Should I leave my six week old baby to go out?

I think your partner will be ok to look after his own kids

It would be different if your baby was 6 months but at 6 weeks you are still establishing feeding etc and if he is not reliable at taking a bottle then I don’t think it’s really feasible to be able to go. Plus the fact that the whole family have got to up sticks and stay away for the night. I know how frustrating it is sometimes to have to miss out on things but that is the beauty of having a tiny newborn depending on you. I think you would spend most of the concert worrying about baby anyway so it may not be the night out that you expected.

Totally your call what you do OP, neither option is wrong in my opinion.

Baby will be fine for a few hours, even if they don't want the bottle, and your husband will cope. You might even find baby will take the bottle if you're not about - amazing how picky they can be when the alternaitve of warm milk and cuddles are close by!

Likewise, if you don't feel ready to go, it's totally fine to stay. There's such a wide spectrum of how people feel six weeks postpartum and all are totally justified.

And if you do stay home, make sure you plan something else fun soon. You deserve a break!

My DD never ever took a bottle. I expressed but she wouldn't take it. It wasn't an issue as she used a sippy cup from between 4 and 5 months. It was a short term problem. As for the mention of what if the mum died, yes if I'd have died my husband would have had a few tricky days but I don't expect they would have been any harder that when I had to teach her to feed as a newborn. And the proportion of healthy women dying while their baby is between 6 weeks and 5 months must be too small to change how you do things for.

I wouldn't go, surely there will be more concerts in the future x

No I wouldn’t go in this circumstance. You have a newborn who isn’t taking to bottles well, at this he they feed lots and will get distressed if you’re not the ere and they won’t take a bottle. Very different to an older baby that can wait a bit.

@LuckySantangelo35 I’m aware. As I’ve said I have a 20 week old who bottle refuses. I am planning to get him on a cup in a couple months alongside weaning but personally I’d rather deal with the restriction for a couple more months than have him scream at my husband for hours.

@Isitisit
its very restricting to not be able to go out without baby for more than an hour or two.

Op you don’t NEED to persist with anything if you don’t want to, you just have to be prepared to deal with the consequences if you don’t. Ie are you happy to not go out for longer than an hour or two until your baby is a bit older or is this a priority?

To be honest if my partner wanted to do it, I'd go. It'll be good for him to get used to looking after them himself.

My baby is 20 weeks and refuses bottles too so I wouldn’t go in your position. I imagine I’d be too worried picturing him screaming at home.

I wouldn't go. It seems stressful all round. X

How long are you actually going to be away from the baby? 6 hours?

You need to persist with the bottles, whether or not you choose to go this time. So many just say 'my baby won't take a bottle' and throw in the towel and then they are left in a few months time with somewhere they need to go to and are tied to the house by their breasts.
As PP says, what if you needed to go into hospital or (heaven forbid), died. Your kid would HAVE to learn to feed with a bottle then!

@Timetodownsize

“Stay at home together, don't stress and enjoy your baby“

I think this advice is a bit off and unfair on Op tbh. She’s been staying home and enjoying her baby for weeks, she said she wants a break. Also parents don’t have to enjoy every minute of their children being babies - some of it isn’t very enjoyable!

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No, sorry, I wouldn't leave a newborn who doesn't take a bottle. It'll be easier all round to give this one a miss.

It sounds like more hassle than it's worth to be honest. I can't imagine you'd enjoy the concert much with all that going on. I personally would give it a swerve.

I did go out for around 6 hours with a slightly older baby (maybe 3 months?) and they refused to take a bottle the entire time. Yes as another poster pointed out, if I'd died they probably would have eventually drank from a bottle. But I came back to a very distressed and hungry baby, and felt awful about it. Its quite hard to enjoy yourself, when you know that your baby is likely to be in a state, even if you know that it's not likely to do any lasting harm

Could you feed before you go, leave bottle as emergency, stay at the concert for a few hours and feed on return?
You could park near the venue and leave before mum/sister.

Personally I wouldn’t given that baby is having issues with feeding, if not for that then I’d say it’s fine. It’s one thing your partner looking after a baby, which is totally doable and fine, but looking after a baby who actually he is unable to settle or feed is totally another and I wouldn’t put my husband or baby through that. It is hard, we had a few months like this as my daughter was breastfed and wouldn’t take a bottle so it did mean I was tied to her for feeding times but it does pass quickly

In my experience, when they develop a bottle aversion it's really really hard to get them back on it (sorry). It's easier when they're a bit older as you can feed them more on a schedule but its a bit difficult at 6 weeks. So I wouldn't go sorry.

However your partner is being a bit silly taking it personally. Its nothing to do with him, the baby doesn't like a bottle, not the fact that he is giving the bottle.

I think your partner would cope better in his own environment rather than being at your parents.

Needs must, if you were taken into hospital they'd have to make it work. If baby won't have a bottle try feeding cup instead.

If it's a once in a lifetime concert I'd go Pink, Taylor etc if it's a band that is regularly touring then I might give it a miss.

I’d go without thinking twice. But if you don’t want to, obviously that’s fine too.

I wouldn’t. Taking your toddler away for the night whilst ill is enough of a pain without all the rest