Need a hand hold part 4

@Malbecfan now we know we’re quite close to each other, do you belong to a local choir? Mine closed after Covid.

Ooh @Apolloneuro we are kindred spirits!

Chin up @Imbluedalale . It's all part of Ex's stupid game. It sounds crazy but please just drop the rope. Don't engage with him at all.

I think you should email your DS's school to say that you are concerned that he has not been keeping up with work, and that you do not consent to any further time off. You could perhaps ask if his Head of Year could provide you with activities that you could work through with him over the holidays if you are able to see him. This has the effect of saying "I am a responsible parent who is prepared to put in the effort", without actually being rude about your Ex.

@Imbluedalale just wanted to add that if you feel another panic attack lurking, try breathing slowly in and out into a paper bag - this can really help xx

@Imbluedalale just caught up now that my working week is (sort of) over

I have you are feeling a little better after the panic attack, really scary and in not at all surprised you had one ❤
That the ex is being a twat...why am I not shocked??

All the other lovely spoonies have, as usual, given fantastic advice.
I think, really, you have no choice but to go down the legal route, you also need to report and document all the past events -

I understand why you have desperately tried not to do this,I really do but now I think you have to start fighting the twat with all you have.
You have been as nice and as reasonable as you can be because you are a fantastic mum who what's the best for your kids....unlike him, who will do anything to hurt you, as will his family (because you are an 'outsider??)

How did you end up involved with him??

Never worry about telling us how bad you're feeling lovely, I know we all get it, we just try to hold you up with all our mundane life talk so that you havethe strength to keep going xxx

I’ve come over here to continue my flounce that I have not been asked to sing lead vocals in the band.

I know all the words and the harmonies to Angels by Robbie Williams AND I did the solo in choir when we did All I Want For Christmas.

so there. 😛

@Imbluedalale I'm here and trying not to laugh out loud on the bus at @apolloneuro on the last thread. You crack me right up 😂
I came into town to pick up a pair of boots I had on order. Got some furry Xmas pjs for my son. He said last years were too tight bless him, there's more meat on a chicken wing!

Hi Laura. I don’t want to lose you, so pleased you have made a new thread! Hope you are over your panic attack. It must of been frightening, especially when you had chest pains. Hopefully you will get some good advice from your care team tomorrow. 😘🌺