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To be miserable about how badly i smell?

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fireworksinthesky3 · 06/12/2024 00:57

Hey

name changed but longtime poster

really hoping this post resonates with someone and I can get some advice or help 🤞

bit of an embarrassing problem but I smell really badly and don’t know what to do. I’ve tried everything I can possibly think of to fix it and it’s not helped. I’ve heard of things like fish odour syndrome but I don’t think it’s that because I don’t smell of fish- I just smell really musty/BO. It’s genuinely making me so depressed- I’m only 26 and I’m so embarrassed and miserable about it. I’ll post below everything I’ve tried

  • I shower every single day without fail, I tried showering twice a day but it made no difference whatsoever. At first I smell fine, then after a few hours I smell musty/BO/as if I haven’t even showered in days
  • I’ve tried every single combination of deoderant/antipersperant I could access. Mitchum was highly recommended but wasn’t any help disappointingly, in fact I think I smelled worse with it. Right now I’m using dove stick which is bearable but not great either. As I said above- fine at first, then after a few hours I smell again , badly enough to be noticeable by other people
  • I’ve tried every shower gel, scrub, body wash, lotion, soap (bar and liquid), even tried using dettol soap- no difference. I shave every 2nd day.
  • i wash my hair every 2-3 days, I change my bedding every week without fail
  • i wondered if it was possibly my clothes which smelled rather than me so I got rid of EVERYTHING, and started all over again (new underwear, new pjs, completely new clothes etc) but same problem literally no difference

the only thing I can think of that I haven’t tried is the Driclor range which I’m going to try and I’m praying it works. I’ve always had this problem- I remember being so embarrassed about it as a teenager. It’s definitely not something I’m just paranoid about either- I’ve asked my friends / family to be completely honest with me and they’ve agreed with me. I don’t have any hormonal problems and sweat like a normal person as far as I’m aware but for some reason I just smell so much quicker than the average person

does anyone have any tips or product recommendations I could try (in case driclor doesn’t work)?

sorry for the long post, I’m just so down about it x

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beautifulbrothers · 08/12/2024 00:26

I haven't read all the responses, so this might have been recommended already.

I am very clean but really struggled with body odour. My antiperspirant didn't work and the armpits of my clothes would start to smell almost immediately upon wearing.

Last year, I started using AKT deodorant and it has honestly changed my life. I go on about it to friends and family all the time - it is so good! It's a little expensive, but you get discount for subscribing. 1 tube lasts me 3-4 months!

Biggest tip is to grit your teeth through the first couple of weeks. I sweated profusely, but now I go running multiple times a week, get stressed at work... and don't ever smell!!! It's been life-changing for me. Truly.

Read this first!

https://www.aktlondon.com/blogs/news/making-the-switch-to-natural-deodorant#:~:text=Some%20may%20experience%20increased%20sweating,it%20be%20a%20turning%20point

Making the Switch to Natural Deodorant

With the rise of natural deodorants like AKT, more and more people are making the sustainable switch from traditional antiperspirants. Most of us know that antiperspirants use aluminium salts (aluminium chlorohydrate) in order to block your pores to st...

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Calciferloveseggs · 08/12/2024 00:05

Hi, this is going to sound bizarre, but contraception can make certain people produce an offensive smell. My daughter discovered this recently and at 24 yrs old, she has come off the contraceptive pill and found that the problematic odour and night sweats that were also highly offensive, have both stopped. Her panic attacks have also stopped. Ot might be worth looking at or considering, if you are on contraception. Hope it gets better 😊

Calliopespa · 07/12/2024 23:21

You definitely wipe your bottom?

Rubyupbeat · 07/12/2024 23:16

My son swears by driclor.
A friend has regular botox for her sweat problems, she says it works and she has so much more confidence.

WorkerBee83 · 07/12/2024 23:14

Aw that must be so frustrating.
you could try putting the washing machine on a deep clean.
driclor is good.
is it something your eating/cooking that is coming out in your pores.
are your cortisol levels too high?
I hope you get some answers xx

salsapasta · 07/12/2024 23:02

it may be something you eat or drink, for instance a lot of corn beef can make your wee smell, happened to me. Also a work colleague of mine used to smell like old after shave, then my other colleagues told me he was a alcoholic and the odour was literally coming out of his pores

BenditlikeBridget · 07/12/2024 22:59

OP i buy this from time to time and I have no body odour at all when i use it for a few days running:
www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B0996CWJ2K?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

CarefulN0w · 07/12/2024 22:58

It's less likely to be your armpits If you aren't particularly sweaty. Sweat only smells once the bacteria start to develop, so if you are showering daily that's less likely as the source of the smell, although other medical conditions are a possibility

If the smell is coming from your clothes it could be that your machine has mildew (black mould). It may be possible to treat with hot washes, but if it's ingrained it's more of a challenge.

Do you have a launderette near you? Could you do your washing at a laundrette for say 2 weeks and see if it makes a noticeable difference? As PP have said, you need to use washing powder not liquid and wash at the hottest temperature your clothes can take. Personally, I wouldn't use fabric softener at all.

Calliopespa · 07/12/2024 22:55

catlover123456789 · 07/12/2024 19:37

I used to smell of grapefruit even after washing and I discovered my deodorant and bodywashes were making it worse. These days, the best thing for my underarms is actually antibacterial handwash or just plain water, and I only use deodorant if I am going out for more than a couple of hours.

I like the smell of grapefruit!

Calliopespa · 07/12/2024 22:53

Aim4Lesscortisol · 07/12/2024 18:15

Sorry if its been mentioned already but I swear by removing all underarm hair as each hair gives a lot of surface area for bacteria to grow on

Yes I agree with this.

Calliopespa · 07/12/2024 22:53

Vinomummyinlockdown · 07/12/2024 19:37

I would say this is an INTERNAL issue. You can cover the smell all you like topically but if you’ve got an infection or something going on in your body you’ll still smell. I’d seek a naturopath to help you. Might be a detox of sorts required or some remedies to help your gut / liver / lymph.

I agree. But start with good old WATER!
Drink plenty,

rainbow9713 · 07/12/2024 22:47

I have 2 daughters 10 and 11, my 11 year old showers twice a day morning amd evening, but is really smelly by the time she finishes school. Uses deodorant but I do get her the wild one, trued the mitchim zero aluminium but it caused her armpits to become really irritated.
I do soak all of her tops in pure white vinegar/ diluted in water now before washing, before doing this eventhough I wash laundry on 40 degrees when I was ironing the underarms of her clothes still really whiffed.

I haven't with my daughter as her age and sensitive skin, but have your tried a couple if times a week using a salicylic acid scrub, I use the kp bump eraser but leave it on underarms a little longer.

Also an above suggestion of botpx could be helpful, and some people have asked what fabrics you wear, so maybe try breathable fabrics

Calliopespa · 07/12/2024 22:39

Sorry if others have mentioned this ( turning out light and don’t want to trawl the thread) but do you drink enough water?

I’d try 2.5 litres of plain water daily for a couple of weeks and see where you get to. I know a couple of heavy coffee drinkers who whiff …

LigamentBandy · 07/12/2024 22:38

Scent beads are terrible, they leave a coating on clothes making everything worse ( & environmentally crap)

PeppermintPatty10 · 07/12/2024 22:32

One more thing, and again, sorry if someone has already suggested this! Do you leave your washing machine door wide open in between washes? If not it can get mouldy inside.
I agree with the PP who suggest part of this problem is with your washing machine!

Cocopops22 · 07/12/2024 22:31

I recently tried Holland and Barrett roll on deodorant the manuka honey one, I would wear spray and before long my armpits would be wet and sweaty even if I just showered. The manuka honey roll on is really good I use this one now xxx

PeppermintPatty10 · 07/12/2024 22:29

I haven't read every single page, but while you're searching for the origins of this smell could you use those in-wash scent boosters? The little beads that you chuck into your washing machine. The scent lasts a long time on your clothes and smells lovely!

As PP have said, you need to do a good long wash and not a very short on so that the beads get a chance to dissolve.

relaxandfocus · 07/12/2024 22:10

I use a product called Detox-A-Pit made by Earth Purities. It:

  • Detoxifies armpits to reduce underarm irritation, odour and sweating
  • All-natural ingredients extract impurities and rebalance pH levels & microbial flora
  • Especially useful when switching from commercial antiperspirants to a natural deodorant
This stuff works and is inexpensive. When I use it I can go without using any deodorant for a few days without any smell at all. Hope this helps.
Meringued · 07/12/2024 21:57

Haven’t read all the replies so I’m sorry if this has already been recommended. But I started to struggle with body odour when I hit my 30s and also became very depressed over it. I could hardly wear any of my clothes, I’d sweat terribly in the night and make the entire bed smell by the morning, and throughout the day I couldn’t wear anything touching my armpits as no matter what I tried, I would stink after a few hours. I tried every shop shelf product going, but finally solved the problem when I found this (Perspirex Strong): https://amzn.eu/d/1geMPtd - it’s expensive and tiny, but it lasts months as I don’t need to use it every day now, and you only use a tiny bit on each armpit. 2-3 strokes, every 2-4 days. If you put too much on you’ll know about it as it’s bloody strong stuff. I put regular spray antiperspirant on top (Sure) and use the Sure on my in-between days. It’s honestly worked miracles for me. All those problems have been solved overnight. I have mixed feelings about using something so strong, but the alternative was damaging my quality of life. Not sure if this will completely solve your issue, as this is obviously for your armpits, but it has somehow stopped my full body night sweats as well, so you never know. I do agree with others though that it’s worth speaking to the GP in case something else is going on. Good luck x

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PERSPIREX Extra Strength Antiperspirant Roll On STRONG 20ml - Fresh Scent 3+ days Odour Protection : Amazon.co.uk: Beauty

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TrainedByKittens · 07/12/2024 21:57

Is your wardrobe Ikea? The smell is supposed to dissipate after a few weeks at most but I had one wardrobe where the smell lingered for years and made my son’s clothes smell sweaty. I thought it was him and buying stronger deodorant, didn’t occur to me it was the wardrobe making his clothes smell.

saturdayfilm · 07/12/2024 21:28

Driclor is fab but it can burn your skin especially if it doesn't dry on your skin after application (I used a hairdryer to dry it).

EmotionalSupportPenguin · 07/12/2024 21:25

Hi OP.

Have you tried using an African exfoliating net scrub? They are so so good and I feel so clean after using it. Good luck

Lisachooky · 07/12/2024 21:11

Go to your Doctor. Get a difinative diagnosis, and take your Doctors advice, you can't do this alone, you need professional help. Xx

JMcB · 07/12/2024 21:06

Hi,
Fussy is very good as it 'eats' sweat. I'm going onto the bicarb free version as I get a slight reaction with the normal stuff. Hope you find a solution.

LigamentBandy · 07/12/2024 20:55

Doesn't do well on reviews

To be miserable about how badly i smell?