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To be miserable about how badly i smell?

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fireworksinthesky3 · 06/12/2024 00:57

Hey

name changed but longtime poster

really hoping this post resonates with someone and I can get some advice or help 🤞

bit of an embarrassing problem but I smell really badly and don’t know what to do. I’ve tried everything I can possibly think of to fix it and it’s not helped. I’ve heard of things like fish odour syndrome but I don’t think it’s that because I don’t smell of fish- I just smell really musty/BO. It’s genuinely making me so depressed- I’m only 26 and I’m so embarrassed and miserable about it. I’ll post below everything I’ve tried

  • I shower every single day without fail, I tried showering twice a day but it made no difference whatsoever. At first I smell fine, then after a few hours I smell musty/BO/as if I haven’t even showered in days
  • I’ve tried every single combination of deoderant/antipersperant I could access. Mitchum was highly recommended but wasn’t any help disappointingly, in fact I think I smelled worse with it. Right now I’m using dove stick which is bearable but not great either. As I said above- fine at first, then after a few hours I smell again , badly enough to be noticeable by other people
  • I’ve tried every shower gel, scrub, body wash, lotion, soap (bar and liquid), even tried using dettol soap- no difference. I shave every 2nd day.
  • i wash my hair every 2-3 days, I change my bedding every week without fail
  • i wondered if it was possibly my clothes which smelled rather than me so I got rid of EVERYTHING, and started all over again (new underwear, new pjs, completely new clothes etc) but same problem literally no difference

the only thing I can think of that I haven’t tried is the Driclor range which I’m going to try and I’m praying it works. I’ve always had this problem- I remember being so embarrassed about it as a teenager. It’s definitely not something I’m just paranoid about either- I’ve asked my friends / family to be completely honest with me and they’ve agreed with me. I don’t have any hormonal problems and sweat like a normal person as far as I’m aware but for some reason I just smell so much quicker than the average person

does anyone have any tips or product recommendations I could try (in case driclor doesn’t work)?

sorry for the long post, I’m just so down about it x

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KittenOnTheTable · 06/12/2024 07:06

Do you eat alot of one thing in particular? Could be something your eating

VestaTilley · 06/12/2024 07:03

Only wear natural fabrics - so cotton, wool - no polyester or other acrylic fabrics.

Make sure you wash your clothes with biological (not non bio) powder or washing tablets, then make sure they’re thoroughly dried and don’t smell musty when you put them away. Do you have an outdoor clothes line and/or a tumble drier?

If you think it’s you, not the clothes, maybe see your GP?

howsthehair · 06/12/2024 06:59

Hot wash (over 40, ideally 60)

I would wash my hair more often and likely change sheets more often if I'd noticed a smell.

Antibacterial soap with an exfoliating mitt

The natural deodorant company, stopped me smelling entirely when k smelt during breastfeeding

bebopalula111 · 06/12/2024 06:59

Do you have a milk or dairy allergy?
My daughter was really bad as a toddler for smelling of bo despite being bathed regularly.
After researching lots this was the conclusion.

If not then it could be something diet related, maybe try get one of those allergy testing done via Groupon

EachpeachpearplumIspytomthumb · 06/12/2024 06:54

Sorry I haven’t read the whole thread. What is your diet like? The older I’m getting, the more I’m releasing that our diet really can contribute to or cause a lot of health conductions. Just a thought…! Do you eat a lot of UPF? Or is it mainly whole foods etc.

Pat888 · 06/12/2024 06:52

I would think drinking lots of water could only help. What exercise do you take - brisk walking or even a run. Get your blood pumping and some deep breathing - it would make me feel I was clearing my system. Home for a nice shower.

MocktailMe · 06/12/2024 06:51

Do you still smell if you are naked?

Try staying nude after washing on a day off - see if the same smell appears. If it does, you know it's you, not your clothes. If not, it's a laundry issue of some kind!

Sziasztok · 06/12/2024 06:48

I wash my underarms and feet with Hibiscrub. It makes a huge difference, particularly to the feet. Also, as others have said, check to see if it’s a sinus or ear infection.

WinchSparkle80 · 06/12/2024 06:46

The clothes you buy from New Look, River Island etc might be the problem. They often are polyester and that can really make Under arms smell and often trapped in fabrics even after washing.
You basically need cotton everything- Primark do cotton u just have to check.

I have to only buy cotton and wool now as noticed this in myself.

LostittoBostik · 06/12/2024 06:46

I know this is tricky when you're young and you might not have much spare cash but I bet it is the materials you're wearing. You are mentioning cheaper brands that use a lot of man made materials. Some of them are impossible to get a smell out of once it's in unless you wash a t 90 which can destroy them. They also make you perspire more easily because your skin can't breathe at all.

You might have to only wear cotton, silk, linen and wool. This is expensive but it will make a massive difference. I'm I perimenopause now and have started to smell more and some of my old clothes I simply can't wear without stinking halfway through the day.

Also don't use gel in your washing machine - always use powder, plus a strong fabric conditioner to bring a nice scent.

Do see your GP. They can definitely help you work out what's going on.

Squeezetheday · 06/12/2024 06:43

Vanillabourbon · 06/12/2024 05:22

Try Fussy deodorant. It's a natural deodorant with prebiotics. It doesn't stop you sweating but it does stop any smell. I stress sweat and it's the only thing that has ever worked for me. I've used it for over a year now and never had an issue since.

Was also going to suggest this, I had issues with sweating and smelling when I was on my period and since I’ve used fussy I’ve not had these problems

Superhansrantowindsor · 06/12/2024 06:42

I reckon it’s your clothes and how they are washed and dried. I use biological liquid. Don’t leave the clothes in the machine. Hang up. We don’t have a drier so have to hang in the house. But I have to make sure they are spread out as much as possible. You could experiment by wearing no clothes all day when you don’t have to go out and see anyone. See if you smell by the end of the day.

Jewel1968 · 06/12/2024 06:39

Couple of questions:

Is it just your armpits?

What have friends and family said? You say they agree with you but what specifically say? Do they say you smell unpleasant?

How bad does it get if you don't wash e.g. when you are sick for example

Nina1013 · 06/12/2024 06:38

Is this definitely YOU that smells (naked)?

I agree with the many others who have suggested it’s your clothes and due to how they’re being washed and dried.

I have never heard of a person smelling musty before but the clothes thing….I definitely have!

Barney16 · 06/12/2024 06:36

If possible wash your clothes on a very high temp. My son's clothes often smell as you describe and do so even after they have been through a normal wash. Check the label and if possible put them in on a 60 or 90. If when the cycle is finished they still smell funny put them through again.

Are you talking any meds? That can sometimes affect how people smell.

Tristar15 · 06/12/2024 06:30

Ask for a swab for bacterial vaginosis as this can make you smell and not just from the groin area. If it’s positive you’ll get a course of antibiotics.

SqueamishHamish · 06/12/2024 06:28

Try salicylic egg soap under your arms. It kills the bacteria. You can buy this from Amazon for about £8.

DoAWheelie · 06/12/2024 06:28

Are you on any medication? My late OH's smell changed a new times as he tried different meds to treat his illness, and he said mine changed when I was on antidepressants for a while.

Loloj · 06/12/2024 06:06

Check all your clothes care labels and see what they are made out of. Do not wear anything polyester - you may as well be wrapping yourself in a bin bag - that’s how breathable the fabric is. When I wear anything polyester/acrylic/nylon I stink within an hour! It’s annoying because most clothing retailers use these types of fabrics as they are cheaper. 100% cotton is best or wool. Viscose I find is a lot better than polyester but not as good as cotton or wool.

Stick with washing your body with soap and exfoliation but it may also be worth washing with a medical solution (the ones they give people before surgery called Chlorhexidine wash) - it will help to kill off bacteria on your skin that could be causing a problem. I’m not a medial expert but I use this to cleanse my skin occasionally when I get flare ups of boils and it seems to help.

Newyearnewnameagain20 · 06/12/2024 05:56

fireworksinthesky3 · 06/12/2024 01:08

Thanks I’ll try and answer as best as I can

i haven’t specifically been to the GP for this although I mentioned it during a consultation for something unrelated and we ended up chatting about it, they said my hormone levels are normal and it’s not concerning medically because I’m not having issues with excess sweating, I think I sweat a normal amount it just seems to smell more than normal- they said it was likely lifestyle related

usually I wash it in the washing machine and dry either outside if it’s dry or the tumble drier if not

honestly as ridiculous as it sounds I’m not sure what the fabric is haha, just whatever the normal fabric used in river island/boohoo/new look etc as I usually just get my clothes at those kinds of shops

no I’ve never tried that before but I’m going to go and google it now! X

You need to check inside your clothes for the label which tells you what the fabric is. Get rid of the synthetics like polyester and focus on cotton and will, which will let your skin breathe. Cheap fabrics will make you smell

Olive567 · 06/12/2024 05:54

Try changing and experimenting with diet. Lots of spices and garlic in my meals definitely affect my body odour.

Zanatdy · 06/12/2024 05:51

You definitely need to see the GP about it, there could be be something they can prescribe or do some tests etc. It does sound awful for you.

v60 · 06/12/2024 05:48

I’m so sorry to read this, smelling really impacts your confidence. Is it hyperhydrosis? My DH has it and the only effective things is salt rock deodorant straight after a shower so your skin is still damp. If you shave your armpits, shave them at night. Weirdly the salt rock does nothing for me, as if I’ve put nothing on. It’s worse with stress and spicy food. He sometimes uses driclor at night and that does make a difference overall but it stings. He did do the hand sanitiser for a bit, it’s pretty harsh on quite delicate skin. I wonder about hibiscrub? For clothes, I use sport detergent neat on the pits if tshirt is particularly bad or soak with bicarb or vinegar. Sometimes when the smell gets ingrained in clothes, it just doesn’t come out and sadly does need thrown. The smell just heats up when the tshirt is worn, even if the armpit itself doesn't smell. It has improved over the years if that’s any encouragement. He did consider botox for a while but is a bit squeamish. There was a drug which lessened it but it made him super thirsty which he didn’t like. Good luck, I really hope you find the root cause if it's not hyperhydrosis or some of these things work for you

ChateauMargaux · 06/12/2024 05:48

I would second the diet / detox suggestion. No sugar, no caffeine, no dairy, no gluten.. a week of bone broth and vegetable juice, plain rice grilled fish and chicken, vegetables, avoiding spices, onions, tomatoes. Lots of herbal tea te, limied fruit and no fruit juice. Helthy amount of exercise and some.epsom salt baths, showering afterwrds with soap.