DH weed habit

Yuk. Grown men smoking weed like this just seems childish to me. Would he drink alcohol as much?

I know weed isn’t that bad, and alcohol
causes more harm in general, but if he was drinking g beer like this, you’d call him an alcoholic.

For me this would be a deal breaker, he changes or you leave. He needs MH support.

and yes, you and your home will smell of wed. People might think/ assume it’s you…

I've just been to the post office, and there were two guys in there who absolutely reeked of weed! They left after a minute but the whole Post Office smelt strongly of weed, even long after they left.
I thought of you OP, and how your house must smell if you DH is smoking inside all evening. You may be used to it but anyone who comes in will smell it immediately.

Only you know your threshold. I wouldn’t be with someone who smokes and definitely not weed. It stinks and I’m yet to meet anyone successful who smokes weed regularly.

There were a group of guys in our friendship group who smoked weed all the time and they’re all still bums constantly complaining they have no money, lots job Etc. we all went to grammar schools and everyone else I’m in touch with has been “successful” as in have nice home, careers, holidays etc. the stoners are by comparison significantly worse off.

You have one life and only you can choose if you’re happy with your current trajectory.

I had a very close relative who smoked weed all day long. It ruined them. They just became so lethargic, no drive, horrible moods and paranoia. They did eventually give up in old age (after many decades of smoking it) and they became a much nicer and easier person.
I could never be with a partner who smoked weed every day.

Ps. Can't believe you've asked this. It's fking obvious

No matter how many showers/hair washes etc you have you will still smell of it. Especially as he smokes it in the house. It will be ingrained in you and in your house. Everyone will smell it merely walking past your house.

If you can't even get him to smoke it outside then you won't be able to get him to cut down/stop.

Sorry OP, but it would be over for me if I was you

Get rid. He's a drug addled scrote

I'd tell him that if he doesn't stop I want a divorce. And mean it.

@Anxiiousaf oh no, that sounds like such a low quality DH.
Seriously, were you desperate and he was he like the last one at the shop on Christmas Eve type thing?
If he’s the best you can get, I’ll guess you’ll just have to accept your life.

If you think you could do better than this one though, I’d divorce and strive for a better future.

A DH smoking weed in the house… jeez… not for me I’m afraid, not by a long shot.
I’d rather be happily single than have that!

@Anxiiousaf he is married to his weed, not you.

A relationship with a weed addict is pointless.

I would not even contemplate a relationship with someone who thinks it's OK to smoke weed then drive.

Tell him it's you or the week - I bet he chooses the weed!

@Discodance1988

I'm sure people don't realise that you can have weed legally here in the UK, Prescribed by a doctor and then legally you can smoke it wherever you want and all you have to do is flash your medical card and there's nothing you can do about it.

People 'don't realise' that because it's not true

Do you have children op? What does he do for work?

Having to shower at work is a thing to note, why are you tolerating this? Poor op. I feel for you. But you have a choice here.

Leave, it's a drug addiction like any other and it will get worse. You will find your belongings disappear gradually to the point where you have to lock them away

Its an addiction but be prepared for him possibly to never give it up.

I'm sure people don't realise that you can have weed legally here in the UK, Prescribed by a doctor and then legally you can smoke it wherever you want and all you have to do is flash your medical card and there's nothing you can do about it

@Discodance1988 Not according to the NHS website, where medical cannabis is only prescribed for a handful of conditions and certainly not in the form that you can smoke it.

I can’t believe women actually stay with wasters like this. It’s grim and I really hope that there are no dc involved.

My neighbours are alcoholics and have regular piss ups in their gardens/houses throughout summer and then have the audacity to moan at me about my DP smoking weed (only in summer) but simultaneously will have these parties and their guests will be smoking weed on the driveways/gardens for most of the day, whereas my DP smokes it in the evenings (after 8pm) only and that's after he's been to work and done everything he wants to do for the day. So your comment about continously smoking weed isn't relevant because it isn't in 'daylight hours' he has 2 or 3 joints a night and that's it.

So no I don't care what my neighbours think.

I'd divorce him, I couldn't live that life.

Do you have any close neighbours? How utterly grim to have someone close by smoking weed continuously if you do. Gross.

He’s a drug addict. Sorry but it’s a dealbreaker for me so I would be leaving

WWYD

I would divorce him, I have no interest in drug users.

Do you have children?

My DP is like this but doesn't drive once he's had a joint. He also smokes it outside. Never in the house. He spends a fair sized chunk of his money on weed and then gets depressed afterwards about it....

I'm sure people don't realise that you can have weed legally here in the UK, Prescribed by a doctor and then legally you can smoke it wherever you want and all you have to do is flash your medical card and there's nothing you can do about it.

OP you won't ever get him to quit it if he doesn't want to but you can instill boundaries. No smoking in the house, no driving when high etc

I'm an ex weed smoker, I don't smoke it at all anymore but I really don't care that my DP smokes it. It calms him down, helps him sleep, and makes him eat. He does use it as a medicine, and he is eligible for the medical cannabis as well (as am I but I don't smoke it anymore) so that's something he's looking into.

I will mention though to OP getting the smell of weed out of your house is no easy task, your house will need completely redecorating and new flooring and you'll have to hot wash all soft furnishings to get rid of the ingrained smell but it's pointless doing any of that until you get him to smoke it outside (regardless of the weather, my DP will smoke it outside in a downpour/heavy snow/blistering heat etc etc)