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My friends social media use is annoying

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Looneymahooney · 05/12/2024 15:48

My longest and bestest friend is a lovely woman, and I really value her friendship. In person, she is great to be around... I don't see her too often as she lives further away from me now. We voicenote all the time, and I obviously follow her on all SM.

The thing is, I can not stand her social media posts. Mostly on Instagram. She is constantly posting and subtley trying to show off. I feel I know this because I've known her so long and can read her well.

Some examples are:

She now lives in a large city, and nearly every post seems to hint or mention this city. I think she thinks she lives in a superior place, and the rest of us are farmers or something (obviously, she doesn't literally think this, but it's that kind of attitude)

She writes long, drawn-out posts about her MH. The other day, she posted a video of herself using a facial product and how this was her battling her MH.

She also tells me all about her dating life, which never seems to work out. Most guys will date her for a couple of weeks and then end it. She then posts loads on social media, and I just know it's to try and get the person she was datings attention (i think this is partially what might put them off in the first place).

She also likes to emphasise her middle- class ness (if that's such a thing). And it all seems so snobby.

What really annoys me is when she goes on the odd occasion to an art gallery (she isn't overly cultured), and she'll be posting all these photos of art on social media. She doesn't know a damn thing about art (I studied this area at uni - not that social media would know this)

There are so many other examples. Basically, it absolutely does my nut in, and sometimes I just want to come out and say what I think of it all.

I never do, though, and I am probably BU. Maybe I just needed to vent this here. I feel like if she didn't go on like this online, people she dates would also stick around more. But I couldn't tell her this... she's a very 'shoot the messager' kind of person.

I guess the best option is to mute her, but she'd definitely notice if I stopped watching all her posts, etc...

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TTPDTS · 05/12/2024 15:52

I dislike art snobs more than people who flex on social media 😂

I know you said that you like her in person but it's really not coming across that way! But if you're sure you do, mute her. Just say you're taking a break from social media etc? Or perhaps take a break from it? It sounds like she's using it for its invented purpose after all.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 05/12/2024 15:51

Just back away. Engage with her output less and less.

GridlockonMain · 05/12/2024 15:51

Mute her anyway. If she questions it (which I honestly think is unlikely to happen) say you’ve reduced your own social media use for your mental health.

Life is far too short to watch content online which drives you mad and risks interfering with a real life friendship with someone you like!

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