Need a hand hold part 4

She certainly has brought together some incredible individuals. Makes you truly appreciate the good people in life!

hope you’ve enjoyed your trip to M&S today @Imbluedalale xxx

Oh bless you @Giraffe888. I can’t believe what a lovely group of people @Imbluedalale has gathered.

@TealPoet would you be to up for moving to a WhatsApp group? I don’t think we’ll ever forget the incredible kindness you showed to Laura all those months ago xx

Are you still in the Weston park city now? As that’s where I live xx

awwww how lovely of you to go out and do that for your sons girlfriend. It’s a tricky position for you to be in as you’re obviously upset at what he’s done and don’t condone it but you clearly like her too!

lovely that they both came back to yours and I bet it was nice to have some company.

I’ve been off work this afternoon so my friend came for coffee. My DD still isn’t very well so she’s not been herself all day again. Xx

Sorry I’ve been absent again everyone. I’m really struggling with my health, and like @Apolloneuro I’m finding MN really stressful and not somewhere I want to be apart from this thread. And again I never get alerts for some reason even though they’re switched on!

Laura @Imbluedalale I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much these past few days and I didn’t know 😰 You’re amazing for supporting your DS so well and still making clear to his GF that you don’t condone what he did - that’s such a hard line to tread! And like others, I think it’s huge that the older two keep coming to you for help. You’re obviously handling them just right. Now what can we do to help you fight for the youngest?

I can’t imagine how traumatic the flashback must have been. Of course ex blamed you for everything - he had a pattern that whatever you did was wrong. But actually he was the one behind it all! What a vile thing - he doesn’t deserve to be called a man!

Evening @AdmittowearingCrocs , how are you today?
I’m like you and love having a lay in although the digging into hell has put a stop to that this week.
I didn’t let exs mum ruin my time with my daughter and was blasé about it . Oh isn’t that a good word ‘blasé’ .
My leg is feeling a lot better thank you , still hobbling on crutches but it looks like it’s healing well. I get my stitches taken out on Monday .
I’ve had a lovely afternoon with my mum and dad . Also I got an Eton mess cream doughnut . Well I’ll have to have it now with it being fresh cream so it’s not my fault that I have 2 cakes in a day is it?
Xx

Morning Laura and all Spoonies, I’m a bit of a night owl so up later this morning. When I was working I had to make myself go to bed at 10 pm as I had to get up at 5.45 am in order to get ready and drive to work to start at 8.00am. I have now reverted back to my natural rhythm of late nights and mornings and I don’t feel guilty at all. Does take me a while to get moving though 🤭
Laura, glad your daughter stayed last night. Getting eye rolls from her is the privilege of being her mum and the person she has chosen to spend time with. Just remember that the phone calls from her gran (ex’s mother) are because she is jealous your daughter is with you so enjoy being a thorn in her side as there is nothing she can do.
The text from your son is lovely , such a change from how he was before.
Enjoy your M&S lunch, it will be so good for you to get out. Hope your leg is feeling better?
@RaspberryBeretxx the pendant your son has bought for his girlfriend is beautiful.
@Apolloneuro hoping you you are feeling better and looking forward to Christmas?
@MsJinks make the most of cuddles with your new grandchild, they grow so quickly.
@nornironlady it’s lovely that your son is so excited for his scooter, he will have fun with his friend. My lot used to wake me up really early and because I was on my own I had to get up. But I loved seeing their little faces full of excitement. Hope it goes well with the education psychologist.
@PeggyMitchellsCameo glad you are feeling better and got it out of the way before Christmas.

Hi again - glad other posters remembered teens are horrific and can be horrible - I’d forgotten what a terror I was and even my nicest most compliant child was - so much so that I dreaded the return of the teens with my younger 2 much, much more than the return of nappies! It is however very clear your kids also recognise that it’s you who loves, cares and is there for them - it will all be good as they return to being human beings Laura.
I do indeed live in Sheff - proud of being a Yorkshire lass (mostly!) I grew up and married here but went to a Derbyshire village after first marriage broke down - this was temporary exile in my head but lasted 28 years partly due to another ridiculous marriage- least I have my 4 daughters and now 4 grandchildren and though all bar one child stayed there when I returned it’s still close enough for cuddles - and babysitting!
I never know why Xmas sneaks up on me - one week is not enough time left - rewatching or watching missed Brookside is helping wrap the presents - I still like Barry 🙈🤣🤣

To answer a few questions:
@Apolloneuro I will wear my bright pink raincoat that I got from Dingles closing down sale. Not sure which spoon to bring as I am a bit boring that way.

@Imbluedalale a thought. Can you re-frame the flashbacks in some way as steps on the road? A bit like in labour, each contraction is a step closer to meeting your baby, each flashback is a step further away from the monster ex, but something you have to go through to achieve freedom and serenity.

Sorry if this doesn't make much sense. I walked the 2 miles to and from the shop to get mu dad's paper. There are no pavements, it's quite muddy and there were so many idiots trying to mow me down, and I'm still shattered. I need to clean my flea pit of a house too.

Enjoy your day everyone!

@Apolloneuro my son is 10. We've got the Educational Psychologist due out today to discuss his school avoidance and while I'm not holding out any hope, I will continue to engage and keep trying to get him back in if only for a few hours a day.
@RaspberryBeretxx I don't often sleep in but what I don't like so much is everyone else in the house being up with me! My son has a friend a few doors away, there's 2 weeks between them in age and he is also getting the same scooter so they will probably be doing laps of the road by 6.15am!

Morning. I was just thinking yesterday we hadn’t seen you for a while @PeggyMitchellsCameo. I hope you’re feeling better. Good to get it over with before Xmas. I guess we all gather together a bit more at this time of year and share bugs.

@MsJinks a new grandchild! That’s about the best present anyone could wish for. Are they near you, so you can have lots of cuddles. How’s the new mum? Is it your daughter or DiL?

@nornironlady i bet you can’t wait to see his little face when he sees that scooter! I’m not I know how old he is?

Hi to spoonies not seen yet today @AdmittowearingCrocs @BeNavyCrab @RaspberryBeretxx @Giraffe888 @Munchyseeds2 @TealPoet et all.

Have we seen @ChoccieCornflake recently?

Go on and make the workers a drink, @Imbluedalale 😀 Bloody love the M&S cafe and food hall. Have fun. Reminds me I’ve got some M&S mince pies in the cupboard. Must have one today.

Oh dear. No Mr Grey?! No cookies for them today until they can bring some eye candy 😂.

What a lovely text from your son. I'm so glad you got to see your daughter as well despite the huffing (which sounds totally normal for a 17 yo! I'm sure I was the same...). I hope that when your younger son gets home, your older 2 will help him back to you. It must be hard for him to know what to think just now when he's isolated by his Dad.

Enjoy your M&S lunch, is your daughter at college today or is she coming with you? That sounds good to get out.

My DS got this for his gf: https://prya.co.uk/products/juliet-rose-necklace?_pos=1&_sid=bbb05f3e0&_ss=r&variant=20715961679926 It has pretty good reviews so hopefully it's a good choice (and arrives in time!). I then had a look around that site and now want a necklace with my initial and birth stone!

Morning all the spoonies. Hope you're all well. It's so windy out there!

Hope you're feeling a bit better today @Apolloneuro .

@MsJinks many congrats on your new grandchild. What a lovely early Christmas present 😍.

@nornironlady I love how excited your son is about his scooter and getting up early! Sounds like you won't get much of a lie in on Christmas day 😄.

Glad you're on the mend, @PeggyMitchellsCameo . I love the sound of the fortnum and masons tea caddy decoration.