? It wouldn’t even cross my mind not to go to be honest.

“Being honest”, that’s a really horrible first thought to have when you hear about accidents with children in @Ponoka7

I didn't say it was my first thought. That was the usual exaggerated response of a typical virtue signalling, MNer.