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fireworksinthesky3 · 06/12/2024 00:57

Hey

name changed but longtime poster

really hoping this post resonates with someone and I can get some advice or help 🤞

bit of an embarrassing problem but I smell really badly and don’t know what to do. I’ve tried everything I can possibly think of to fix it and it’s not helped. I’ve heard of things like fish odour syndrome but I don’t think it’s that because I don’t smell of fish- I just smell really musty/BO. It’s genuinely making me so depressed- I’m only 26 and I’m so embarrassed and miserable about it. I’ll post below everything I’ve tried

  • I shower every single day without fail, I tried showering twice a day but it made no difference whatsoever. At first I smell fine, then after a few hours I smell musty/BO/as if I haven’t even showered in days
  • I’ve tried every single combination of deoderant/antipersperant I could access. Mitchum was highly recommended but wasn’t any help disappointingly, in fact I think I smelled worse with it. Right now I’m using dove stick which is bearable but not great either. As I said above- fine at first, then after a few hours I smell again , badly enough to be noticeable by other people
  • I’ve tried every shower gel, scrub, body wash, lotion, soap (bar and liquid), even tried using dettol soap- no difference. I shave every 2nd day.
  • i wash my hair every 2-3 days, I change my bedding every week without fail
  • i wondered if it was possibly my clothes which smelled rather than me so I got rid of EVERYTHING, and started all over again (new underwear, new pjs, completely new clothes etc) but same problem literally no difference

the only thing I can think of that I haven’t tried is the Driclor range which I’m going to try and I’m praying it works. I’ve always had this problem- I remember being so embarrassed about it as a teenager. It’s definitely not something I’m just paranoid about either- I’ve asked my friends / family to be completely honest with me and they’ve agreed with me. I don’t have any hormonal problems and sweat like a normal person as far as I’m aware but for some reason I just smell so much quicker than the average person

does anyone have any tips or product recommendations I could try (in case driclor doesn’t work)?

sorry for the long post, I’m just so down about it x

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OhcantthInkofaname · 07/12/2024 20:51

In the US an OBGYN doctor developed a full body deodorant. It is available in cream, stick, spray, etc forms. It is verified to control order for 72 hours. You can use it on your pits, privates, under breasts, butt crack etc. It's called Lume.

sunshine244 · 07/12/2024 20:45

I've got two vegan friends, both of whom smell a bit odd to me. A bit like a cross between an earthy smell and tomatoes.

Could be a total coincidence but perhaps diet is linked?

I've been told by an Indian friend that western people really smell to her. What is your heritage? People from different genetic countries can smell different due to diet or genetics.

Crudd99 · 07/12/2024 20:45

Have you looked up about body odour and gut microbiome? It might be useful. Dr karan does podcasts about it. Also I can't use certain washing powders or liquids certain body creams or perfumes as the smell reacts with my skin and smells awful. It's only certain ones though but it's been trial and error.

Laurmolonlabe · 07/12/2024 20:39

Have you tried washing all your clothes on a higher temperature?
A musty smell sounds like clothes that have been damp and maybe not hung up- the washing at 30 degrees doesn't work if you sweat quite a lot.

rb124 · 07/12/2024 20:38

As others have said, your first step should be to see your GP, it may be something that's easily treated

hystericaluterus · 07/12/2024 20:27

I haven’t read the whole thread. I can sympathise. If it’s BO you are talking about, I thoroughly recommend fussy, it’s a natural deodorant that has changed my life. I no longer smell. It has some anti-bacterial things in that eliminate rather than mask the smell.

Buy dr Beckman Odour remover and put in on the pits of your clothes as soon as things go in the washing basket.

Dibbydoos · 07/12/2024 20:06

@fireworksinthesky3

I would add disinfectant to your wash drawer with your detergent or do a final rinse with disinfectant - no heat or 20oC only. You can then dry as you are. This is unlikely to be your clothes though.

Try the new deodrant Fussy. It's natural and aims to stop these bad bacteria taking hold and causing odour. I've just bought this cos we're trying to reduce chemical exposure. Here's a 50% off link. I hope it works for you - I get nothing btw in case you're wondering.

fussy.mention-me.com/me/referee/registerko/167572356/661541719/em/cac657de576c215dbff0ba98ae7437bff32047bb/ol/cw?epr=1

I'd also suggest rewashing every few hours - underarms and groin as a minimum, wearing natural materials only - cottons inc linen and wool - and staying cool to reduce sweating. This will be a pain in the neck, I know but until you get it under control, it's the only way to help you get through a day without smelling.

However, you might find it's your sweat that smells - that is the fish smell issue (it doesn't always mean you smell of fish). Pls go to see your GP.

notjaneausten · 07/12/2024 19:59

There was a thread which mentioned the way washing machines didn't rinse enough.
The over use of Lenor etc can be leaving stale smelling deposits in clothes. Wash everything with just water, notice the colour of it, and how much soapy stuff is rinsed away. All these highly scented products just mask the problem.

Blarn · 07/12/2024 19:53

I'm a stinky sweater. I don't sweat much at all, but my underarms can pong. Loads of good advice above and I can definitely recommend double washing pits. I use a face cloth too and Megababe glycolic soap, really good. I also find that letting deodorant dry before getting dressed (use a hairdryer sometimes!) maes a positive difference.

One thing I do know I'd that hormones make me smell more. The week before my period I smell more. I once had a pill that made me reek, seriously bad, nothing helped. Stopped when I came off it after a year. Are you taking any hormonal contraception, possibly even the same pill since you were a teen? Might be worth considering.

LigamentBandy · 07/12/2024 19:52

@fireworksinthesky3 driclor is very strong I was recommended it for hands and feet but it made me so itchy and dry and would crack my skin.
Can you get you skin biome or gut flora checked? ( Things that were suggested for me, I have what Dr suspects to be hyperhidrosis, basically for most my life)
Ps I may have muddled biome & flora (?) it was a while since suggested so please nobody jump on me :)

TheBlurMentor · 07/12/2024 19:41

I had this problem, from the teenage years and struggled into adulthood. I spent a long time finding what would work for me..
I shower every morning when I wake up, usually use a lemon or mango fragrance body wash (never teatree or mint as it seems to make it worse)
I use WILD deodorant, either the sea salt or cotton fresh scent.
Since doing this I've noticed the smell isn't as noticeable, I always get paranoid I smell, never wear a top more than once before washing it etc but I rewore a top last week, which I've never done in my life because of the smell, and it didn't have a smell at all, and this is all since using WILD deodorant.
I swear by the stuff because it's the only thing I've ever found works.

Hopefully you can find something that works for you.

Vinomummyinlockdown · 07/12/2024 19:37

I would say this is an INTERNAL issue. You can cover the smell all you like topically but if you’ve got an infection or something going on in your body you’ll still smell. I’d seek a naturopath to help you. Might be a detox of sorts required or some remedies to help your gut / liver / lymph.

catlover123456789 · 07/12/2024 19:37

I used to smell of grapefruit even after washing and I discovered my deodorant and bodywashes were making it worse. These days, the best thing for my underarms is actually antibacterial handwash or just plain water, and I only use deodorant if I am going out for more than a couple of hours.

FlappingMadly · 07/12/2024 19:24

OP, PCOS can have body odour as symptom. Look it up. Don't be ashamed. Definitely don't rub sanitiser on your armpits!

OctobersDaughter · 07/12/2024 19:21

My boyfriend and I use Lume- their body wash and deo both keep odor at bay for 48hours. I use the body wash every other day because I also like to use a moisturizing soap. I only use the deo every couple days, but my boyfriend uses it daily, and it works for both of us. You can use Lume on your entire body - pits, feet, chest, and privates. Anywhere you think may need it.

GreenFritillary · 07/12/2024 19:19

PS Also recommend Trust deodorant, which really does work.

GreenFritillary · 07/12/2024 19:16

I was so unwell after child birth that eventually I went on an exclusion diet to try and get to the bottom of it. It was magic. After a couple of weeks I was well enough that we all went out for a whole day. Not only did the immediate pain and fatigue clear, and intermittent things like migraines, but loads of things I had hardly been aware of, like extremely stinky sweat.
I slowly re-introduced foods until I had a manageable diet. Organic, no synthetic additives. No wheat. No legumes. We checked all chemicals in the house, and got rid of most. Once things were fairly good, a long-awaited appointment with a clinical ecologist came through. He blamed it on an episode in which I was heavily exposed to a pesticide, which was confirmed some years later when they developed tests for it. He told us how well we had done, and gave us more things to try. Some were ineffective. Those that really helped were getting rid of down and feathers, wearing all natural fibres, going all-electric, and taking gas out of the flat.
Don't drink alcohol that is based on anything one is allergic to - he reckoned that linked to becoming alcoholic.
I would go very simple, OP, organic, natural, minimal. It's almost impossible these days, but you may get far enough to be effective.
Be prepared for periods of getting worse before you get better, as toxins work their way out of your system.

Mumof2girls2121 · 07/12/2024 19:15

The doctors? It might be a disorder like Trimethylaminuria ?

LalaPaloosa2024 · 07/12/2024 19:14

fireworksinthesky3 · 06/12/2024 00:57

Hey

name changed but longtime poster

really hoping this post resonates with someone and I can get some advice or help 🤞

bit of an embarrassing problem but I smell really badly and don’t know what to do. I’ve tried everything I can possibly think of to fix it and it’s not helped. I’ve heard of things like fish odour syndrome but I don’t think it’s that because I don’t smell of fish- I just smell really musty/BO. It’s genuinely making me so depressed- I’m only 26 and I’m so embarrassed and miserable about it. I’ll post below everything I’ve tried

  • I shower every single day without fail, I tried showering twice a day but it made no difference whatsoever. At first I smell fine, then after a few hours I smell musty/BO/as if I haven’t even showered in days
  • I’ve tried every single combination of deoderant/antipersperant I could access. Mitchum was highly recommended but wasn’t any help disappointingly, in fact I think I smelled worse with it. Right now I’m using dove stick which is bearable but not great either. As I said above- fine at first, then after a few hours I smell again , badly enough to be noticeable by other people
  • I’ve tried every shower gel, scrub, body wash, lotion, soap (bar and liquid), even tried using dettol soap- no difference. I shave every 2nd day.
  • i wash my hair every 2-3 days, I change my bedding every week without fail
  • i wondered if it was possibly my clothes which smelled rather than me so I got rid of EVERYTHING, and started all over again (new underwear, new pjs, completely new clothes etc) but same problem literally no difference

the only thing I can think of that I haven’t tried is the Driclor range which I’m going to try and I’m praying it works. I’ve always had this problem- I remember being so embarrassed about it as a teenager. It’s definitely not something I’m just paranoid about either- I’ve asked my friends / family to be completely honest with me and they’ve agreed with me. I don’t have any hormonal problems and sweat like a normal person as far as I’m aware but for some reason I just smell so much quicker than the average person

does anyone have any tips or product recommendations I could try (in case driclor doesn’t work)?

sorry for the long post, I’m just so down about it x

I think this is diet related. Write down what you eat each day for a week and the try eliminating certain foods - sugar, dairy etc. I’m certain your diet will be influencing this.

Also - years ago, my boss’s PA had issues with terrible body odour. She got Botox under her arms and it stopped the smell in her case. She also removed all synthetic clothing and only wore natural fibres. It all worked.

Mahanii · 07/12/2024 19:04

You're not alone, I smell too and my sister has confirmed it (and occasionally my darling children will tell me too!)
I've tried all sorts, but have ultimately come to terms with the fact that I'm just one of the world's smellier people. I sweat a lot - all over, not just from my pits - and I can't change that. When I'm in work I'm mindful to keep a window open and one of those stick diffuser things on my desk and a body spray in my drawer. When I'm at home I relax about it - my family are used to me and nobody has ever actually complained, even boyfriends who obviously get much more intimate with my body.
I would highly recommend acceptance.

GinMeUpButtercup · 07/12/2024 19:01

Am probably committing the cardinal sin of not reading the whole thread but my daughter started getting smelly pits at a crazy young age (7) and we had to go down the Mitchum route. This works but a lot of her clothes end up with an ingrained smell that is really hard to get out and often doesn’t reappear until she’s worn them after a few hours

The only thing that worked to get it out was the HG Sportswear laundry additive.

Teddybear23 · 07/12/2024 18:54

A few years ago I realised my clean clothes/towels etc stunk when I took them out if the drawer/cupboard. After a lot of investigation I found it was using liquid detergent not powder. When I started using powder the smell went. Good luck 🤞

newbootsforme · 07/12/2024 18:53

Tl:dr, so not sure if its veen mentioned. I'm a long time lurker but had to reply here. My daughter is 19 and was suffering a lot with BO. Her clothes would smell even after just trying them on. I bought hibiscrub for her. The liquid and the wipes. Both available on Amazon. Its done wonders for her confidence. She showers every morning with the liquid and uses in all "nooks and crannies" and keeps the wipes in her bag for emergencies.
Pls try it. X

Deeperthantheocean · 07/12/2024 18:51

Rubbing a bit of shaving gel and washing off is good as it's basically condensed soap, then a bit of medicated talc? Just ideas I've used at festivals and help. Also roll on deodrant seems to last more and smells better. Xx

DiduAye · 07/12/2024 18:51

Not to alarm you but people with Parkinson's disease have a musty odour that no amount of washing shifts See your GP again