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Should I leave my six week old baby to go out?

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Bookworm05 · 06/12/2024 10:57

Before I got pregnant, I booked some concert tickets for me, mum and sister. The concert is this weekend but I now have a six week old baby. I've always said I won't be able to go to the concert as I felt it was too soon to leave my partner with baby and toddler. When baby was first born and I said I wouldn't go, partner insisted I should go and he would be fine. Baby is breastfed but has been taking expressed milk in a bottle from my partner every three days or so. In the last week baby has developed a bottle aversion and screams through feeds, hardly taking any milk. My partner is stressing out about this and says he feels like a failure. It has made him really emotional and he won't really talk about it which I find hard. He has since said that he feels the concert has been a looming pressure hanging over us.

My family live an hour away and my partner, toddler and baby would need to stay at my family's house so that I can feed baby right before I leave and as soon as I get home. I would love to go to the concert but it has been a tricky week in our house. Toddler has got a bad cold, baby has been cluster feeding and partner is emotional. I'd love a break for a few hours but AIBU?

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PixieTrance89 · 06/12/2024 11:24

I wouldn't go purely based on the fact your baby wont take the bottle well so if your out your husband might struggle to feed them and at 6 weeks it's very important they are having regular feeds

BeMintBee · 06/12/2024 11:08

No I wouldn’t. If baby was exclusively bottle fed than maybe but sounds it could be quite distressing for baby if they are not reliably taking a bottle

Timetodownsize · 06/12/2024 11:04

My immediate thought on reading the thread title was "not if you don't want to".

Ideally you would go as you've been looking forward to it but the circumstances are not ideal and I think you'd feel uncomfortable and not really enjoy yourself. Will your partner feel worse if you don't go though ?

I think this is a time for the 2 of you to have an honest conversation about how sometimes plans just don't work out and the best thing to do is accept the different reality and that there is no blame attached to anyone. At this stage the person dictating how you operate as a family is a tiny baby.

Stay at home together, don't stress and enjoy your baby

AnneLovesGilbert · 06/12/2024 11:04

I wouldn’t.

SwanRivers · 06/12/2024 11:01

Also, if your toddler has a bad cold there's every chance the baby may be coming down with it too, which can cause even more feeding problems.

Iwanttoliveiniriscottage · 06/12/2024 11:01

It would probably do your husband good to have to take care of the baby without your supervision. You should be able to go if you want to. Only you can know whether it’s worth the hassle or not. Life doesn’t stop because you have a baby but will you be able to enjoy the concert or will you be stressed the whole way through.

SwanRivers · 06/12/2024 11:00

From the thread title I was all set to say yes, you should go.

But having read the OP, I think no, I'd give it a miss.

It's a shame obviously but I don't think it's the right time with everything else going on.