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Need a hand hold part 4

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Imbluedalale · 05/12/2024 17:02

Hi spoonies .
Welcome to season 4 xxx

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Shouldveknownbetter · 02/07/2025 19:58

@Imbluedalale I haven't commented before but I read all your threads. I'm so happy to see that you are in a much better place than you were back in January. Your home is beautiful and I'm glad you've had good news about the cancer and got the relationship with your kids back. You're amazing!

Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 19:53

nornironlady · 02/07/2025 19:44

Hello Spoonies! And welcome @bananabeau I have followed your story
It's amazing to hear from you all.
@TealPoet I've often thought of you. Hope you are well.
@PeggyMitchellsCameo I've missed you and your funny anecdotes 😁
@Imbluedalale hoping to make the trip in New Year to meet this fabulous lady who brought us all together ❤️

I cannot wait @nornironlady 🥰🍹😘xx

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nornironlady · 02/07/2025 19:44

Hello Spoonies! And welcome @bananabeau I have followed your story
It's amazing to hear from you all.
@TealPoet I've often thought of you. Hope you are well.
@PeggyMitchellsCameo I've missed you and your funny anecdotes 😁
@Imbluedalale hoping to make the trip in New Year to meet this fabulous lady who brought us all together ❤️

Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 19:25

TealPoet · 02/07/2025 19:14

You’ve come so far and worked so hard @Imbluedalale and I know I’m not the only one who’s so proud of you every single day. What people probably don’t know, though, is how much support you’ve been giving me along the way when my life has gotten really hard 💕

@bananabeau I’m so sorry you’re facing that situation and especially that media made it worse. It’s so scary that they don’t have the sense or ethics not to do that! How can we support you?

@Imbluedalale are you still writing up your story? I think today’s posts show how powerful your voice is and how much your awful experience might just save others ❤️

Hi beautiful, I was thinking of you earlier .
I’ll never forget the kindness you gave me and still do .
What you did for me when I was homeless, every time I think of it , it warms my soul.
I hope that I’m as good a friend to you as you are to me .
I have written a few chapters but then I was having my trauma therapy and ex was being difficult with what he was doing so I’m not writing at the moment although I am journaling. If I can help just one person it would mean the world xx

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Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 19:22

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 02/07/2025 19:14

I hate to bring up the ‘C’ word but seriously I’d love for @Imbluedalale to update her thread before Christmas so we can show off our spoons and generally support her.
It kept me going last year. I wasn’t having a best time and Googled ‘need a hand hold’ and it brought me here.

Thank you lovely.
It will come around sooner than we think.
You’ve been a huge support to my new life I hope you know that xx

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ChoccieCornflake · 02/07/2025 19:20

Oh Teal, I'm so sorry you are having a tough time. If there is anything I can do please let me know.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 02/07/2025 19:14

I hate to bring up the ‘C’ word but seriously I’d love for @Imbluedalale to update her thread before Christmas so we can show off our spoons and generally support her.
It kept me going last year. I wasn’t having a best time and Googled ‘need a hand hold’ and it brought me here.

TealPoet · 02/07/2025 19:14

You’ve come so far and worked so hard @Imbluedalale and I know I’m not the only one who’s so proud of you every single day. What people probably don’t know, though, is how much support you’ve been giving me along the way when my life has gotten really hard 💕

@bananabeau I’m so sorry you’re facing that situation and especially that media made it worse. It’s so scary that they don’t have the sense or ethics not to do that! How can we support you?

@Imbluedalale are you still writing up your story? I think today’s posts show how powerful your voice is and how much your awful experience might just save others ❤️

Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 19:04

Here you go …

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Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 19:03

MsJinks · 02/07/2025 18:51

@Imbluedalale- so pleased you’re doing so well - think about you, and all spoonies, when using my Xmas gift spoon (you probably won’t remember but my daughter randomly got me)
Anyway, you are officially amazing and every single good thing is officially more than deserved.

Hi @MsJinks , how are you?
I definitely remember you , I have my spoon too and smile every time I open my drawer and see it .
Thankyou for your lovely kind words . I’ll show you updates on my home xx

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Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 18:55

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 02/07/2025 18:47

@Imbluedalale You are a triumph and an inspiration!!!

Thank you lovely and thank you for being such an amazing supportive friend xx

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Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 18:54

ringmybe11 · 02/07/2025 18:45

I’m fine thank you. I’m coming to Doncaster for the races on Friday!

Oh wow that’s so close to me! Have you got your outfit sorted? Xx

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MsJinks · 02/07/2025 18:51

@Imbluedalale- so pleased you’re doing so well - think about you, and all spoonies, when using my Xmas gift spoon (you probably won’t remember but my daughter randomly got me)
Anyway, you are officially amazing and every single good thing is officially more than deserved.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 02/07/2025 18:48

@bananabeau thats a shame about your threads. I hope you are okay because you are going through an awful lot x

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 02/07/2025 18:47

@Imbluedalale You are a triumph and an inspiration!!!

ringmybe11 · 02/07/2025 18:45

Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 18:28

Hi @ringmybe11 . How are you?
Awww thank you for thinking of me . I’m doing really well thank you . Ex is engaged now to the girl he met last March .
I never in a million years thought I’d be where I am now xx

I’m fine thank you. I’m coming to Doncaster for the races on Friday!

Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 18:36

bananabeau · 02/07/2025 18:19

I had to delete my previous posts unfortunately as the media got a hold of them and they were extremely outing. I was loving the support from MN’ers but i was too scared to post again.

I love the thought of your WhatsApp idea, I had a lot of support and we had your version of the spoonies. My post was the pot noodle wankers.

I would love to have a gang like yours. I’m so glad your health is better and you have your girl. I pray things get better with your sons xx

Awww no that’s not good . Stupid media .
My ex makes me seeing the boys extremely difficult . He won’t let younger come unless he gets a taxi and it’s £25 each way so £50 every time he comes here . And he won’t let me see them on special occasions and takes him out of school a lot but I’m not ever going to let him see a reaction from me . I haven’t spoken to him since the day he made me homeless .
You should make a wattsapp group , people can pm you there number so it’s not outing .
If there’s anything I can do please let me know xx

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Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 18:28

ringmybe11 · 02/07/2025 18:01

@Imbluedalalei literally thought about you yesterday hoping you were still doing well. You are absolutely proof that even when you think there’s no hope, there is! I hope @bananabeaucan channel some of your strength and do what needs to be done

Hi @ringmybe11 . How are you?
Awww thank you for thinking of me . I’m doing really well thank you . Ex is engaged now to the girl he met last March .
I never in a million years thought I’d be where I am now xx

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bananabeau · 02/07/2025 18:19

I had to delete my previous posts unfortunately as the media got a hold of them and they were extremely outing. I was loving the support from MN’ers but i was too scared to post again.

I love the thought of your WhatsApp idea, I had a lot of support and we had your version of the spoonies. My post was the pot noodle wankers.

I would love to have a gang like yours. I’m so glad your health is better and you have your girl. I pray things get better with your sons xx

ringmybe11 · 02/07/2025 18:01

@Imbluedalalei literally thought about you yesterday hoping you were still doing well. You are absolutely proof that even when you think there’s no hope, there is! I hope @bananabeaucan channel some of your strength and do what needs to be done

Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 17:58

Mindymomo · 02/07/2025 17:51

Good to get an update, I’ve thought about you often and am really pleased life is going as well as can be. Happy belated Birthday.🎁

Awww thank you lovely , that’s so kind and thank you for thinking of me .
I wouldn’t have got to the place I am without the support of all the people on this thread . You all saved my life xx

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Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 17:57

ChoccieCornflake · 02/07/2025 17:44

Happy belated birthday!!!!!

Thank you lovely . Hope you are ok . My sister took me to the Ivy for lunch , I tried sushi. I didn’t like it xx

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Mindymomo · 02/07/2025 17:51

Good to get an update, I’ve thought about you often and am really pleased life is going as well as can be. Happy belated Birthday.🎁

ChoccieCornflake · 02/07/2025 17:44

Happy belated birthday!!!!!

Imbluedalale · 02/07/2025 17:38

bananabeau · 02/07/2025 16:38

@Imbluedalale ive just read all of your posts in the past two days. Another mumsnetter sent me here to prove that my life can get better if I leave.

I have laughed, cried, laughed some more. Was full of anxiety every time one of your threads was coming to an end thinking I wouldn’t find out what happened next.

Please know you’re an inspiration to me. I hope you are happy and at peace. I hope your relationship with your kids has got to a better place. I hope your health has improved.

I will think of your story often, I really wish you the best ❤️❤️

Hi @bananabeau . First of all thank you for reading my threads and for your lovely kind words . I’m in tears reading your post , thank you .
I’m currently sat in my garden in my new home and I feel so so different now compared to last year .
It was my 41st birthday yesterday and when the clock struck midnight I got all emotional thinking what a difference a year makes .
I’ve got a home , so many new friends , my mum and dad back and most importantly my relationship with my children is the best it’s ever been .
I feel happy, at peace and positive . Don’t get me wrong I still have bad days but they are few and far between now .
My boys don’t live with me unfortunately, my youngest is meant to be with me 50/50 but my ex is making that very difficult but I see them as much as I can and every second I’m with them I cherish it and it’s very special . My daughter lives with me and our relationship has gotten so so much better . She’s still a typical teenager but she tells me I’m her best friend and we talk more and helping each other as much as we can .
Unfortunately ex won’t have contact with her , see or speak to her since she can’t to live with me.
Have you got a link for your thread? I’d like to read it if that’s ok?
Leaving , well not leaving but being kicked out was the best thing my ex ever did for me because I have got to live again, feel peace and smiling . I forgot what it felt like to smile. I’m happy for you to have my number if you’d like and will support you in any which way I can .
Oh also I’m in remission with my cancer , I truly believe that was helped by me getting away from him. My mental health is so much better too, I’m having trauma therapy which is hard but I know it will help in the long run.
Sending you a big big hug beautiful xx

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