To think WFH means I am WORKING

As we all know or hear of those 'WFH' taking the piss, it seems that anyone doing it is suspect. Shame if honest and responsible workers are tarred with the same brush though.

He thinks this cos he is a man and 75% of them are idiots!!!

Fuck me, 6 minute billing, this is why consultants and lawyers get paid stupid money!

Yes

Are you a lawyer or something??

I'm pretty sure that thread was filled with trolls tbh.

We have to record all our work in 6 minutes units. It must be hugely obvious to our employer that nearly everyone is significantly more productive at home. My chargeable hours are much higher on the days I am at home

I love being in the office because I like the social side of work. But it is impossible to focus on anything complex and there are constant interruptions

I think that's definitely something. It's obviously far more convenient for many, and the working day looks very different for some.

To be fair most of the wfh threads are about how great it is for chores, picking up the kids and getting all your jobs done.

Yes, very clear why so many organisations are having to mandate return to office several days a week.

I love the idea of getting a sign for the door for working from home.
I have the same on the rare occasion i work from home... constant interruptions.
Tbh the library is a good shout and i might try it myself :)
Plus saves putting the heating on :)

If there is an office maybe you could do some office days just so that the responsibility gets shared again esp with pick ups and drop offs.

Is he genuinely too sick to look after her? Or is he bloke sick? In my experience women just get on with it and in the same circumstances men don't. Dressing gown of doom. If he's too sick then you would need to take the time off or call in a favour. On the day that he's home with her go to a cafe with good WiFi or the library and your headphones.

That would drive mad OP! Being remote does mean I do things like stick a laundry load on, move it to the drier, walk dog etc I spend a lot less time away from my computer than I ever did in the office… not to mention I open my laptop at 6.30am 3 days a week, and the other two go for an early run but am ready to go at my desk still by 8/8.30am…

I have 3 kids under 6, most days WFH while doing 3 x school runs and making lunch/dinner/washing etc. The only way out is to be super efficient and organised, which I've learnt the hard way, otherwise it all gets on top. When I get up, first thing I do before coffee is put a wash on, that way I know it's in and isn't coming out! Every evening plan the next days meal so I defrost meat or whatever. It's not easy and parents have to work together when both working. When my husband is WFH he does school runs and helps out with baby.

You can also possibly point him at work policies. Ours is that if you wfh you can't be doing childcare !

It’s not because you WFH that he acts like that. It’s because he has a penis and you don’t.

@Itissunnysomewhere Of course it is superficial. That is exactly my point. Men have traditionally been respected because they head out to their ‘big, important’ office in a suit. Staying at home is what women did and is not respected. My inlaws are still completely convinced that their son is the main breadwinner in the family even though my SIL has always earned far more than him (and they have been told this). It is because he goes out to work and she has worked from home.

He is a joke. Jesus. He works in retail, it’s shit pay a thankless but hardly the most taxing job in the world. He’s clearly threatened by your new role and is belittling it at every turn.

I think you have to be really firm on your boundaries. If you flex at all, H will think that you can, and thus that it's OK for him to keep asking. It has to be a hard no from you, every time.
I would be quite sharp and bordering on rude to anyone who suggested that I jeopardise my job. Your only response has to be " Of course not, I'm working."
Putting on the dishwasher is one thing, (on days when you do have time, not as an expected thing) because it takes 5 minutes. Childcare is quite different. If he can't look after DC because he is so ill, he needs to arrange alternative care.
That's the thing with childcare, you don't get a day off because you've got a cold. If it's your own child, you just stagger on, unless you actually can't, eg broken back or something similar, that might require hospitalisation.
You need to treat WFH like you would an office job. If you don't, he won't.

If you're all sick I'd have been tempted to call in too and then both look after her, as you're both sick, but I'm petty!

Do you think he really doesn't think you work or do you think he's feeling guilty about the imbalance so to aswage that guilt he's minimizing what you do so he doesn't have to feel bad about the fact he's no longer pulling his wait?

Or do you think he's jealous of his lack of flexibility and the commute etc? And just being petty.

I'd definitely speak to him about the imbalance the fact you're going to not be working from home on his Thursday because of his attitude and your productivity is being reduced by all the interruptions. But, more than that if you lose your job, and lose the flexibility you'll be expecting him to pick up more of the slack as it's completely avoidable and jobs loke this are like gold dust and that's he's not being a team player, and you need a partner not someone you're having to justify yourself to constantly.

Good luck!

And yet the work I do is just as complex and just as serious. In fact I save the really complex drafting and research for days when I am working at home. In the office it is far harder to focus for a sustained period.

It's rather superficial to think an outfit affects the seriousness of the job. Some of the best lawyers I know are the least well dressed. Some of the snappiest dressers were utterly negligent lawyers

Yanbu. I work from home and rarely even get a chance to take a lunch break! I feel guilty stopping to make a drink or nip the loo. I feel really grateful for the trust placed in me and don't want to abuse it

What’s the point of him? Sounds like you’re doing everything and it’s be easier without him sabotaging you!

My colleague created loads of jobs for her DH to do when he was working from home full time. She did it because she didn’t want him to be constantly in the house. He was there when she left for work, he was there when she got home and he was there on her half day. He now goes into the office 2 days a week and that seems to make everyone happier. Maybe your husband is doing something similar(not saying it is right btw).

I also think one of the reasons people have always respected workers is because they head out to a ‘big, important’ offices. Hunched over a computer in the spare room wearing a Oodie doesn’t give off the same vibes.

Well it works both ways how many times on here are women complaining about men on here working from home? And not doing what they demand

'I am having a day off he needs to go in to the office' has to be up there

My DM is the same. My Dsis has days when she is on call and can do what she likes as long as she doesn't drink or go 10 miles or further away. My DM thinks WFH days are like this and is always asking me to take her places on 'my day off'.
I say I can only help her within my dinner hour as I can get a call on teams from any colleague at any time and most will involve sharing screens.
I do enjoy the extra time to do housework or have a bath in the 2 hours saved from commuting though!