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Dog at family christmas gathering

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Pippy2022 · 07/12/2024 00:21

I want my kids to join the big family gathering around Christmas time but a new 'big scary' dog will be there (pet of SIL). I can't speak directly to SIL and partner is useless communicator. Shall my kids just go on a separate day and not see rest of family or do I die from anxiety the whole time and pray for the best. Feeling quite annoyed about the whole thing tbh.

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5foot5 · 07/12/2024 00:28

When you say big scary dog, do you mean actually big and scary? Like an XL Bully or similar, in which case YANBU. Or just a biggish dog that you DC are scared of because they are abnormally afraid of dogs?

Or are your kids OK with it but you are the anxious one?

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Pippy2022 · 07/12/2024 00:28

Moveoverdarlin · 07/12/2024 00:26

What breed is it?

I have no idea. All I know is it's 'big and scary' according to partner who knows nothing about breeds.

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Pippy2022 · 07/12/2024 00:27

NotMeForBakeoff · 07/12/2024 00:25

Why don't you educate your children around dogs, seeing that they are and always have been, quite common.

It's crippling for a child to be so anxious about an everyday animal (assuming it's not a banned or dangerous breed), so do something about it. Get them intera ting with smaller dogs and build up.

Between now and Christmas?

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YouAteTheSteak · 07/12/2024 00:26

Whose house is it?

Moveoverdarlin · 07/12/2024 00:26

What breed is it?

NotMeForBakeoff · 07/12/2024 00:25

Why don't you educate your children around dogs, seeing that they are and always have been, quite common.

It's crippling for a child to be so anxious about an everyday animal (assuming it's not a banned or dangerous breed), so do something about it. Get them intera ting with smaller dogs and build up.

Applefumble · 07/12/2024 00:23

Is it actually scary or you don't like dogs?

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Pippy2022 · 07/12/2024 00:22

To add, my kids are scared of dogs and are a very hyperactive noisy bunch. Not mellow.

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