Should I leave my six week old baby to go out?

I’d go. Your partner will manage perfectly well for a few hours.

One of my children never took a bottle even when hungry so that’s not true.

To be honest I would go, feed directly before you leave and only go for the minimum time (don't have a meal out beforehand etc) if baby is hungry they will take a bottle and whilst current medical advice is to demand feed, in the past you were told to feed every 4 hours anyway.

Mine were ebf but I still did go out occasionally for 3 hours or so

The baby is only 6 weeks old and if not taking a bottle, it’s normal to not be able to leave them much. You don’t seem to understand that @LuckySantangelo35, maybe you have forgotten what it’s like when your children are so tiny. How old are your chikdren? Mine are older but I still remember the first 4 months not being able to leave them much.

As baby is breastfed and won't take a bottle I wouldn't go.

Sorry I didn’t see this before I replied. I think that sounds like a good plan. Enjoy the takeaway.

In those circumstances I wouldn’t go. If baby was still fine taking a bottle then it would be different but not taking a bottle and wanting to cluster feed, your baby might be very distressed.

It’s a shame though. Definitely plan some time to yourself around baby’s feeding if possible and then do something lovely once baby will take bottle or goes longer between feeds.

I wouldn't go. There'll be other concerts but your baby is a newborn for a very short time. I think it's not worth distressing both baby and partner for a few hours off. Plenty of time to go out in a few months when baby is more settled.

The baby it will grow fast. Not stress you will get more free time for yourself. In beginning women have just 1% free time but each month each year the percent grow very fast. You will have soon time to enjoy free time when you kid start school.you been 50% free when they start secondary school your freedom will be 90% after they one year old you will see you get more and more time for yourself

Cluster feeding is when baby is wanting to be fed for sometimes a good while sometimes hours at a time, there's often minimal gap if any between feeds.

I think in this scenario I would give it a miss. Frazzled partner, baby who won’t feed for him and a poorly toddler doesn’t sound like a great combination.

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I would take the baby with me! At that age you basically put them in a sling and throw on some ear defenders and you're good to go. I took my 10 week old to a festival and they stayed out with me until late, slept through the entire concert.

Let your partner look after the toddler.

How long will you be away?

The baby won't instantly need a feed if you've fed before you leave. How long is the gap between feeds - a couple of hours? More? Because you easily have that much time. Then he could try to feed which would be half an hour ish before it would be clear that it was or wasn't working. If the venue is easy enough to get to I would go for half of the concert.

Sorry OP but I have to say I don't think you should go

In this situation I'd say no, don't go.

Toddler is unwell.

Baby not feeding properly and only 6 weeks old.

Partner emotional.

You're a team. I wouldn't leave my DH in this situation just for a concert.

I left my DD with my sister for around 4 hours younger than that! But she was bottle fed. I think it's a tricky decision! You aren't a bad person if you do decide to go, but if you'd spend the whole time worrying maybe better not to?

In that situation I wouldn't go, baby is cluster feeding and now won't take a bottle. There's no way I'd relax knowing my baby was at home crying for boob. Sorry I know it's hard but it's such early days, I would give it a miss and look to do something else when baby is older and there's not so much going on.

I feel for you. Our 2nd is 9 months old, we are planning first date night tomorrow to a concert we bought tickets to 6 months ago. We all have a horrible dose and although on the mend I am unsure about leaving the baby especially as he's the worst, wants to feed for comfort... but I haven't been on a date in 9 months and to a concert in 4 years! Hoping by tomorrow we will be better.

I read an article yesterday about this time of motherhood when you're in the middle of it with babies and toddlers and don't want to but ultimately end up having to cancel things more than you would like because they come first... now is not the time to thrive but survive 😅

In these circumstances, I would give it a miss. Too much hassle and stress. It’s only a concert. Give yourself permission not to go, and have a nice evening in - treat yourself to a takeaway etc.

My post was perhaps badly worded. What I meant was that it's ok to change your mind at short notice when you have a very small child who is unsettled. I meant to suggest that it would be less stressful to everyone (OP included) to accept that it may not be worth the hassle of going. Only OP can decide if going to the concert is worth the possible downside.

My impression from the first post was that OP was rather conflicted and was possibly looking for reassurance that it's ok not to go

Absolutely understand that being with a baby is not all enjoyable. I found it quite tricky myself but think some of that was because I didn't just go with the flow and opt out of doing things I felt I "should" be doing which actually made me quite stressed.
OP should do whatever she feels is best for her

If the baby is not feed that I will be not go too. Just be wait but more and rebuke for another concert

I wouldn’t and couldn’t have enjoyed myself. But we are all different. I think the fact baby isn’t feeding could be an issue though.