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Increasingly hate sitting next to people

260 replies

Woollypullover · 06/12/2024 23:30

and I don't know why.

Is anyone else like this? I'm BU and should be comfortable sitting next to people, shouldn't I? I never used to be like this.

This coming week, I wish I could avoid a trip to the theatre and lunch with a group in a restaurant because I don't want to sit next to anyone.

I even make excuses and turn up late, so I can sit on the end.

I'm BU aren't I?

OP posts:
Treeof · 06/12/2024 23:59

Do you include friends and family?

I you mean strangers, I kind of understand. I’d rather sit by myself on a train or bus. On trains, I usually make a bee-line for single seats, or pay for first class / standard premium for longer journeys if it’s not significantly more expensive (more individual seats).

KimberleyClark · 06/12/2024 23:59

This isn’t normal.

RampantIvy · 06/12/2024 23:58

Stretchanoctave · 06/12/2024 23:47

I completely understand. It puts me off flying or going on a train. For me it’s the fear that they will be ill. I think it’s worse since the pandemic.

Have you thought about getting help for this?

Merrymess · 06/12/2024 23:56

You are all other people to someone. What makes you so special?

Roastitcheese · 06/12/2024 23:55

AmyFarahFowlerIsMyHero · 06/12/2024 23:33

Me too OP. YANBU other people are gross

Gross? In what way ?

Stretchanoctave · 06/12/2024 23:47

I completely understand. It puts me off flying or going on a train. For me it’s the fear that they will be ill. I think it’s worse since the pandemic.

Merrymess · 06/12/2024 23:43

AmyFarahFowlerIsMyHero · 06/12/2024 23:33

Me too OP. YANBU other people are gross

Including you?

Ginkypig · 06/12/2024 23:39

I think to some degree most or at least a lot of us feel similarly.

I don’t particularly like it either and if I have an option I won’t but it wouldn’t not do something nice to avoid it even if that means I’m not completely comfortable.

the issue though is you need to start pushing past that or seek help from a therapist because it is starting to adversely affect your life.

Ponderingwindow · 06/12/2024 23:34

Sitting next to people is awful, it always has been. I have no idea why our society has been set up to force people to give up their personal space in so many settings.

AmyFarahFowlerIsMyHero · 06/12/2024 23:33

Me too OP. YANBU other people are gross