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Parents are bringing the wreath in daily?

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 05/12/2024 22:09

I went to visit parents and they’ve been wringing their light up wreath in daily from the front of the house. It cost them £60 and they think someone might steal it from the most rural and quiet area ever. Aibu for telling them it’s stupid.

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Justleaveitblankthen · 06/12/2024 06:47

My house is set back with a long Drive and someone walked up and stole a Santa Stop Here sign several years ago.
Been vigilant ever since 😂

greengreyblue · 06/12/2024 06:45

Coolasfeck · 06/12/2024 06:42

Mine got stolen one year. I wa so annoyed. It wasn’t expensive but I’d customized it a bit. After that I bought a Nest doorbell.

Wouldn’t have stopped them stealing it. You’d just have footage of the hooded thief and the police wouldn’t have time or inclination to help.

greengreyblue · 06/12/2024 06:44

Bit daft to spend that much but I understand why they’d bring it in. Opportunists go around stealing pots of plants so fancy Christmas wreaths would be appealing. Could sell down the pub for £20.

Bogginsthe3rd · 06/12/2024 06:43

This is not the time for wreath lectures

Coolasfeck · 06/12/2024 06:42

Mine got stolen one year. I wa so annoyed. It wasn’t expensive but I’d customized it a bit. After that I bought a Nest doorbell.

SpeculativeHoumous · 06/12/2024 06:40

Do you judge everything they do?

HoppityBun · 06/12/2024 06:37

I think this is a great idea. I hope there’s a sense of occasion and ritual each evening.

You mother checks what time the sunset will be. As the moment approaches, your father plays his recording of the last post as he and you mother walk quietly and solemnly to the front door. Your mother stands to attention as your father opens the front door. They both look at the wreath. Your father removes it and turns to face your mother. He bows his head and she salutes. He hands her the wreath. She takes it and bows her head. They both turn to face the door and take two steps back. Your father closes and locks the door. They turn (clockwise) and walk back into the living room, where your mother places the wreath on its cushion, ready for the reverse ceremony at sunrise the next day.

Obviously, roles are reversed on alternate days.

edited for spelling

Yorkshiredolls · 06/12/2024 06:37

Well I suppose its their choice but I wouldn’t bother. I have a posh wreath but live on a nice little estate next to a fairly dodgy area. Ive used cable ties to secure it to one if those metal over-the-door hangers so I dont think its going anywhere. Someone would hve to be very determined to nick it. The ring doorbell would video them in the act too so theyd have to be pretty stupid.

SardinesOnGingerbread · 06/12/2024 06:33

Catpuss66 · 05/12/2024 23:13

My door wreath is made from razor cut flexible metal was originally to go around a light . Really sharp if the fuckers try & nick it they will cut their hands. All with the joy of Christmas. Season of giving 🎁

Love it! Merry Christmas, you filthy animals!

growinguptobreakingdown · 06/12/2024 06:23

My Halloween skeleton (£3 from Tiger) was stolen from my front door so I say bring it in.I have a wreath but I've tied it with wire to the hook and now have a ring doorbell so at least I can watch it being nicked.

48wheaties · 06/12/2024 05:10

NeverDropYourMooncup · 05/12/2024 22:29

I think it's dafter to bang out sixty notes on a ring of plastic ivy and some LEDs. However, once somebody's done that, it would be pretty silly to leave it where anybody who fancied wearing a crown on the way home from the pub or flogging it to a random for twenty quid could just lift if off the door.

For £60 it won't be plastic, but real foliage, so i can understand bringing it in.

I'm going to a wreath making workshop tomorrow. £5 for the ring and i bring my own foliage. Even then, I'd be sad if it got nicked off my door.....

tuvamoodyson · 06/12/2024 03:44

JudgeJ · 05/12/2024 22:35

'admin task', the MN version of living a normal life!

Not to mention the ‘mental load’ of having to remember this ‘admin task!’

SoMentallyDrained · 06/12/2024 00:49

Moveoverdarlin · 06/12/2024 00:06

I live rurally and not worried about it getting stolen but I have brought it in tonight as it’s getting battered to fuck in the wind and rain.

Halfway through reading this thread I've just done the same! It's sentimental as DC made it when small so I'd not forgive myself if my laziness meant we lost it to this weather!

StrongFemaleCharacter · 06/12/2024 00:30

Unhook wreath from door, place in hallway, it's hardly onerous. I had mine nicked a while back. Walking the dog a few days later and I saw it on the door of a neighbour's house down the road. I reclaimed it.

Moonlamp · 06/12/2024 00:30

I have a friend who is a Policeman covering an area which includes a little village. He's regularly kept busy with plant pot theft, poaching and other such rural affairs.
I shall ask him about incidences of wreath wrangling when we next speak.

LBFseBrom · 06/12/2024 00:13

I get where you are coming from but you'd be surprised how often things like that go missing. Sometimes a few lively people who have had a bit to drink think it is a lark to take something like that even though they don't normally steal. A few years ago I found one on my doorstep, no idea where it came from and could only assume that somebody thought it was funny to nick the wreath from one house and leave it at another. I put it on my front wall and it went - I would like to think the owners took it but don't know.

It doesn't hurt for your parents to take it in at night so why worry.

Moveoverdarlin · 06/12/2024 00:06

I live rurally and not worried about it getting stolen but I have brought it in tonight as it’s getting battered to fuck in the wind and rain.

Onecarefulladyowner · 06/12/2024 00:04

It is funny to picture this. There's something pleasingly unfestive about the obsessive worry about it being stolen. And a wreath is quite a prickly and unwieldy thing to be bringing in every night. So YANB holly unreasonable.

Enough4me · 05/12/2024 23:59

Their wreath, their choice!

saltinesandcoffeecups · 05/12/2024 23:46

Unless they’re expecting you to bring it in every night, leave them to it!

Be confident in the fact you’ll have your own thing that someone else makes fun of and doesn’t make sense.

Pottedpalm · 05/12/2024 23:45

My parents had a large and very heavy hanging basket full of bedding plants stolen. Some fecker must have given themselves a hernia lifting it down. I replaced it as it was a present from me. Dad couldn’t lift it down to put it safe at night so he rigged up several padlocks and chains.
The following year he asked me not to do a basket as it caused him worry. That made me sad. Bastards!

MsAnnFrope · 05/12/2024 23:45

Given I have to let bastard cat do the door Hokey Cokey every evening I can’t see bringing a wreath in is very onerous. I don’t bother but stuff generally doesn’t get nicked round here, famous last words…

saraclara · 05/12/2024 23:42

Hardly an onerous task. I double lock my front door when I go to bed each night. It would take me all of ten seconds while I was there to open the door and bring in a wreath, if I had one.

That.

Given how much we all resent any parental criticism, you criticising your parents for doing something as innocuous as taking care of something they value, seems pretty mean-spirited @ThePerkyCoralPoet . Why try to make them feel shit when they're doing nothing wrong?

Nanny0gg · 05/12/2024 23:37

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 05/12/2024 22:09

I went to visit parents and they’ve been wringing their light up wreath in daily from the front of the house. It cost them £60 and they think someone might steal it from the most rural and quiet area ever. Aibu for telling them it’s stupid.

Why does it matter to you?

Dash0Cal · 05/12/2024 23:37

Shocked that people do this.

Personally I wouldn’t want the faff and I’d either take the risk or not have a wreath. But I think you should leave your parents to it, assuming they’re of sound mind and not risking life and limb.